a hickey is a mark of ownership. whether it be for love, or sexual.
i’m sorry, but i CANNOT have sex with my husband when he has another man’s marker on his own body.
my husbands body is now off limits to me. i refuse to sleep with him until the marker is completely gone. i don’t even want to cuddle with him until it’s gone, but then he’d think im unreasonable, so ill just shut up tolerate the cuddling if it comes around, but whenever he wants to make love with me, im going to have to remind him that his body is not mine right now, and i refuse to take it.
two other shoddy things happened in the short 6 months we had our marriage open, and this was the last straw.
it’s one thing to kiss or fuck my husband, cause that’s just a fleeting thing. but bites, bruises, scratches, hickies last longer WAY past the sex.
and hickies specifically??? that’s not a “oooo i like pain! bite me! scratch me!”
to me, it’s somebody saying “your body is mine, and i’m going to mark you so that anybody else who sees it knows that your mine”
and this lil side bitch he had did it to him. now my husbands body is marked by another man, and i refuse to sleep with him until it’s COMPLETELY GONE. i don’t even wanna touch him because im so angry and hurt. i don’t want to cuddle him, i don’t want to kiss him, i don’t want to have sex with him.
his body right now is not mine to enjoy.
and the marriage is officially closed.
p.s. i know the way i view sex is probably different than maybe you do.
i am on the asexual spectrum, so there are some things that i view as intimate that others might not, or vice versa. so if you think im being too sensitive about it, thats fair.
we just see intimacy differently.
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