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[stefisgirlnow]

oh if you wanna follow me on other platforms incl 18+ ones

https://linktr.ee/stefisgirlnow

[stefisgirlnow]

Do you just really fucking hate transmascs or smth??

In spite of the way y'all are acting,

No.

Not at all.

Not even a little bit.

I just want you to do better than you are.

Become a transfeminist.

[bluejaymarin]

morally grandstanding with your post history is funny as fuck, excellent work Agent Bergstein

[stefisgirlnow]

That's just anti semitism, to be clear

[bluejaymarin]

ooo isnt pepe a white supremacist hate symbol im telling the ADL

[stefisgirlnow]

wrong frog you stupid nazi

[bluejaymarin]

dont blow a gasket im sorry im not a 4tranner

[stefisgirlnow]

it's a twitch emote.

This website is worse than 4tran or whatever, tho

[stefisgirlnow]

Hello! sorry in advance if this sounds weird but back in February(?) you posted on twitter a recourse for creating a safety plan on escaping an abusive relationship,

Ii just really really wanted to thank you for sharing that, i didn't see that post until recently while trying to find some links and resources for friends but i ended up saving it and there was a situation with someone close to me who ended up not really needing it because it wasn't as extreme as we thought- but just knowing she had it and knowing that a resource like this existed means a lot especially because i didn't know that this was a thing.

(feel free to ignore, i was wanting to dm this on twitter because writing to you about something like this on a tumblr ask felt weird but i don't really know how? either that or you don't let people dm which is completely fine! i just wanted to reach out somehow)

that makes me happy. I'm glad I could help. I hope that everyone is safe and doing well. Thank you so much for sharing. 🩷

Create Your Personal Safety Plan

Use our interactive safety planning tool to create your personal safety plan. This series of questions help survivors identify their options

if you or someone you know is in an abusive or dangerous domestic situation, use this resource to help plan to get to a safe place successfully.

It takes an average of 8 tries to leave an abusive relationship.

Never give up.

[stefisgirlnow]

Do you just really fucking hate transmascs or smth??

In spite of the way y'all are acting,

No.

Not at all.

Not even a little bit.

I just want you to do better than you are.

Become a transfeminist.

[bluejaymarin]

morally grandstanding with your post history is funny as fuck, excellent work Agent Bergstein

[stefisgirlnow]

That's just anti semitism, to be clear

[bluejaymarin]

ooo isnt pepe a white supremacist hate symbol im telling the ADL

[stefisgirlnow]

wrong frog you stupid nazi

[stefisgirlnow]

Do you just really fucking hate transmascs or smth??

In spite of the way y'all are acting,

No.

Not at all.

Not even a little bit.

I just want you to do better than you are.

Become a transfeminist.

[bluejaymarin]

morally grandstanding with your post history is funny as fuck, excellent work Agent Bergstein

[stefisgirlnow]

That's just anti semitism, to be clear

[stefisgirlnow]

hey btw as a lebanese citizen you are so so gross for using our struggles and our genocide for anything but us. “they’re like the IOF” i’m sorry i don’t ever want to see us being used as some kind of token or example for what genocide is. “look guys erasing natives is bad i know you can’t understand that so im just going to talk about this specific genocide instead of actually giving each issue the time it deserves” stop pandering and using us as your pariah.

idk what this is referring to exactly, but the IOF bears strong resemblances to other fascist paramilitary death squads and genocidal task forces like ICE, RCMP, American cops, Hindutva groups, Sri Lankan forces, or any number of groups trained by the School of the Americas.

The atrocities in Lebanon in the 80s up until today absolutely deserve more attention.

Some of the worst things one could imagine took place in the torture camps that the IOF set up in southern Lebanon during the civil war.

But yeah, erasing natives is bad.

Also, p*riah is a slur for caste oppressed people in India. You should remove that from your lexicon.

[stefisgirlnow]

Notice how you exclusively use the word *boy* to refer to trans MEN.

Stop infantilizing them. [Oops, that's transandrophobia!]

- sincerely, a tfemme sister.

Sister, I'm coming up on 40, I'm allowed to point out when men who are half my age are acting like immature boys.

Plus, not all of the people I'm referring to are men, some are masc, and I don't want to misgender them.

"boys" correctly describes the group that I'm referring to.

🩷

[beewildered]

If using men is supposedly incorrect, then so is using boys. It's the same concept just with some added infantilisation. What correctly describes the group you're referring to is trans men and trans mascs. That's it. There is no shorthand (such as "boys") that isn't either exclusionary or derogatory.

[stefisgirlnow]

Yes. It was intentionally derogatory I order to describe their immaturity

[beewildered]

So you're transphobic then, or just plain ignorant to the fact that not every acts like you. You're being derogatory to an oppressed group just because they aren't as mature as someone twice their age. Glad you're willing to admit that, although I highly doubt they're the immature ones in this situation.

[stefisgirlnow]

someone has to tell them to snap out of it and stop treating women poorly

[stefisgirlnow]

[yourlocalbadgerscales]

And how exactly did you come to the conclusion that you have the right to decide ANYTHING for us? Who tf are you to be making lists like this? Let's not excuse any form of fascism. You just don't get to say shit like this and still expect your trans siblings to give a fuck about your opinions.

Also, the way you're making the shaming of trans men out to be a PRIVILEGE that's strictly reserved for trans women is so fucking weird. Clearly it's not the disrespect itself that you don't tolerate, or else you wouldn't excuse it as long as it's a trans women doing it. No, the only reason you're attempting to prohibit everyone else from doing it is because you view it as a privilege and not inherently morally wrong.

People like you do somuch damage to the queer community, I hope you're aware. Shame on you.

[stefisgirlnow]

trans women are not the ones who hold privilege here.

That is why they have the permission in the first place.

It is the source of the permission, you could even say

[yourlocalbadgerscales]

You can't give a whole subgroup of people permission to discriminate against another subgroup of people within the same "main" group, by the way. You don't get to decide whether you can or can't discriminate us.

[stefisgirlnow]

so true, women should shut up and know our place. Thank you for helping me realize that

[creetchurbehavior]

i’ve been seeing a lot of posts about transandrophobia vs transmisogyny lately and, as a trans man, it just feels utterly bewildering. transmisogyny is specifically referencing the intersectionality between being trans and being a woman, and the specific oppression that trans women face because of that intersectionality. we’re transandrophobia to exist, it would reference the intersectionality between being trans and being a man, which is impossible because men do not experience oppression based on their gender. oppression does of course differ between transmascs and transfems because they’re treated different by society, and they both experience transphobia, but transmascs cannot, BY DEFINITION, experience a one-to-one with transmisogyny.

[vexatiousvic]

Appeasement won't save you

a) msny men are indeed oppressed for being men

b) we're talking abour TRANS MEN. And TRANS masculine people.

Denying their oppression is just fucking transphobic and you're helping nobody but the fash

Trans men/mascs experience specific oppression and talk about that. If you dont like that, you're transphobic

Also you've fallen for terf

[stefisgirlnow]

no. Men are oppressed because they are marginalized in ways other than their manhood.

Men aren't oppressed for being men though, that's crazy

[stefisgirlnow]

Notice how you exclusively use the word *boy* to refer to trans MEN.

Stop infantilizing them. [Oops, that's transandrophobia!]

- sincerely, a tfemme sister.

Sister, I'm coming up on 40, I'm allowed to point out when men who are half my age are acting like immature boys.

Plus, not all of the people I'm referring to are men, some are masc, and I don't want to misgender them.

"boys" correctly describes the group that I'm referring to.

🩷

[thegingernut]

Plus, not all of the people I'm referring to are men, some are masc, and I don't want to misgender them.

Boys is a superset containing all masculine people? What in the ChatGPT generated fuck are you on about?

[stefisgirlnow]

no.

Not all masculine people are acting like immature losers about my tumblr post.

All of the people doing so are boys, for the most part

[stefisgirlnow]

[yourlocalbadgerscales]

And how exactly did you come to the conclusion that you have the right to decide ANYTHING for us? Who tf are you to be making lists like this? Let's not excuse any form of fascism. You just don't get to say shit like this and still expect your trans siblings to give a fuck about your opinions.

Also, the way you're making the shaming of trans men out to be a PRIVILEGE that's strictly reserved for trans women is so fucking weird. Clearly it's not the disrespect itself that you don't tolerate, or else you wouldn't excuse it as long as it's a trans women doing it. No, the only reason you're attempting to prohibit everyone else from doing it is because you view it as a privilege and not inherently morally wrong.

People like you do somuch damage to the queer community, I hope you're aware. Shame on you.

[stefisgirlnow]

trans women are not the ones who hold privilege here.

That is why they have the permission in the first place.

It is the source of the permission, you could even say

[stefisgirlnow]

in what world is boys less misgendering than masc?

masc doesn't convey the immaturity I'm trying to emphasize, though

[stefisgirlnow]

just cuz you are old and trans doesnt mean you cant be a transphobic bigot

maybe if people point out your bullshit its time to reevaluate? food for thought

if I based my beliefs of popular consensus I wouldn't have transitioned.

Bullying someone into submission doesn't make you correct

[stefisgirlnow]

Notice how you exclusively use the word *boy* to refer to trans MEN.

Stop infantilizing them. [Oops, that's transandrophobia!]

- sincerely, a tfemme sister.

Sister, I'm coming up on 40, I'm allowed to point out when men who are half my age are acting like immature boys.

Plus, not all of the people I'm referring to are men, some are masc, and I don't want to misgender them.

"boys" correctly describes the group that I'm referring to.

🩷

[beewildered]

If using men is supposedly incorrect, then so is using boys. It's the same concept just with some added infantilisation. What correctly describes the group you're referring to is trans men and trans mascs. That's it. There is no shorthand (such as "boys") that isn't either exclusionary or derogatory.

[stefisgirlnow]

Yes. It was intentionally derogatory I order to describe their immaturity

[stefisgirlnow]

some of those boys skip past reddit and veer straight into 4chan misogyny territory its scary!!!

Yeah, I don't usually post them, because it would overtake the rest of my posts if I did, but way too many of these guys are way too comfortable sharing their violent urges with me without consent.

I hope they look back on it and feel shame about how they treated people, one day.

[stefisgirlnow]

like this guy

https://www.tumblr.com/stefisgirlnow/822265513397895168/sucks-that-youll-never-have-a-womb-and-youll-never?source=share

[stefisgirlnow]

AND ONE MORE THING @ the ppl in ur comments and once again this is from personal experience so maybe you wont listen to it! But lgbt support groups irl are overwhelmingly full of nontransitioning nonbinary people and transmascs, again many of whom actively discourage transitioning, and half the time when transphobes think of trans ppl they think of the caricatures of trans women (Bad to them) or they think of the feminine nonbinary young adult baristas with colored hair (Cringe but tolerable to them) like people fucking hate trans women when people think of transmasc and nonbinary people they think of the feminine nontransitioning ones like AUUUGH

^^^^

[stefisgirlnow]

like even before i became aware of transfeminism and i was a baby trans who didnt know a whole lot i knew that trans women faced transphobia significantly more than other members of the trans community like how hard is that to understand??

idk, I thought so too at one point