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suzanne-se

justmildlysedated

butchinaround

pull to the side, headlights

you're on top of me, look in my eyes

all night, only you and me

yourlocaladhder

"It's ok to disappoint people." has got to be MOST powerful, life changing advice I have ever heard.

stormlightarchivist

If your gut reaction to this is "no it's not" I swear, I promise, that disappointing people, particularly disappointing people who have unrealistic, outdated, manipulative, or just plain wrong expectations of you, or versions of you in their head, is better than continually disappointing yourself. Signed, an inveterate people pleaser who FINALLY realized this and made my life almost immediately more authentic and fulfilling by acting upon it.

see her loud

now see her quiet

now see her bowling pins

mx-dorkboy

Anyway adults saying “I don’t know isn’t an answer” is part of the reason I learned to lie and bluff so well.

mx-dorkboy

Really though, what was that about? I don’t know is a valid answer. It communicates very clearly that the child cannot answer your question, and therefore maybe needs more help understanding the question/situation. Why do you try and push them to give an answer they don’t have? That stresses them out and it makes them feel like they’re being punished for not knowing something.

logically-asexual

i thought i was the only one with an “i don’t know” problem because my parents made it seem it was the strangest and also most horrible thing in the world. i genuinely didn’t know and they got angry and that only blocked my thoughts more which meant i didn’t know the answer to anything else.

kitvalkyrie

THIS ^^^

nyxwoven

Also “I don’t know” is a commonly used sentence for children with ADHD/Autism. We DON’T know why we can’t do our homework. We DON’T know why we can’t eat certain foods sometimes. We DON’T know why we forgot to do a chore. It’s really distressing when you genuinely don’t know and people think you’re just lying or indifferent