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a blog where I can disagree with people and possibly be controversial without my main being nuked, not because I don't want to post it on main

[spiky-observer-asylum]

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Let's get a few things straight, I'm against: nazis, racism, facists, pedos, homophobes, transphobes, zoophiles, TERFs, TIRFs

Also transandrophobia is real‼️‼️‼️

[sapphic-boy]

ppl say shit like "dont transition or you'll become a disgusting evil angry violent man" is "just transphobia" and not transandrophobia, yet i feel it'd be pretty hard to find someone who feels a sentiment like "dont transition or you'll become a weak pathetic stupid girl" is also "just transphobia" and not transmisogyny

[asterosian]

Let’s all light a candle and pour one out for all the trans men who never got to figure out they’re men because they were raised to believe they couldn’t ever be anything other than a wife and a mother and if they ever left the church that all their friends and family go to then they’ll burn in hell for all of eternity. May the names engraved on their tombstones fade to nothing and the dresses they were buried in disintegrate.

[asterosian]

Can we collectively agree that it’s a requirement to understand the difference between actively misogynistic statements and a trans guy talking about his gender dysphoria/euphoria before you’re allowed to call a trans guy a misogynist?

Cause I don’t trust you to correctly say when a trans guy said something actually hurtful towards women if you think “I hate having boobs and I want mine gone” or “wearing men’s clothes and taking T has made me feel more confident and just generally good” are evidence of a trans man beingl, idk, secretly an Andrew Tate dick rider incel who wants all women to be either housewives or sex slaves or what the fuck ever.

[most-definitely-human]

Or like "this guy is a misogynist who speaks over women," and when you look, he just mentioned once that restrictions to abortion affect him too and defining it as exclusively a women's issue makes access harder even in places where cis women don't have an issue.

[solar-plant-princess]

Miss me with that repackaged radfem shit about “TMEs” and “TMAs”

I love my trans brothers and non-binary siblings in arms, and recognize their unique and equally valid struggles. And also don’t give into the delusions that trans women are somehow exempt from being prejudiced or problematic. Because I actually understand intersectionality, an apparent rarity among the people who are so quick to image themselves devoid of any and all privilege because they believe it’s a moral deficiency to have it. And are just as quick to use that to elevate themselves above any accountability or blame for any problems ever.

This divisive “discourse” is disgusting and embarrassing for everyone involved. Seriously for self-described enlightened thinkers they're dropping the ball on basic Feminism 101 concepts, like how everyone *including men* and *especially trans men* suffer under and are oppressed by the patriarchy too. And that the patriarchy is not remotely the same thing as masculinity, but the systemic pressures of the social system which actively punish not just femininity but any masculinity that attempts to deviate from the dominant and oppressive version that it pressures men to replicate.

-Sincerely a Trans Woman who is beyond sick of this shit, and thinks y’all need to touch grass and brush up on actual feminism

[ocean-breeze-pier]

[ocean-breeze-pier]

I’m so sick of the trans man privilege conversation because it lacks intersectionality as these conversations always do. I’m disabled in terms of physical issues as well as due to neurodivergence and people with their whole chests will tell me about all of this privilege I supposedly have while I’m struggling to find doctors that take me seriously. While I’m living in a body that makes existing painful and difficult. In fact, I can’t transition like how I want to because of health issues. I can’t bind anymore because of rib issues. I can’t even present how I want anymore because of my issues surrounding chronic fatigue and sensory issues.

There is such a huge interplay between disability and transness but you lot would rather scream at trans men about how privileged they are than fucking listen. Full stop an able bodied person telling me (a disabled person) how much privilege I have over them is never not going to be ridiculous to me. It’s just so insulting to be told how privileged I am when my entire life has been one fucking struggle after another. And this isn’t even mentioning the abuse I’ve faced both for being trans and for other reasons.

[thepinkpestilence]

terfs: "You dont GET IT! since we live in a patriarchal society it means that EVERY man is responsible for upholding it and is therefore the root of ALL EVIL!! And since men are dangerous that ALSO makes masculinity inherently violent!!"

transmascs and butches:

[strawhatmasc]

A lot of the strange micro hypotheticals people come up with to claim trans mascs / men are privileged are starting to feel a bit...

"If two guys were on the moon and one hit the other with a rock wouldn't that be fucked up?"

Yes indeed! That statistically unlikely thing you just created would be fucked up, that's true.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

The fact that people rip on me for giving more of a shit about trans men/mascs and their rights because I am married to one, and therefore feel more strongly about the issue baffles me.

I'm sorry that you're so lonely that you don't have anyone in your life that you love so much that you feel the burning desire to advocate for the safety and comfort of them and others like them.

But don't make that into the problems of others, and don't turn that loneliness into hate and spite like so many people who rail against "transandrobros" do.

[nattitopher]

Friendly reminder to all the people using TMA/TME or any other false binary.

[spiky-observer-asylum]

also men are men, women are women, if you hear women talking about how the men in their lives have hurt them & immediately decide to make it about yourself, then you are a misogynist. "wait but trans" no, trans men are Men, trans women are Women, it is not complicated and there is no insisting otherwise (ESPECIALLY NOT ON THE BASIS OF EITHER GROUP BEING TRANS? TRANSPHOBE?). men have systemic power over women even when they are otherwise oppressed, this is feminism 101, crack a fucking book oh my god

1. Never do i make it about myself when I hear things like that.

2. Are you saying I'm a transphobe???

3. Sorry to break it to you, but like what systematic power do I have as a trans man if society does not see or treat me as such, turns out that is 0.

[kovudoge]

hello popular transfem blogger. right in front of you is a computer and next to you is a seemingly innocuous mailbox. on the computer is a meme post that involves someone being in a conversation and giving their thoughts on something. you must reblog this post, but if you mention transmascs, "tme" people, or nonbinary people, the pipe bomb hidden in the seemingly innocuous mailbox will explode, sending mailbox shards to your face. live or die. the choice is yours

[midnight-soulless-system]

I get the intention, but please don't act as if only popular transfen bloggers do this. I would say it's more popular blog that blogs about trans rights.

[kovudoge]

I'm posting this because a good chunk of popular transfem bloggers post this kind of stuff. A lot of them post whatever, not just stuff about trans rights. They are the noisiest about it because they have all the reach they do.

And regarding the tags, how is this transmisogynistic? That is literally the argument this post is about. Fuck off.

[hi-fi-planetoid]

We genuinely need to start treating transradfems on the same level we do TERFS. Idgaf if they're trans, they cannot be getting away with the shit they're doing.

I think it can also get counter productive to focus on the fact that they're trans anyway. Like anyone can get sucked into radical feminism, it's always bad, it's always racist, it's always intersexist, it's always misogynistic, it's always transphobic, it can't be reclaimed.

I think it's important to point out that there is a radfem bubble within the trans community just to simply address that it's not a cis exclusive ideology. Similarly to how there are TERF bubbles in cis lesbian communities, we don't isolate it as a lesbian ideology, it's all the same shit regardless of who's spreading it.

That's how we ended up with a cis man spreading the same hate speech and propaganda, because it just comes from adopting a harmful and hateful ideology and then using a surface level proximity to trans allyship to absolve themselves of the capability to perpetuate harm against other marginalized people. Lateral aggression doesn't work like that, anyone can perpetuate harmful mindsets against another group (or a different part the same group), the bigotry TERFS show towards trans people has shown us that it doesn't work like that for decades.

Cis TERFS had warped women's rights into a bludgeoning tool against trans people and then hid behind a surface level claim of progressivism coupled with misogynistic sentiments that women cannot perpetuate harm through being the "inherently more virtuous gender"; this has always caused immense amounts of harm. Changing the identity of the person perpetuating it does not change the base level hateful, restricting, gender essentialist framework of radical feminism.

Bigoted cis men consistently team up with cis terfs, and it's not because they care about women's rights, just the opposite; but radical feminism serves them because it is ultimately a conservative ideology.

Just keep calling it for what it is.

[spiky-observer-asylum]

Okay I don't mean this in a rude way English just isn't my first language

What is transandrophobia? I haven't heard this and i was just curious

Oh don't worry you don't sound rude! It is a word that has been recently created so a lot of English speakers don't know what it is.

Transandrophobia is used in instances where people face transphobia in a specific way because they are or are assumed to be trans masc. Aka something is done or said to them not just because they are/are assumed to be trans, but because they are specifically are/are assumed to be trans masc.

Like when a trans masc comes out sometimes people will say to them "oh now I can finally hit you since you aren't a woman anymore." This is oppression that trans mascs face specifically. No one would say to a trans fem that they knew was a trans fem because saying "oh I can hit you now because you are a woman."

Sure people might learn that a trans fem is in fact a trans fem and say, because they assume they are biologically male, "oh, so you are really a man so I can hit you," which is not related to transandrophobia.

(I just wanted to point out that trans women do have that said yo them before a non related argument breaks out in the comments. Yes I added something non realeted to keep comments related.i know how insane that sounds but at this point I think that it is necessary.)

If anyone wants to add anything go ahead! If anyone thinks my explanation was bad or wrong feel free to explain why!

Saying the word is unnecessary or that transandrophobia isn't real is extremely not helpful or useful on this post. Not like it will stop anyone.

[spiky-observer-asylum]

“You’re a terf for not buying into essentialism and not saying that women can’t do anything wrong because of their divine femininity”

Bingo. Got it in one. Apparently. Smh.

[spiky-observer-asylum]

Me: makes a post talking about transandrophobia with screenshots

Tumblr most of the time: