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[n-u-b-e-s-n-e-g-r-a-s]

[desdelaherida]

No quería que se me escapara de las manos y lo termine rompiendo por agarrarlo tan fuerte

[fragmentosadolescentes]

Sin rencores, porque un día fuiste mi persona favorita...

~leonina

[n-u-b-e-s-n-e-g-r-a-s]

[yms1]

"can u multitask" yes actually i am losing my mind and chilling at the same time

[quotemadness]

“Effort is between you, and you, and nobody else. So that team that thinks it’s ready to see you, they think what they’ve seen on film, they ain’t saw what film shows, because every day is a new day. Every moment is a new moment. So now you’ve got to go out and show them that I’m a different creature now, than I was five minutes ago, cause I’m pissed off for greatness. Cause if you ain’t pissed off for greatness, that just means you’re okay with being mediocre, and ain’t no man in here okay with just basic.”

— Ray Lewis

[spiritual-vibrations]

[supongoquehecambiado]

“You have so many layers, that you can peel away a few, and everyone’s so shocked or impressed that you’re baring your soul, while to you it’s nothing, because you know you’ve twenty more layers to go.”

— Craig Thompson (via quotemadness)

[quotemadness]

“Don’t believe the voices in your head. They come from the people you’re learning to forget.”

— E.B. Matthews

[samsstudygram]

types of study breaks for every situation

if you realize you’ve been studying for hours: grab a snack to refuel your body and watch a sitcom to refuel your brain. then back to the books.

if you’re feeling stressed out: take some deep breaths, text your friends, maybe stare at a wall for a few minutes. gather yourself.

if you can’t seem to focus: get moving and get outside. take out the garbage, check your mail box, maybe walk your dog. just get moving and get fresh air. it’ll help bring you back.

if there’s something else going on in your life and you can’t get it off your mind: write down what’s going through your head, sort of like a diary entry. it’ll help you work things out.

if you’re just mentally and physically exhausted: set a timer for 25-30 minutes and take a nap. any longer and you’ll hit REM and you’ll wake up feeling just as tired. once you wake up, get some caffeine in you.

if the material is boring as hell: find another way to study. see if there’s a crash course video online about it or draw out what you’re trying to learn in diagrams and pictures to make it fun.

if people around you won’t shut up: listen to some music. soundtrack and classical music is always good because they won’t absorb you as much as music with lyrics. white noise (like ocean waves, rain sounds, etc.) also works.

if you only half understand a concept: call/message a friend who’s not in the class and try to teach the material to them. this will help you mentally work through the material and will help you remember it as well.

[room-archive]

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[furiousgoldfish]

abuser: abuses victim(s) for multiple years causing traumatic stress disorders

society: …

victim: says one word against abuser

society: Do You Not Know About.. Forgiveness??? How Could You Not Feel Sorry For This Poor Abuser For Having To Face The Aftermath Of Their Own Actions??? They’re Just A Human Being Who Made A Mistake!!! You Should Let It Go And Practice Some Goddamn Forgiveness Or You Are A Whiny Victim Who Doesn’t Want To Heal!!!!

[furiousgoldfish]

If you’re worried you’re causing or encouraging your intrusive thoughts and harmful fantasies, you should know that people only fantasize on purpose about things that make them feel good. If your thoughts and fantasies are making you anxious, scared, worried, guilty, ashamed, stressed, and upset, they did not come from you, they’re intruding in your head against your will. They came from something that scares you and traumatizes you. You did not do that to yourself. You did not cause the intrusive thoughts.

And when you have more intrusive thoughts than usual, it can be because you’re under more stress than usual, and struggling with the pressure. That means it’s a good time to acknowledge that you’re tired, anxious, worried and upset, and that you deserve to lay down, have some tea, wrap yourself in warm blanket, stare at the sky and do only activities that help you calm down. Once I started acknowledging my intrusive thoughts and fantasies were a sign of stress, it was easier to see where they come from, and what to do to make them back off.

[furiousgoldfish]

Putting your own child into state where they want to hurt themselves is inhumane cruelty. Getting your own kid to the point where they feel suicidal is insane level of monstrosity. Forcing your own kid to lose hope of ever being happy or free of you is prisoner-level torture. Parents who do this should be banished from society and never allowed near any children.

[furiousgoldfish]

One of the strongest indicators of trauma is overwhelming guilt for something that happened to you. You didn’t harm anyone, you weren’t cruel to anyone, yet you feel ashamed of everything that happened, you feel mortified and believe you somehow caused it, or participated in it, you feel overwhelming shame and guilt for your feelings about it now, you feel ashamed for being hurt by it, because someone indicated you should not be. 

If you feel this way, what happened to you isn’t normal or okay. It means you were put in circumstances completely out of your control and then forced to take responsibility for whatever took place, as if you made it happen. You were not only forced to take responsibility for someone else’s cruelty to you, but even conditioned to not be able to acknowledge just how much it hurt you, how much damage you’re still bearing. It means someone hurt you very, very severely and then, for their own convenience, decided that it was you who caused that, and dictated just how you’re allowed to feel about it, to make it more convenient on the perpetrator. You do not owe them a life free of responsibility for what they’ve done to you.

You are not obliged to feel only in ways they tell you to. You already know your feelings about it, and they’re not wrong. You are not in the wrong to be upset, to feel that it was wrong, that you’ve been hurt and someone is guilty of hurting you. The fact they tried to make you responsible for it, and to make themselves look blameless, only makes it worse, it means they didn’t only hurt you once, they hurt you thousand times after, they hurt you every single time you tried and couldn’t acknowledge what happened, they hurt you every single time you had to pretend that what happened to you wasn’t traumatic abuse.

[furiousgoldfish]

It’s my fault I’m traumatized? Do you realize just how much work goes into traumatizing a person to this level? Can you imagine how much lies and gaslighting it took for me to start doubting my memory and start asking myself if I was insane? Do you understand what amount of violence it took to make me flinch at every movement, expecting a blow? Do you get how many insults and screaming it took to make me believe that everything was my fault, that I was less than a human being, irredeemable and worthless to the core? Do you understand how much humiliation, hatred and threats it takes to make someone this terrified and isolated? This was years and years of hard work! I could never take the credit, for once I lack the dedication, I would yell at myself maybe once and then go “meh lets leave it at that”. I would never have the energy to do this to myself! All the credit goes to my parents, they fought tirelessly to make me this exhausted, terrified, panicked mess overridden with grief and rage, they really put in the effort, and made it all possible.

[quotemadness]

“No one can tell what goes on in between the person you were and the person you become. No one can chart that blue and lonely section of hell. There are no maps of the change. You just come out the other side. Or you don’t.”

— Stephen King