"kill all rapists" this and "murder your local rapist" that i hope you never think too hard about how you would turn down invites to hang out as friends until i offered you sexual favors. i hope you dont think too hard about how when i was sexually available you would visit me much much MUCH more often than when i wasn't. i hope you don't think too hard about how my known abandonment ptsd made it extremely difficult to handle the distance when i didn't want to engage sexually with you. i hope you dont think about how i only really felt loved by you when we were fucking. i really really hope you don't think about it.
and definitely dont think about the time i made myself sexually available because you had spent the night putting me down and shaming me and i felt i had to fuck you to make up for existing or to feel any sort of positive connection after all that fucking bullshit. if you want to kill all rapists start with your fucking self
"kill all rapists" this and "murder your local rapist" that i hope you never think too hard about how you would turn down invites to hang out as friends until i offered you sexual favors. i hope you dont think too hard about how when i was sexually available you would visit me much much MUCH more often than when i wasn't. i hope you don't think too hard about how my known abandonment ptsd made it extremely difficult to handle the distance when i didn't want to engage sexually with you. i hope you dont think about how i only really felt loved by you when we were fucking. i really really hope you don't think about it.
Hey family ❤️ 🩷 I don't want to keep reblogging a big long post about all the health issues I'm having while starting trade school, so I thought I'd link
Idk if I articulated very well the fact that I now have no work pathway to sustain myself and depressed doesn't even begin to cover it. My only hope is to get a car and a driver's licence, on top of everything else I now can't do right now anyway
Straight up I feel like I should be committed i am so fucking destroyed and can't ugly crying even after the entire day of it
Why do white people need to do anything differently about kinks with racialized histories? If you don't feel comfortable calling a white person master or being whipped by one, shouldn't you just tell them you don't want these things when you are discussing kinks and limits? It seems like proper communication resolves all the issues involved here.
You are 18 so I’m going to answer this in good faith.
Unless you are racist and plan to never date anyone non-white, or are monogamously partnered to one person your entire adult life, if you do not consider the boundaries and histories of your kinks even if you still perform them, you WILL eventually at best say something horrifically offensive to a partner/potential partner without their consent, or potentially harm them worse with unconsidered bigotry.
To give a non-racial example that happens to me a lot, I’m going to mention Caning. I’m disabled, and use a cane any time I’m not at home as a mobility device critical to my ability to exist. I’ve had several potential partners, and far too fucking many strangers, ask me some variation of “oh it would be so hot if you caned me with that, will you?”
There is nothing wrong with caning as a form of impact play. However, this always, ALWAYS comes off as fetishization of my disability. There are ways to ask/talk about mobility devices being used in kink that aren’t ablest or nonconsensualy fetishizing! But they require the person not using a mobility device to have actually thought about the ways that bigotry could inform their kink and how to ask without being ableist.
It’s similar with race. To continue the maid fetish example, there are colonized countries like the Philippines whose main export is their people into service industry outside of their home country, especially into domestic work. Many of these jobs are modern day slavery, and people in diaspora may have people in their direct families affected by this. To bring this up to them without their consent due to your own ignorance would be you asking if you can fetishize the suffering of their people, even if you weren’t doing it with intent to harm. Filipinas in particular are often flooded with ads/content marketed towards whites specifically trying to promote the enslavement/kidnapping/assault of Filipinas while trying to interact with their identity both within and without nsfw spaces. (As a note, I am not Filipina, this was written with input from my Filipina friend)
So yes, you do gotta know what’s going on with your kinks and ways you interact with them even if you’re white - you don’t have to stop fuckin doing them, you just have to know how to mitigate potential harm, which is a bare fuckin minimum for participating in a kink with other people.
My mother, Filipina, was the only Asian woman in a many-mile radius in 90's backwoods Tennessee, and she was only there because she'd been strongarmed* into a teen marriage with a white husband who was even younger than her—
*I am not yet enough at peace with my memories to use a stronger word for it. I hope it comes soon.
—and he didn't want the marriage either but that didn't stop him from raping her (conceiving me!). Her English was terrible, she couldn't drive and there was nothing you could walk to through those woods, all she had was a couple white-woman friends at church to keep her going. And they called her Lingling.
And... I derive sexual enjoyment from doing housework for white partners. But I do not enjoy reciting all that ^ damage for them. I do not bear the moral responsibility to educate an endless train of bitches.
So I need them to come to the negotiation already understanding the titanic weight, the millions of deaths, of why a Filipina woman might want to do their housework. Of why she's going to start crying partway through, and why that's part of what she wants out of it.
Being inadequately critical of your desires makes you at best tedious to the people who might want to play with you, but more likely it will make you dangerous. I could have made this point better but I'm mad.
The flat hand thing is so correct, and I’ve thought about this clip like four times a week since i saw it like ten years ago. That is NOT a noise she intended to make
even if estrogen was somehow harmful i would still rather take it and let it also kill me because id rather spend a few years as a girl than a whole lifetime as a boy
hi there it's princess/nova back again, i'm really sorry i have to come here like this but me and my wife are still struggling abandoned by our families and unable to reach any of our friends. we've been trying to survive without me being exposed to harassment but at this point we're going hungry. we don't have any income and need help affording food for ourselves and our kitties please if you can, donate. I would be so truly thankful
v3nm0: @Crow-Forgemaster , @Prince-Nova
c@sh@pp: $dragonforgedbutch , $StrayNova
and for people from outside of the USA, i take donations on my F@nsly: @lil_puppy_nova
I love that tumblr scrubbed every instance of this post from the site when they terminated her account, awesome. thanks to the person who had a copy in the drafts and made sure I got it.
anyway, here's the DM I got after a couple days of fundraising
do you have $20 and a desire to make a sad girl smile? we can't right the wrongs done to her, but we can make her day better.
it feels crazy to go between my workplace bakery where everyone seems to be more experienced than me and i feel subpar in comparison and my college baking class where someone made this today
We have a trans woman that needs to get out of a precarious housing situation involving a very dodgy interpersonal situation. She has a stable housing situation lined up, but we need a bit of help with the moving cost. We're trying to raise about 600 dollars for 2 months' worth of rent and the moving cost while she moves to a safe place and looks for a job. Please help if you can!
My GF and I are disabled and have been struggling financially. We've missed a bunch of payments to our landlord, and he has already shut off our water. If we don't pay soon we're at risk of going homeless again after having just gotten out of it.
Please do what you can to help keep a disabled, Black transfemme and its adorable 😈 girlfriend off the streets!
Anything will help, please only donate what you can! Please share this post if you cannot! Thank you!!
So far we're at:
$200/$1500 USD
venrno: @transfoxautumn
c@sh@pp: $transfoxautumn
(i do not have a card/bank account, but we share finances! thanks again!)
For these who don’t know: The restaurant she worked at closed down but she left before that and opened her own bakery, that’s apparently very successful!
She has a youtube channel where she shares recipes and cooking advice!