Kasper

I like to talk a lot #1 Pink Diamond and Lapis Lazuli defender

[starredlapis]

how long have you been a fan of Steven universe?

A VERRYYYY long time. Since I was pretty young, though I only recently got back into it, it's an obsession that never quite goes away, only comes in waves every once in a while!

Though I'd say 5 yearsish?

[starredlapis]

Pink Diamond was Abused

Rebecca Sugar did such a great job at writing an abuse victim.

Pink (and in turn Rose Quartz) was the result of abuse and reactive abuse, Reactive abuse occurs when a person being abused reacts defensively, emotionally, verbally, or physically---after being pushed to their limit, and these reactions are sometimes misrepresented by the abuser as the victim’s fault aka victim blaming. Pink was shown to have "A scream that could crack the walls" and in SUF we see this in Steven when he shouts at Pearl and Pink Pearl about the horrible things his Mom did, and Pink CLEARLY had these outbursts'. She was childish, reckless, and immature for someone who had her status and even if she wasn't a child she WAS mentally a child in a way before starting the rebellion. And we get a more in depth cause and effect of her outbursts when we see Pink Pearls injury as a result of her scream, which cracked her eye.

The Diamonds were somewhat in my eyes an allegory for parental abuse. Yellow didn't view Pink as an equal, instead, viewed Pink as a child, someone who was immature and childlike (you'll learn to know Pink Diamond was inherently childish in someways) and in Stevonnies dream we see Pink clutching her arm and limping which putting the clues together means Yellow hurt her psychically, which is abuse.

Blue diamond, instead of physical abuse--- EMOTIONALLY abused Pink by using her powers of projecting her emotions onto Pink to make feel just as upset IF NOT more to hurt her, as they locked Pink away in a tower by herself when she misbehaved or acted immaturely which mind you is TEXTBOOK CHILD ABUSE in the form of isolation, Steven directly confronts Blue by saying “… How many times did you lock her in here? How many times did you make her cry?", I can't agree with the things Pink did, but I will defend them in the way that it was clearly the response of isolation and trauma.

Now, I'm not saying what Pink did was necessarily morally good, but you can be complex without being morally good --- also, may I add we see Pink Diamonds character development backwards during the course of the shows run.

Yellow was Neglectful towards pink's needs, and was somewhat physically abusive.

Blue was Emotionally abusive and used isolation as a twisted form of "Time Out"

White was controlling and, in a way, ALSO Neglectful, all of the Diamonds were. She clearly didn't listen to Pink.

Pink had no way to let out her anger nor her bad feelings which we see when she punches a mirror out of rage or when she has a tantrum when being refused a Colony, she had no other way than outbursts because that's what she felt she HAD TO DO.

[starredlapis]

Lapis Lazuli was not the abuser.

The more I see people say that "Lapis was the abuser" in the whole Jasper and Lapis situation, the more braincells I feel sizzle away. Lapis was NOT the abuser, and she was not mutually abusive she was the result of Reactive Abuse and here's why -

Reactive abuse is when a victim of abuse reacts aggressively or emotionally to ongoing mistreatment, in other words, they hit their limit. This is exactly what happened to Lapis especially in her and Jasper's relationship, Lapis was coerced and downright FORCED and assaulted into fusing with Jasper, Jasper was not asking, she was forcing and dominating.

There's a clear power imbalance between the two parties; the reason Lapis agreed to the forced fusion was because she knew Jasper would've hurt the others, she didn't WANT IT that was made clear. Lapis JUST got out of being imprisoned and trapped for THOUSANDS of years, then she gets kidnapped, then she gets into a forced toxic fusion of which she did not want and was clearly hurting her whether it be psychically or mentally. Wherever Lapis went she was surrounded by her abusers, her first encounter with jasper and peridot was getting kidnapped and imprisoned once again. It was understandable she was upset.

people bring up the fact Lapis "Liked taking it out on Jasper" and "Missed her", now listen, take in the definition of reactive abuse I gave you earlier Lapis reacted to being coerced and abused by Jasper by imprisoning both of them at the bottom of the ocean.

"I'm done being everyone's prisoner! Now you're MY prisoner! And I'm never letting you GO!"

The fact of the matter is that Lapis wasn't "mutually" abusive she was a victim of abuse who reacted to said abuse, she's a great representation of trauma and PTSD just as Steven is and her trauma was dealt with in the best way possible, this is the representation we need.