okay but seriously, if youâve ever had a partner with a chronic illness or have one yourself youâd know that you shouldnât ever threaten a relationship because they want to follow their dream. the person with the illness THEMSELVES are the most aware of all, shiro knew what he was getting into (maybe not the abduction part) and wanted to do it while he was still in his prime. adam gave him an ultimatum between that and their relationship, and basically sent shiro away alone. i donât like adam.
Christ the people on this website are self-important.Â
Adam said in the episode that he wouldnât go through this again. Shiro had already left him for space once, maybe more than that, and was going to do that again, be he sick or not. Adam breaking up with Shiro had less to do with Adam not supporting Shiroâs dreams and more to do with the fact that Adam was scared and hurt. Heâd probably been with Shiro all through his previous missions and all through his illness and once again Shiro chose the mission over him.Â
Neither of them are bad people. Shiro wanted to keep striving for his dreams and Adam wanted him to stay safe, with him. He was afraid of losing him and no, an ultimatum probably wasnât the best decision he could have made, but he was hurt and scared.Â
Yâall are so willing to jump to the defense of people who are sick, but what about the people in their lives that suffer too? Adam didnât suffer because of Shiroâs illness, he suffered because of Shiroâs choices. As far as Adam was concerned, Shiro had already accomplished his dream. Maybe that wasnât really the case, but if they were planning on getting married, Adam was probably focused on moving forward. With whatever little time he and Shiro had left together. Only for Shiro to go on a dangerous, potentially life-threatening mission? Adam probably loves Shiro so much and just canât fucking win. First he knows he canât spend his whole life with Shiro and so pushes forward anyway, only for Shiro to make a choice that could potentially end what little time they had together? Christ, yeah, I feel bad for Adam.Â
Just because a person is sick or pursuing their dreams, doesnât mean they have an excuse to hurt other people. If Shiro kept leaving, sick or not, and Adam wasnât down for that, then he had every right to break off their relationship. They wanted different things.Â
Yes, it was messy. Yes, it was shittyâlikely on both their sides. But sometimes things are just shitty and you make shitty decisions and thatâs life. It doesnât make someone a bad person.Â
Iâve lived with people whose illnesses were unconsciously used as weapons to control the people around them. I know what itâs like to watch someone you love make decision after decision that unknowingly hurts you because they felt vindicated in their choices and so that made everything they did âokay.â Iâve made decisions in my life to strive for my dreams that have strained and hurt the relationships I had with other people, and I knew that was the price. I donât blame them. Am I annoyed they canât put aside their feelings in order to support me? Yes. But I get that when someone leaves and theyâre doing something dangerous, it hurts. And that no amount of support or self-control is going to make that feel any better.  Â
Shiro had the right to pursue his dreams and Adam had the right to disagree with it, be afraid, and even end their relationship.Â
He didnât break up with Shiro because of his illness, he broke up with him because Shiro was willingly putting himself in danger and Adam didnât want him to. He thought there was a real chance he would lose him, as did the rest of the fucking garrison. Kudos to Shiro for pushing on and Commander Holt for believing in him, but that doesnât make it any less shitty for the people left behind.Â
Shiro made a choice and while that choice wasnât wrong, it had consequences just as all choices do. One of those consequences was hurting the man he loved.Â
Accomplishing your dreams is all well and good when it doesnât threaten your well-being or anyone around you, but when it does, those people being hurt have to react and deal as well. Maybe ending things with Shiro was what was healthiest for Adamâs mental well-being. Maybe he was angry and upset and said some things he didnât mean. Maybe heâs a faulted character who was just trying desperately to keep the man he loved in his life.Â
Yâall are so fucking judgmental and see everything in black and white. Or refuse to see both sides of a complicated situation. The creators themselves said that Shiro and Adam had a long, beautiful relationship (who the fuck do you think was probably there through all of Shiroâs illness? Who the fuck do you think was with him when he was diagnosed?). And if Adam was really an asshole, I doubt Shiro would have stayed with him.Â
Odds are, Adam had been there to support Shiro in every mission heâd had before, with every complication with his illness. With everything.Â
How much heartbreak and debilitating concern is someone supposed to go through before they canât take it anymore? This wasnât a matter that Shiro had no control over. He willingly chose to put himself in danger, and be it his dream or not, Adam shouldnât be expected to bottle up his emotions and suffer. Itâd be different if Shiro had no choice, but he did, and he chose his dreams over Adam. Like, people do that every day and break up because of it. It doesnât make either of those people âbadâ people and if you think it does, your expectations of the people around you are unfair and unreasonable. Â
He didnât end things because of Shiroâs illness. He ended their relationship because he was tired of being hurt and abandoned. And while I support Shiro reaching for his dreams, I also donât blame Adam and support him in doing what he thought he had to in order to protect himself and his emotional well-being.Â
People need to get off their high horses and realize that most situations are more complicated than they appear and most people arenât terrible because of one decision, especially when that decision is made out of desperation.Â
The culture on this website is so fucking biased and disgusting, itâs incredible.Â
