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[strawhatsystem]

I'm screaming why has this blog only gained followers since we've been gone

[strawhatsystem]

Hewoo it is me lu- *gets hit by a train* LUCY! *gets hit by simon's flyin fist tht is worser* SASHA!

[strawhatsystem]

I cannae buy tings!

[invaderxan]

Heard some important information on Twitter today, and thought I’d post it here for anyone who may not have heard it. This is actually a thing, devised by human rights organisation called Karma Nirvana.

Reblog to save a life?

[theindependentconservative]

Reblog to save a life.

[libertarirynn-deactivated202006]

Sharing because it’s actually a verified and sourced thing and not one of those dumbass fake tip posts.

[puppyenergy]

some DID things i wish someone had told me sooner

tumblr is not a resource.

dissociation isn’t spiritual.

systems aren’t spiritual either.

other people won’t usually notice you switching but sometimes you won’t  notice yourself switching either.

you don’t have to know who was fronting at all times.

alters can influence you even if they’re not currently fronting (re: passive influence).

sometimes you won’t realize when an alter is co-con with you, other times you will but you won’t know who.

it’s ok if you don’t know who you are.

it’s ok if you don’t know how many alters you have.

your alters don’t have to have their own names.

it’s common to not know every little detail about your alters.

it’s also common to not have good system communication.

persecutors are traumatized, not evil.

every part of you deserves a chance to recover and be happy. treat your alters kindly.

you don’t have to identify as multiple people just because you have DID.

alters are parts of one whole.

you don’t have to have a system name.

you don’t owe anyone anything about your alters or trauma (but you should consider sharing with a therapist).

it’s ok to not know everything about your system.

it’s ok to be confused about a lot of things.

DID is confusing.

[the-nordic-system]

What to do if you know someone with DID and they switch in front of you

- Don’t make a big deal out of it

- say hello to whoever’s out

- check if they’re okay. Sometimes switches can be caused by trauma triggers

- Ask if they know where they are, what they’re doing, etc. If they don’t, tell them

- If the new alter fronting doesn’t like you, ask if they want you to stay or leave

[system-of-a-feather]

Anyone else not have access to the inner world and pretty much look at all the alters that do and be like...

-Riku (Host)

[bogkeep]

one of the most fucked up things about the internet is how it has given us so many new ways to self harm that we don’t even realize is self harm. it’s something i’ve seen getting addressed little by little recently, as it’s finally being recognized for what it is.

it’s the kind of addictive behaviour we engage in that doesn’t actually benefit us in any way, such as:

- Reading The Comments

- ruthless discourse that won’t accomplish anything

- checking up on people and topics you shouldn’t

- 90% of body image stuff

- constant stream of devastating news

and so on, and so on!!

there are suddenly far less barriers and boundaries between our hearts and the entire rest of the constant, churning world, and sometimes the only thing holding us back from pointless hurt is our own willpower. that’s not always gonna be enough.

we feel shame for turning off anon, for blocking those who hurt us without giving them a “fair chance” first, for leaving a discussion, for leaving a space, for going offline, for missing out. we keep martyring ourselves, and for what? our hearts are not made for this.

we’re still adapting to whatever internet culture is and does to us. remember to breathe and forgive yourself every once in a while.

[bogkeep]

small steps you can take to get out of cycles (or at least what helped me):

- take stock of just how much time, energy and emotion you pour into something that doesn’t give back, and find out what’s Gotta Go

- “i’m only going to check this thing ONCE a day”, then week, then month, but at that point you probably no longer have a strong compulsion to Check

- “i’m not going to check this upsetting thing right before bed, because it will just make it hard to sleep”

- “i’m not going to check this upsetting thing first thing in the morning, because it’ll ruin my whole day”

- forgive yourself if you fail!!!!! just breathe. take a walk

[kaylapocalypse-deactivated20201]

our hearts are not made for this

[peachie5000]

This is so important.

[ofvisitorsthefairest]

Small physical things that give your characters personality

How they smile

What their “tell” is for lying

Posture

Volume of speech, if they’re verbal

Nervous tics

How much eye contact do they make

In a group conversation, how close do they stand to others? Are they off to the side just listening and occasionally speaking or are they right next to people?

When standing, what do they do with their hands? Talk with their hands, cross their arms, put hands in pockets, prop up against the wall, etc

The sound of their footsteps

Nonverbal greetings: do they wave, nod, hug, glare, punch, high five, something else?

How do they get others’ attention? Raise hand, clear throat, etc

[ms-mazarin]

Words to replace said, except this actually helps

I got pretty fed up with looking for words to replace said because they weren’t sorted in a way I could easily use/find them for the right time. So I did some myself.

IN RESPONSE TO Acknowledged Answered Protested

INPUT/JOIN CONVERSATION/ASK Added Implored Inquired Insisted Proposed Queried Questioned Recommended Testified

GUILTY/RELUCTANCE/SORRY Admitted Apologized Conceded Confessed Professed

FOR SOMEONE ELSE Advised Criticized Suggested

JUST CHECKING Affirmed Agreed Alleged Confirmed

LOUD Announced Chanted Crowed

LEWD/CUTE/SECRET SPY FEEL Appealed Disclosed Moaned

ANGRY FUCK OFF MATE WANNA FIGHT Argued Barked Challenged Cursed Fumed Growled Hissed Roared Swore

SMARTASS Articulated Asserted Assured Avowed Claimed Commanded Cross-examined Demanded Digressed Directed Foretold Instructed Interrupted Predicted Proclaimed Quoted Theorized

ASSHOLE Bellowed Boasted Bragged

NERVOUS TRAINWRECK Babbled Bawled Mumbled Sputtered Stammered Stuttered

SUAVE MOTHERFUCKER Bargained Divulged Disclosed Exhorted

FIRST OFF Began

LASTLY Concluded Concurred

WEAK PUSY Begged Blurted Complained Cried Faltered Fretted

HAPPY/LOL Cajoled Exclaimed Gushed Jested Joked Laughed

WEIRDLY HAPPY/EXCITED Extolled Jabbered Raved

BRUH, CHILL Cautioned Warned

ACTUALLY, YOU’RE WRONG Chided Contended Corrected Countered Debated Elaborated Objected Ranted Retorted

CHILL SAVAGE Commented Continued Observed Surmised

LISTEN BUDDY Enunciated Explained Elaborated Hinted Implied Lectured Reiterated Recited Reminded Stressed

BRUH I NEED U AND U NEED ME Confided Offered Urged

FINE Consented Decided

TOO EMO FULL OF EMOTIONS Croaked Lamented Pledged Sobbed Sympathized Wailed Whimpered

JUST SAYING Declared Decreed Mentioned Noted Pointed out Postulated Speculated Stated Told Vouched

WASN’T ME Denied Lied

EVIL SMARTASS Dictated Equivocated Ordered Reprimanded Threatened

BORED Droned Sighed

SHHHH IT’S QUIET TIME Echoed Mumbled Murmured Muttered Uttered Whispered

DRAMA QUEEN Exaggerated Panted Pleaded Prayed Preached

OH SHIT Gasped Marveled Screamed Screeched Shouted Shrieked Yelped Yelled

ANNOYED Grumbled Grunted Jeered Quipped Scolded Snapped Snarled Sneered

ANNOYING Nagged

I DON’T REALLY CARE BUT WHATEVER Guessed Ventured

I’M DRUNK OR JUST BEING WEIRDLY EXPRESSIVE FOR A POINT/SARCASM Hooted Howled Yowled

I WONDER Pondered Voiced Wondered

OH, YEAH, WHOOPS Recalled Recited Remembered

SURPRISE BITCH Revealed

IT SEEMS FAKE BUT OKAY/HA ACTUALLY FUNNY BUT I DON’T WANT TO LAUGH OUT LOUD Scoffed Snickered Snorted

BITCHY Tattled Taunted Teased

[writing-reigns-deactivated20200]

reblog to save a writer 

[whispersandwhiskerburn]

Reblog because the titles for each category are comedy gold.

[ventobarrioboys-deactivated2019]

dad wants chicken nuggets

[respectthefemalebody]

If a man says he’s going to hurt himself unless you do what he says, let him. You aren’t responsible for his actions. You are not guilty for what he does to himself, you don’t owe him, you are not his thing to control, you don’t exist to serve him, you are allowed to go on living your life.

[antiporn-activist]

well, you could give him the suicide hotline and go.

[lightanddarkkh]

Also you could baker act him. If he says hes gonna kill himself if you break up with him. Break up with him and call 911 saying you suspect this person at this address is going to kill themselves. Like chances are they are lying and trying to manipulate you but if you are scared and think you might feel guilty, you can do that.

Don’t stay woth anyone that pulls that shit. Drop em.

[askagenderfluidandgenderflux]

Dropping this here because abuse isn’t limited to straight people.

[stegosoreus]

goes for anyone of any gender

[kyraneko]

People who hold themselves hostage do not get to be treated only as the hostage. They are the hostage-taker as well, and they are trying for a second hostage.

Also, the ideal wording for a 911 call after someone has threatened to kill themselves is that the person themselves has announced their intention to kill themselves, or said they were going to kill themselves, something like that. “I suspect that they’re going to kill themself” is subjective and vague; “they have said that they are going to kill themself” is a factual statement that communicates useful information about their stated intentions, and if there’s any suspicion that the person is being dishonest about those intentions as a manipulation tactic, it preserves, documents, and centers their dishonesty and releases you from the responsibility for sorting out the person’s true intentions.

Somebody threatening suicide or self-harm as a means of control is trying really hard to be your problem. Yours specifically. Punting that problem to the emergency services and medical system that is trained and equipped to deal with such problems is not only the proper thing to do, but makes it clear that you aren’t about to be guilted into assuming any responsibility that person wants to dump on you.

[jenniferrpovey]

As a note, this is not limited to romantic relationships. Suicide threats are very common in toxic friendships.

The response should be the same, but I just wanted to point out it’s not limited to intimate partners.

[godkincourse]

Interesting how there are dozens of ex inclus who became exclus… and little none exclus who became inclus…

[riddlemethisandorthat]

that’s…. not true at all, did u pull that “stat” out of ur arse, or…. ?

[godkincourse]

I pull that stat out of the knowledge that at least 90% of the exclusive I’ve encountered started as inclus and that I’ve seen one inclus who started as exclus in my entire life even when I was an inclus.

[movedtodinocourse-deactivated20]

reblog if ur an exclu who who used to be inclu

[chromolume]

buses are so iconic they’re like “this little number tells you where I’m going hop on if you want idc” and everyone at the bus stop is like “wig”

[dogls]

were really running out of posts to make huh

[wardenboyfriend]

[strawhatsystem]

Not sure this will get any notes but. For ppl who r searching…

please like/reblog this if you are a system! I’m looking for other system blogs to follow :)

[strawhatsystem]

Hey haha this has too many damn notes and I don't really use this blog anymore

[system-of-a-feather]

Just a friendly reminder that you don’t need to change clothes every 5 minutes or kidnap some random girls to have D.I.D. / OSDD and be valid