To me one of the greatest examples of this, the discovery of this kind of true love, was when my wife Mukti had her own awakening and the first thing she said to me when we got home from retreat was âI donât need you anymore.â That was agape speaking. Most people would be terrified by that kind of love, because it doesnât need you, it doesnât need to possess you, it doesnât need to hold on to you. Itâs not plugging into you like an electric socket to get what it needs. Itâs that love that stands on its own, and in its own, and is completely full and complete. It comes from a direct experiential knowledge of our true nature. It comes from that all by itself. And so what can sound very negative - I think most people would be frightened if they came home and their beloved said âI donât need you anymore.â
Because there is nothing more beautiful than somebody recognizing their fullness. Donât misunderstand me. It didnât mean the other kind of [desiring] love disappeared. It doesnât mean that there is absolutely no desiring or wanting. That kind of love, itâs not that it disappears. Itâs still available. It still can happen. I can be a more, from what Iâve seen, a more romantic idiot than most people I know. But then itâs more like a celebration than a seduction, you see? One isnât doing it to get anything back, itâs just fun. So itâs not like you lose the other thing, or that you have to lose the other thing, you just lose your grasping to it, your commitment to this sort of deficient love that weâre sold and taught. And then we spend a good part of our lives wondering âWhy doesnât it work out? Whatâs wrong? Why havenât you made me happy, whatâs wrong with you? You havenât been able to make me whole, whatâs wrong? Let me go find another.â
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