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Some big news on my front! I don’t post a whole lot here usually but I am getting a new puppy in April! He’s a long haired chihuahua and will be named Tamagotchi.... He’s a stupidly sweet baby and I absolutely enjoyed meeting him and his breeder recently. This has been something I’ve been planning for ages and now he’s finally going to be a reality!

He has all his necessary supplies, BUT, I am sharing an amazon wishlist for things because it’s essentially his baby shower. I have the whole month to finish getting ready and I want everything to be as perfect as possible for when he comes home. Most of these are also things that would be handy for my older dog Frisk, as he is aging and needs more help with things like his dental care and joint supplements! But nothing on here is 100% necessary and I will still be buying a lot of these myself at some point in the near future.

>>Click here for the doggie wishlist!<<

No one is obligated to buy anything of course! I just also want to share the excitement and joy I feel about my new dog.

#void talking #dog #puppy #chihuahua #i'm so excited for my new baby guys #like he's all i think about these days #i adore him so much #i can't wait to introduce him to frisk

what sucks is i'm simultaneous in one of the best points in my life and still every day go 'i wish i could kill myself' so like. what the fuck am i even going to do with that. sigh. i dunno what the hell to do with myself.

i'll probably be ok. maybe someday. i dunno. i wish i liked fandom shit again but all of it just feels so intensely distasteful. i don't enjoy engaging with media that way anymore.

confirmance

*Mutual reblogs something you posted*

Me: They still like me. Thank God.

kazoosandfannypacks

reblog this post to let the mutual you reblogged this from know that you still like them

ahotknife

where’s that article by james frankie thomas where he says like “prior to my transition there was only one kind of sex i wanted to have. and i thought i could never have it” because i am about to blow these people’s minds

ahotknife

i found it 😌 the article was published on Slate and here’s JF’s commentary on it

ahotknife

i have gotten some very odd anons about this post that i’m choosing to ignore. but i am going to double down on this. no i don’t care if girls watch gay porn or imagine themselves as a gay person or wonder what it would be like to have gay sex. so many people imprison themselves by thinking they could never be gay and/or trans. well i’m telling them they better watch out. being gay and/or trans is real. and it could happen to YOU. as a matter of fact i sincerely hope it does

projectxa3

from Anarchopuppy

#tbh i think the intense stigma against “straight” ppl “fetishizing” queerness keeps a lot of ppl in the closet

#theres no harm in exploring those feelings in private. indulge in the fantasy and see where it takes u

#dont be a creep to other ppl obv but that goes w/o saying #if id had the courage to confront the ache id feel when i thought abt lesbian sex and how id “never be able to have it” earlier

#it wouldve saved me a lot of time

#i have never been more at home in my body than when i get to have gay sex #finally being able to fuck dudes who like dudes has made me feel like a real person #you can also have that if you want it

xaveria

noticed my coworker was on tumblr so i told them “i like your shoelaces” and they said “never say that out loud to me”

xaveria

this is the correct response btw

bloodyhandprint

sorry to anyone who followed me for anything. you're not getting that

nuclearfaggot

im asking you to stay here. i cannot tell you why, i dont have any other reason except i want to see you here. i want to see you as happy as you can be. please, do what you can to stay. to find happiness wherever you can. i know that it is selfish of my to ask this. but i’m asking you anyway. take care of yourself. if not for yourself, then for me

spicycheeser

"A marriage ending isn't a failure at all. I spent eleven years with her. We were so in love that we couldn't image life apart from each other. We got our own place, adopted a dog, and supported each other through school. I thought if tow people loved each other enough the rest would fall into place, except... love isn't everything.

And I didn't want to believe that, but we were sitting in counseling one day, talking about our future and I realized we were describing two completely different lives. Where we'd live, what kind of life we wanted, what made us happy. And it hit me that- I love this woman and this woman loved me. And after eleven years of loss, grief, career changes, we were so deeply in love... but we weren't aligned. And I kept thinking 'We just need to try harder. We can find some compromise to make this work,' because that's what you're supposed to do when you love someone, right?

But the reality was, we had just become different people. Her trade school took her in one direction, my graduate degree in another and trying to force us back into who we were five years ago wasn't coming from a place of love. It was coming from a place of fear. Fear that, if this ended, it meant we wasted eleven years. But sitting there across from her, I realized: That's not how love works.

Those eleven years happened. They were real. The dog, our home, showing up for each other through grad school and trade school. I wouldn't change a single thing because loving someone doesn't mean you're meant to stay with them forever. And letting go doesn't erase what you had. We measure marriage by whether it lasts forever or not, but what if we measured it by whether it mattered?

What if we measured it by the love we gave, the life we built, and the people we became? Because love's job isn't to last forever, it's to help you become fully completely yourself, and sometimes the most loving thing you can do is give each other permission to be yourselves, separately. But the dog doesn't know were' divorced. He just gets two Christmases now."

Pulled this from this guy Preston Rakovsky's Instagram (@prestonrack) because it is a beautiful perspective on love, marriage, and relationships in general.

cofirot-deactivated20230307

reblog to give somebody a fucking hug because we are all struggling to get through it. solidarity in this tough ass world.

homoquartz

i’ve warmed up significantly towards the concept of small talk ever since i learned that its sole purpose is to make friendly noises.

as long as you smile and nod, people are satisfied. it’s just to show that you are nice and there with good intentions. we’re small in a big world and have to rely on other people to be decent to us. so we do our little human dance to each other to say, “i’m not here to hurt you. here’s something we have in common, like the weather or sports or itchy sweaters, so we both know we’re on the same team. we both agree on a basic fact, like that it is rainy or that being itchy is uncomfortable, and this proves we can get along. i’m being light-hearted and non-threatening right now.”

small talk isn’t to get to know a person. it’s just a greeting to affirm you’re buddies in the universe.

i am motivated by wanting the other person to know i am friendly, so i have gotten pretty decent at small talk when i used to hate it.

piratedgender

hiveswap

You're not immune to being the bully btw. You're not immune to being in the wrong

hiveswap

"But i'm-" there is no identity or state of being that makes you immune to hurting someone. You can be convinced that you are in the right for doing so. You can be convinced that you're defending someone by doing so. You have always got to examine if you're taking pleasure in hurting someone or if you're actually doing something good.

nirtonic

[Image text: there's actually no political label or identity that absolves you of doing harm.]

mst3kgifs

Oh, wow.

thelaughingserpent

EVERYTHING is permitted

hachama

mouthfacedickrat

unhinged-transmasc-man

True compassion and nuance is sometimes and often really fucking annoying and hard to do. And that's why it's hard. Compassion is as complex and difficult as people are. That's the point.