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PSA:

Learned helplessness is where, due to a series of negative experiences where you were/felt you were unable to escape or act, you naturally give up and relent in difficult situations. Recognising if and when you do this can give you the opportunity to change your behaviour patterns and reverse feelings of helplessness.

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I spent most of my day believing I had homework to finish and cleaning the house trying to find it. but I'm not in school anymore an I don't have homework at all. I still don't know who I am but I think I am more grounded now. Except I feel like I lost the whole day.

[sae-something]

if you cannot think about your system without spiraling into denial clap your hands!

if you’re worried that you’re faking clap you hands!

having a system is exhausting! and the future pretty daunting!

if your brain just keeps exploding clap your hands!

(this is about DID/OSDD only, diagnosed or not idc)

[star-codes]

every day this week has been a very blurry one. it's also been plauged by nightmares. I think I knew but also learned about it watching the details of the nightmares get noted down in the journal. it's been really stressful personally. except I don't know what distresses me more. the nightmares or not knowing if I'm the one even having them. -T

[unwelcome-ozian]

[gncfag-moved]

i know its been said b4 but growing up suicidal and then reaching an age you never planned to live to is extremely stressful and terrifying, and we deserve more credit for not killing ourselves and THEN having to make up for the time we spent not caring if we lived or died and not doing work to improve our lives.

[gncfag-moved]

i feel behind in life because i spent the last 7 ish years not giving a shit about my future because i assumed id be dead before id have to deal with that, and now i have to start making decisions that many people started considering years ago.

[gncfag-moved]

i just feel like. suicidal people dont get credit for firstly, how stressful life is while suicidal, how difficult it is just to do simple tasks, and secondly, how hard it is to recover from years spent not caring once a person is no longer actively suicidal or no longer having suicidal ideations.

[vforvictoriaregina]

This

[duckbunny]

kindness is a discipline, not a trait

[animatedamerican]

Yes.

As with many disciplines, kindness may come more easily to some than to others. But it is nonetheless something you can learn, something you can teach, something you can work at.

Something you do, rather than something you are.

[bobbyverse-deactivated20191221]

Be careful how comfortable you get with jokes that cut yourself down and emphasize the false concept that there’s no hope for your future and life is pointless. I get that talking about struggles is important and helps in not feeling alone. There has to be a line though, between “hey here’s something that’s rough so I’m gonna laugh about it” and cheering each other on as you hammer unhealthy concepts deeper into your mind. You are not worthless. You are not ugly. You are not trash. Good is absolutely possible in your future. Don’t forget that words have power. Be careful how much poison you throw in your own well.

[michellepsychologist]

By: Buddy Project

Source: https://www.instagram.com/p/B2O37pnlwyz/?igshid=1vgumub3hjk75

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OVER AN HOUR HOLY FUCK

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for people asking for the plot, I started watching it and I don’t think I’ll finish, it’s a mixture of creepiness (a bus driver gets distracted by grade school kids kissing and flirting in one of the first scenes..) and over-edgyness. it’s also just boring and clearly an advertisement for her album, like one of her songs is sung during the bus scene. unless you need a reason to hate melanie martinez more I recommend not watching.

I know other child abuse victims like me seek out potentially triggering stuff like this but PLEASE it’s not worth it I promise !!

[xietyfree]

When A Panic Attack is Coming On - What To Do

It can be scary when you're going through a panic attack, but you can manage it, and you're not alone.

Breathe. I know, I know, it can be hard, but it really works my friend! Inhale for 4 seconds, hold that breath for 7 seconds, and exhale for 8 seconds!

Recognize that you're having a panic attack. Once you know what's happening, it can bring you back down to Earth a little quicker.

Try to focus your attention on someone or something. Taking your mind off of your panic can soothe you. Focus on your hands and take a deep breath.

If possible, listen to music. Any song that makes you happy, or any song that makes you feel calm.

Step away from your current situation. Backing away and grounding yourself can do wonders. Many people around can overstimulate you and make you feel even more yucky.

Drink some water. Hydrating yourself can help you calm down fast.

Talk to someone. If communication calms you down, talk to someone and let it out. Everyone's different.

Practice grounding techniques. Counting until you feel calmer, tracing your hand, whatever technique that grounds you, do it.

Go outside. For some, fresh air can ease the mind. Focus on the sounds outside, and feel the ground.

Close your eyes. Plug your ears if you have too. Give your eyes a break and breathe in and out.

Every experience is different, and not all of these tips may help you. That's ok! What's important is to know that you're not alone and you can find a technique that will help you.

[memes-to-show-my-therapist]

[mr-dissociative-deactivated2020]

No one:

Not a single person:

Literally not a soul:

Me, in the mirror: and WHO are YOU supposed to be???

[bpd-italy]

how to avoid guilt-tripping people accidentally (will be updated as i think of examples)

don’t insult yourself. it seems like you’re looking to make them feel bad for you. it also makes it look like you’re playing victim. (ex: “i’m a shitty person.” “i should just die.” “i’m just stupid.”)

say, for example, “i feel like you dislike me” instead of “you dislike me.” you don’t actually know how they feel and being accusatory like that is a huge turn off.

when apologizing, make it genuine. don’t bring up how you feel and instead apologize for how you made the other person feel. how you feel can be brought up later.

remind people that you genuinely want to get better and tell them to call you out when you exhibit problematic behavior.

it’s perfectly okay to be angry that your trauma left you with these symptoms, but that doesn’t make it okay to continue problematic behavior and make no effort to fix it. you can do it with some effort. i believe in you. and feel free to add on.

[star-codes]

thank you 💙 this means a lot and we appriciate your kind words. we luckily got to bring him home yesterday to continue treatment at home, but i couldnt imagine going two whole weeks without my boy. i hope your furbaby is doing well and wish you all good wishes also. thank you again for such kind words!💙

[maemaybe]

May I ask if you have any personal tips or tricks to developing a habit across dissociative barriers? Or if you have ways to tell if a specific part may be hindering setting healthy habits?

I think that persistence matters more than anything else. I’ve heard people say that it takes 28 days for someone to acquire a new habit. I think it takes longer when you’re dealing with dissociation. You just have to keep at it and not give up. 

I use a lot of reminders in a lot of formats. Physical sticky notes, google keep, daylio reminders, google calendar reminders, phone alarms, etc. 

Try to stage your environment for success while you are present. If you are working on getting parts to brush their teeth twice a day, put your toothbrush and toothpaste out on the counter where it’s clearly visible and can be a visual cue. If you’re working on healthy eating habits, have options that are appealing and accessible to all parts. Not everyone in my system knows how to cook a healthy meal and not everyone in my system is willing to eat a greek yogurt smoothie, so we need options. 

If you have a part who is hindering your progress, take the time to unpack that if you can. See if you can get in touch with them and find out why they object the healthy habits. If you’re dealing with objections like “I just don’t like it” or “I just don’t want to” that genuinely don’t come from any kind of real concern, I think it’s best to just express empathy and understanding the same way that good parents do when they are teaching their children about healthy habits. You can say things like “Having an early bedtime is a bummer. I understand that you’re mad, but sleep is really important and we feel so much better when we get good sleep. This is really important.” 

Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation is loaded with information on working on various healthy habits like sleep, eating, and balancing work and leisure. There’s a lot more information there. 

- Quin

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