You Can’t SEDUCE When You Lack STRATEGY
urTOOspoiled Big Sis Series
The main thing I’ve noticed about men is that they ALWAYS date with intention and a play.
This is BOTH from good men and the hobosexuals. They know what they’re doing.
INTENTION: an aim or a plan
PLAY: a report on what is happening in a sports game; plan breakdown
Men NEVER “go with the flow”. They either have ill, self centered (using you as a placeholder/booty call) or mutually beneficial intentions (marriage, FWB etc.).
In addition, they NEVER aimlessly find their way towards their goal. They have a goal and they break down the actions behind the accomplishment.
Sometimes it’s your heart. Sometimes it’s your life insurance plan.
It’s time we, as women, buckle up and have our own agendas lined up.
Always Say Less Than Necessary
I love my ladies but we do indeed pillow talk too much to the men we are dating. We tell them our backstories. We tell them how our exes did us dirty and all they do is sit back and take notes for when it’s their turn to do the same.
ITS TIME WE LIE AND LEAVE OUT INFO.
In addition, stop letting men lead the convo because you’re too intimidated to hold the conversation. It’s your job to get him to spill as much info about himself for you to gather a conclusion about your intentions with him.
Win Through Actions, Never Through Argument
Get it through your thick skull that you’ll never win an argument with a man using your words. Definitely not if you raise your voice.
A lot of women message me stating how they keep “telling” their man how to treat them and I sigh & laugh because I remember when I was that ditzy.
Men are indeed like dogs. You’ll get almost nowhere yelling or repeating yourself to a dog whose insisting on not listening to you (i.e. pulling the leash while you call their name.).
You can let the dog pull you and continue to yell…but where does that get you expect IGNORED and IN DISTRESS?
Put your foot down…and out the door. Just for the love of God stop playing dumb for peen.
Keep Others In Suspended Terror: Cultivate An Air of Unpredictability
“Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables. Be deliberately unpredictable.”
It’s one thing to be mysterious but it’s another to add the razzle dazzle of randomness in the mix. You see, you can predict someone being mysterious- being somewhat reserved or private.
Be unpredictable and have a moment where you’re transparent. Everyone shouldn’t have the same (good) impression of you. Some may view you as serious and laid back while others couldn’t imagine you being nothing other than bubbly. Shake shit up.
Men have created a culture of sharing the secrets of using women to their advantage. They’re not clueless nor uneducated on how to treat you correctly therefore it’s unproductive to attempt to teach them.
They are simply using the strategy their barber, daddy, coach, teammates and Pastor passed along to them since you (most likely) weren’t taught any better. They have a community-a village that molds them, something women do not have in general.
My goal here is to create community while encouraging young women to use LOGIC when it comes to romance. It’s both for safety and spoiled brat purposes.
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