fit for pearls

julia/21/lesbian/isfp (she/her)

[crow--prideflags]

alien lockscreens bc i misread a request

part 2

[prehistoricmancunt]

yesterday i came across this post on instagram by @/shrimpteeth illustrating a quote from Faking It but Lux Alptraum that is so validating i nearly cried. 

From someone who’s never had an orgasm (or maybe has but it wasn’t “earth shattering” so was it even really one?) this attitude (that ‘all orgasms are elaborate, intense affairs’) is so frustrating and isolating and makes sex feel like pressure to perform something I can’t.

Also can we please stop centering sex around orgasm to the point that when i tell a partner not to worry about trying to make me come, they’ll either think I’m insulting their abilities or challenging them, instead of me just knowing my body (bc maybe no one else can make me come but i haven’t slept with them yet so wait and see!)

[yekkes]

Not to be dramatic or anything but as a lesbian what saved my life was realizing that attraction is supposed to feel good

If your attraction to men makes you viscerally uncomfortable, distressed, and feels like a fulfillment of a default obligation rather than something that produces good and exciting feelings, perhaps it isn’t attraction

[maryfeminismisforwomen]

This needs to be read by lesbians, bisexual and straight women. Attraction is supposed to be a good thing. Don’t ever force yourself to be with a man you don’t like and doesn’t respect you.

[rotifers]

I tried to check whether OP was a terf, but their blog is deactivated, so make of this what you will.

[hundondestiny]

It’s extremely ugly to let everyone know you check to see if lesbians are TERFs. Nothing in this post has any inferences that could b read as related to trans women.

Checking to see if someone is a TERF before reblogging something that reads as gender critical or gender essentialist is one thing, taking “this is a post about lesbians that mentions men” as a cue to question transmisogyny is very much leaning into the idea that lesbians are exclusionary via their lesbianism.

There’s nothing wrong w caution but like… we rlly need to think critically abt frames here.

[batslime]

like not only are dumbasses not smart enough to at least keep that shit to themselves but op is not deactivated and literally not even cis

[rochastocade]

biggest hetero lie i’ve been told: fighting is a part of a healthy romantic relationship

[lilbittydragon-deactivated20241]

Disagreements are a part of every healthy relationship. Having bad days when you’re not your best self is a part of every healthy relationship. Fighting, disrespect, and insults? Those are not healthy at all. 

[madhattey-deactivated20211019]

^^^^^^^^^^^^ the fact that some people don’t get this is staggering.

[petitesaffron-blog]

I wonder what he is dreaming about.

[freakoutgirl]

Alison Bechdel in her Minnesota apartment 3/16/1990 (photo by Tom Sweeney)

[lapinors]

[theotherwesley]

on my way to steal your garden veggies 

[different-landscapes]

[caden]

[ahsadler]

Dylan just failed a morality test literally designed for 4-year-olds

[iloveycu]

“you’re so sweet!” thank you i have abandonment issues

[hilarioushumorfromouterspace]

[great-and-small]

“What greater gift than the love of a cat?“

-Charles Dickens

[powerfulwizard]

british people: none of you know how huge england is! it takes so long to get anywhere. it takes me 5 minutes to get to work everyday! i haven’t seen my wife and children in 30 years because it takes 10 whole minutes to drive to them.

the rest of the world:

[medievalswords]

[tenroseponds]

#wow i love crying

[lxvause]

[valtsv]

woman in a victorian novel: *develops a fever from worrying too much*

me, shivering and sweating with stress-induced anxiety: wtf that’s so unrealistic lol