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it worries me so much that there’s been this (mostly unintentional) culture built up around coming out, to where young lgbt kids are putting themselves in danger at school and at home because they don’t want to “live a lie.” i just want to say, i came out when i was 15 and it created a lot of difficulties in my life that i could have avoided by waiting until i was older. it isolated me socially, it exposed me to homophobia from my parents, my family, my teachers, and my classmates at the most important developmental stages of my own confidence and sense of self… closeted people are not living a lie. closeted people are surviving. don’t let anyone pressure you to come out before you’re ready. don’t put yourself at risk when you don’t have to.

#words

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unoppressedactivities:

white girls are having a crisis, y’all.

I’m so embarrassed oh my god why

okay but like. girls being made fun of for liking things that are either marketed toward them or popular (or both) is REALLY prevalent?? and like?? sexist?? like blatantly sexist??? and if you actually read the article its like?? talking about destroying the idea that a girl is “less than” just bc she likes popular stuff? like man that’s important please stop

The bolded excerpt from the article captures it really well.

“Liking something popular doesn’t make you lame. Discounting someone for having some of those same interests does.”

And this is something that happens pretty exclusively to women. The article even points it out. When men enjoy things that are popular among men, no one comments on in, certainly not in a negative way. No one laughs at men for liking CrossFit, or beer, or watching football. It’s okay for men to like things that lots of men like because mens’ interests are good and valuable from a societal perspective. Because men are good and valuable. But when women like things, those things become the subject of shitty, sexist jokes that further the belittlement of the interests of women and women in general.

This is just another way for men to shit on women and to further brainwash women and girls with internalized misogyny. This becomes another case of “I’m not like other girls.”

“Oh she likes pumpkin spice lattes and Sex in the City? That’s so gross and lame. I like Guinness and WWE. I’m just not like other girls.”

As though being like others girls is so bad. But thanks to the idea that liking what other girls like makes you a “basic bitch” and thus lame and to be laughed at, another generation of girls is growing up thinking that women and the things they enjoy are detestable and to be laughed at while the interests of men are somehow superior and preferable. That girls doing things that make them happy is some sort of sad joke.

And that’s complete bullshit.

And the first comments make me wonder when exactly tumblr decided that it’s ok to make fun of white girls for everything…

Tumblr loves the phrase “white girls” because it lets them indulge their apparently overwhelming desire to shit on girls for liking girly things while pretending they are actually talking about whiteness and are therefore free of internalized misogyny (and free to also shit on girls who say that they are “not like other girls” because they don’t like the completely innocuous things that tumblr just said girls are terrible for liking.)

You could write a very detailed sociology paper on all the ways that women on tumblr have found to shit on other girls while pretending they are actually doing something else. See also, the exorbitant hate leveled at celebrities who are popular with teenage girls for relatively minor things that is secretly more about getting to imply that the young female fans are terrible for liking this person than anything to do with the celebrity. (Or show, movie, book, whatever…)

THIS IS MY FAVOURITE THING RIGHT NOW.

“WHITE GIRLS” DOESN’T NEGATE THE FACT THAT YOU’RE STILL JUST TALKING SHIT ABOUT WOMEN

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trumpetsbyjasonderulo-deactivat

no offense but i need everyone to stop saying that “we survived” bad presidents before. like, i get it, the country has weathered people like andrew jackson and ronald reagan and will probably weather trump. but when you say “we survived” andrew jackson? tell that to the 4000 (of 16000) cherokee who died on the trail of tears. “we survived” ronald reagan? tell that to the 650,000 americans who have died of aids– a national health crisis which reagan refused to even recognize?

you know who “survived” presidents like trump? people who never had to be afraid of them in the first place.

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gambolling

Well, safe to say I’m screaming.

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vampireofcolorr-deactivated2018

one of my biggest pet peeves is when people are like, “i don’t care, my significant other can go through my phone. i have nothing to hide.”

okay. first of all.

wanting a partner to respect your privacy doesn’t necessarily go hand in hand with “having something to hide.” maybe you’d just prefer that they trust you without putting you under surveillance like a fucking prisoner?

second.

it’s not only your privacy. if you’re cool with that shit, i really hope you’re informing all your friends and family members who discuss their personal lives with you that they should be prepared for your shitty SO to read through all their messages to you, but i’m betting you’re not doing that.

maybe your bestie from high school doesn’t want your boyfriend seeing her emotional messages about her recent breakup? maybe your sister doesn’t want him reading her messages about struggles with her kids or her marriage? maybe your friend with mental health issues isn’t counting on you sharing their struggles with anyone else?

maybe you should grow up and realize that if your partner loves and respects you, they’ll believe you have nothing to hide without checking for themself.

missymalice

some of you in the comments are dense as hell. your trust issues brought on by past cheaters do not give you free reign to emotionally abuse your partner. sorry, work on yourself and then get into a relationship because if you feel the need to do this shit, you’re not ready.

#truth #words #for real