SweetSugarPussy

[thinwaisttexpensivetaste]

get your fucking money up

ladies, it’s time to get rich. new year, new you, right? it’s the perfect time to revise your budget and make a financial plan for yourself. cut out literally an hour of your day and write down a few things:

-your monthly income goal -the percentage of income that you want to save (i save 40% and i think that’s a very reasonable amount for my income) -your mandatory bills -your budget for food -your budget for extras (hair, clothes, nails, gym membership, etc.)

figure out how much you allowance you want per meet and how much you want per month. now see how many sugar daddies you will need. i.e., 1 sugar daddy at 5k per month vs. 2 sugar daddies at 4k per month each (8k total). what’s ideal for you? how many meets per month with each sd do you need to make your monthly goal?

convince your sd(s) to pay for your shit. clothes, nails, hair, laser, gym, etc. should be on him. some girls also like to just have their rent/car/general bills paid by a sd but ive never found just my bills to be a larger amount than what my allowance would be. figure out what works for you. there are a lot more men (at least on sa) that will want to pay your bills rather than give you cash. but watch out cause you don’t wan to get scammed by that “ill pay at the end of the month bs”. be careful!!!

be smart and start a retirement fund and max it out. you should at least be saving your money in a retirement fund. the max amount of $ you can put in is anywhere from 10-12k per year, which isnt a crazy amount, but the whole point of a retirement fund is that companies like charles shwab and fidelity will invest it for you and by the time you want to retire you’ll have 4-5x your money. and that $ is tax-free.

don’t be a lazy hoe! sugaring is not easy and 80% of this is going online and messaging guys. tinder is my new fave for sugaring. it’s a numbers game, so message every man on tinder that looks wealthy, and every guy on sa that has a promising income/bio, and wait for the responses to come in. with good, clear pics of yourself and a well written, straight to the point bio, you’ll do fine. do not fuck around and text these guys all day. get to the point. tell them what you’re looking for (meets per month/and allowance per meet) and if they say no then onto the next one. if they say yes, give them your sideline number -and set up a date asap. i like to go straight in once they text me and say “oh hey _____! so when are you free next? i would love to meet.” when they tell you your availability, ask them if a certain time and place works for them. boom. done. don’t drag on a convo if it’s not necessary.

if you really want to make money, your focus should be on sugaring until you have a steady arrangement(s). go on dates as much as possible. bring money into your life by using positive affirmations. use the law of attraction to achieve your goals. focus. put your vanilla social life to the side, and get that fucking money girl.

happy heauxing!

xoxo, adriana

[1anonyymous1]

I liked u last week but today I don’t

[theambitiouswoman]

[shisasan]

Toxic people will not be changed by the alchemy of your kindness. Yes, be kind, but move on swiftly and let life be their educator.

Brendon Burchard

[vulpecul]

Tim Walker, “Inside/Outside” Eglingham Hall, Northumberland, England, 2002

[expensiveity]

@kailakake

[beautifulrosy]

[boozinbroads]

[mikespice97]

April 24, 1994 • Downtown, San Antonio, TX

[theposhsworld]

When you are used to setting boundaries it’s so simple, “I don’t appreciate when x happens. I don’t enjoy it.” If they don’t like it, walk out. If someone is triggered by a boundary than they are a narcissist. Well then if you can avoid them do. If you have to deal with them at work, be cool, stoic and use nice nasty & gaslighting to drive them insanе, so they blow up and make a fool of themselves ask them if they are okay, they must be in a lot of pain to talk like that. Their yelling & your calm asking if they are ok will turn the crowd against them.

Crowds don’t side with who is right over who is wrong but the calmer person. Without stoicism autists are more sensitive than the average person so we are a a bug light to narcissist. Autists are a light who might help you in the dark but attract dozens of mosquitoes. Narcissists don’t expect to be manipulated and made the emotional one and lose face. At work, that is the best way- be subtly passive aggressive and never where you get caught, watch them blow up and ask if they are alright.

With family members, you best avoid the person & ignore them. Tell other family members bluntly that they don’t respect your boundaries so for your mental health you will avoid them as much as possible so if they seat you next to them at a dinner you leave. If you keep saying no to that auntie and ignore them eventually she will accept that fact.

Of course narcissists blow up when they see someone setting a boundary. Narcissists are triggered by boundaries and normal people are not.

I had a guide for chronic people pleasers how to start standing up for yourself. It took ladies used to being assertive by surprise. “But it’s still a bit people pleasing.” “It’s still a bit pick-me.” If you try to make a pick-me doormat a lioness overnight they return to a doormat at the first raised voice. You make it worse because now the narcissist is mad their prey is running away & is attacking like crazy, and they don’t have the tools to respond. Pick-mes don’t become assertive queens overnight. Baby steps.

And it’s a different formula for dealing with people who do not respect your boundaries in different situations.

Credit: Maria Al Massani

[theposhsworld]

When you are focusing on getting ahead and building something you aren't focusing on petty gossip and destroying others - always hang around ambitious ladies and stay away from those who are obsessed with people because they will go after you since their life isn't where they want it to be since they focus on people instead of on hustle and achieving their dreams. Ladies either build or destroy.

Credit: Maria Al Massani

[theposhsworld]

I have come to conclude that 99% of people in this world are playing a different game than the game 1% of the population is in. Napoleon Hill said, “The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.” There is competition if you are in the same game where the 99% are but it’s not crowded in the game that the 1% play. This quote about paradigm sums the idea really well: "Your paradigm is so intrinsic to your mental process that you are hardly aware of its existence, until you try to communicate with someone with a different paradigm." - Donella Meadows

The vast majority of people live life pursuing one distraction after another. They believe more strongly in their limitations than they trust their potential. They are so trapped inside the prison of the mind that they cannot see what lies beyond that little box they call their “reality.” Reminds me of the scene from The Matrix when Morpheus says to Neo, “You are a slave, Neo. Like everyone else you were born into bondage. Into a prison that you cannot taste or see or touch. A prison for your mind.”

The real prison is of the mind – it is a perceptual prison. I was talking to a lady a while ago who was in a managerial position but she decided to quit as she wasn’t happy with some of the company policies. This woman is very hard working and is good at what she does. The company had also not been paying her consistently and there was no guarantee she would be paid in the future. I asked her if she would still be associated with that company. She said, “yes” but in a different position. I asked her why she would continue working at a job where there was no guarantee she would be paid for her work. Her words struck me. She said, “It is my only choice right now.” It’s amazing how most people are wired to believe there is only one specific task they can do in one specific company. If that gets taken away, then nothing else exists. The idea of there being other possibilities doesn’t occur to most people. I was really shocked by how imprisoned the mind can become where it closes down to all possibilities that exist in this world.

One quality that all successful people have is the ability to spot opportunities. When everyone else is panicking and giving in to despair, they are busy looking for the opportunities that arise out of every adversity. Like for example, a massively successful business coach I follow said a while ago, “Only losers fear recession.” He explained how he was busy looking at all the opportunities that have arised out of this recession. For instance, one thing he pointed out that this is the perfect time for him to bring on board in his businesses extremely talented people who are now looking for a job.

No matter the circumstances or situations, there is always going to be a small group of people who are winning. They key is to always be on the side of this minority learning, researching, and comprehending what they are doing instead of focusing on the game that the 99% are playing. Resilience and adaptability are the most important skills for thriving in the game of life. You have to train your reticular activating system to constantly look for opportunities and then take action to capitalize on them.

In life, there is always going to be a small group of people who get to play by different rules. There’s no cheat code for joining the group. As Jim Rohn said, “Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job you can make a living, but if you work hard on yourself you'll make a fortune.” The only passport to entry is by working tremendously hard on yourself, constantly evolving into a higher version of yourself by breaking free from all limiting beliefs.

[theposhsworld]

I would not have my Financial Freedom and essentially a 𝓢𝓸𝓯𝓽 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮 had I not first mastered and learned how to be Financially Disciplined.

You can make all the money in the world but if you do not learn how to manage it , it does you little good.

The road to financial discipline was hard it took a lot of

Years of delayed gratification

Learning from bad credit mistakes

Paying hundreds if not a few thousand in overdraft fees

Failing at budgeting a LOT but eventually getting tired and making myself sit down

Having to push bills back or seek arrangements

Working excessive overtime to catch up on bills

Bouts of depression, anxiety and stress

Reading, learning and applying

BUT

That journey lead me to financial freedom.

It lead me to over multiple streams of passive income.

Bad debt free

Being able to hire a regular housekeeper, assistants, private chefs

Put all of my bills & expenses on auto

A near perfect credit score

Ability to shop & travel as much as I want

You cannot get to one without mastering the other.

1. Understand how money works

2. Develop a wealth plan

3. Put it into action

Credit Taneisha Fletcher

[galactanese]

private jets, private villas, private dinners, private life. 🧘🏾‍♀️

[theposhsworld]

"In the 21rst century, Make sure if you are Buying a house, Close your mouth. If you are Buying a new car, Close your mouth. If you are Getting married, Close your mouth. If you are Going on a holiday, Close your mouth.

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If you are Going to do a course, Close your mouth. If you are Getting engaged, Close your mouth. The majority of your "friends or people close to you" want to see you do well, but Never better than them! That’s why when you fail they will be the first to open their arms and pretend like they care. So close your mouth, let achievements do the speaking. God bless"

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It's so true most people are not on a journey of self improvement, low agency so someone else's hustle triggers them so they will do what they can to sabotage it even on an energetic level. Most people would rather be lazy and keep their limiting beliefs than level up so if they see you succeed they will go after you. Crabs in a barrel.

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I had an incident with someone in the level up community who wasn't putting effort in therapy, in leveling up, in appearance, just reading all the books and implementing nothing. We met two years ago or a year ago I believe. Since then girls who started with us go their engagement rings some married, and definitely many girls had a date at Michelin start restaurant with a multi millionaire even if it did not go well in these groups. She was so sweet in the beginning. As she became more and more and more behind and struggled getting to above a coffee date and ladies around her were surpassing her, she became bitter and started passive aggressive behavior. For example she would deliberately contradict whenever someone who leveled up more than she did speak.

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It's okay if you move slow but you try to implement something and are hopeful and move. We are all at different stages of the journey but the key is to keep moving. People who are not trying to always improve themselves lose hope and then get upset at others.

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At Miss Universe all the ladies were nice to each other, opposite of catty, because everyone was on a self improvement journey. Our success depended on how well we did, not on other ladies. We are our only competition.

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Even a lot of people who say they are on a journey of self improvement are not like the catty backbiter who was nice but after she was behind started back biting. Catina the BackBiter is actually a compose of quite a few ladies I saw and walked away from. I also notice this in person.

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Don't show off. I didn't realize I was showing off but I got attacked for getting engaged and getting married by feminists I met at a conference. Its so funny now they are considered TERFS and the woke mob went after them later.

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Don't trust people who are not actively leveling up and putting effort to be a little ahead next year more than this one, who aren't doing inner work and working on their limiting beliefs. Of course that means networking is difficult - then just keep it superficial with most people unless you see them passionate about growth.

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Stagnant people bite. Growing people don't. Most people are stagnant so be careful who you share your joy with. Don't show your plans until they happened so that nobody sabotages you.

Credit Maria Al Massani

[theposhsworld]

I would not have my Financial Freedom and essentially a 𝓢𝓸𝓯𝓽 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮 had I not first mastered and learned how to be Financially Disciplined.

You can make all the money in the world but if you do not learn how to manage it , it does you little good.

The road to financial discipline was hard it took a lot of

Years of delayed gratification

Learning from bad credit mistakes

Paying hundreds if not a few thousand in overdraft fees

Failing at budgeting a LOT but eventually getting tired and making myself sit down

Having to push bills back or seek arrangements

Working excessive overtime to catch up on bills

Bouts of depression, anxiety and stress

Reading, learning and applying

BUT

That journey lead me to financial freedom.

It lead me to over multiple streams of passive income.

Bad debt free

Being able to hire a regular housekeeper, assistants, private chefs

Put all of my bills & expenses on auto

A near perfect credit score

Ability to shop & travel as much as I want

You cannot get to one without mastering the other.

1. Understand how money works

2. Develop a wealth plan

3. Put it into action

Credit Taneisha Fletcher

[vivaciousofficiall]

Let’s Talk : Narcissistic Female Friends

This topic is important to any & every woman on her self development/level up journey.

If you truly want to grow & bloom into your highest self then you need to get rid of your toxic & narcissistic female friends TODAY.

These females are parasites. Energy vampires. They will latch onto you & suck you dry then move on to their next victim.

As a fellow woman on this journey, I personally will tell you that it is detrimental to your mental, physical & spiritual health to surround yourself with narcissistic individuals.

They tend to be attracted to women who are kind, empathetic, ambitious, feminine, generous etc. However your light will always reflect to them their darkness. This will trigger them & cause you to be an enemy. You will find that your relationship with this person is always complicated.

It’s an unhealthy one sided obsession.

5 Signs Of a A Narcissistic Friend

1. She’s extremely competitive : Narcissistic women tend to see everything as a competition. She’s constantly trying to one up her friends. She’s usually the "queen bee"/leader of her female friend group. If she sees one of her friends as a threat then she will do anything in her power to devalue, sabotage & smear her name (Usually behind her back)

2. She’s extremely entitled: She demands a lot of time, energy & sometimes even money but hardly ever reciprocates. She expects one to drop everything to attend to her whenever she dims fit.

3. She’s extremely envious: Now, jealousy is a normal human emotion. I believe everyone has experienced it at least once in their lifetime. However, the narcissistic female takes it to another level.

She can’t bare to see another person doing good because of her competitive nature. So if anyone is winning in her head she’s losing. This female also is terrible at regulating her emotions so when feelings of envy arise she may have an angry outburst, throw tantrums or simply begin devaluing her victim.

4. She’s extremely promiscuous: The narcissistic female will sleep with anything & anyone. She has no morals. This type of female doesn’t understand boundaries. No one is off limits to her. She uses her body to get what she wants & she doesn’t care who it is.

Important note: Narcissitic females have a pattern of going for their friends partners.

5. She’s deeply insecure: The narcissistic woman may appear to be confident. She may look beautiful on the outside but internally she’s a mess. Do not be fooled by their false self/ego. The narcissistic female truly doesn’t love & respect herself.

Instead of working on herself, she will project her insecurities on to her targets & will try to make YOU feel insecure.

It is really dangerous & unhealthy to keep females like this around especially if you’re on a self development/ level up journey.

These types of women do not want to improve themselves. They will never truly support your goals and may go as far as sabotaging your plans.

Ladies, you deserve friends that love & support you in your journey to becoming a better woman.

Ending a friendship with a narcissist isn’t easy so here are some tips.

Go no contact: Cut all contact. This is the best option.

Go low contact: If this is someone you have to see every time (ie: roommate, classmate etc) then this is your next best option. Reduce contact.

Go Grey Rock: This is a strategy where you become as boring as a grey rock. You do not give the narcissist information about yourself. You keep the conversation as boring as possible (ie: talk about the weather, food, school, etc) No personal information & keep the conversation as short as possible.

A lot of people joke around with the word "narcissist" but it is actually a serious personality disorder that is diagnosed by a medical professional.

Narcissists are extremely dangerous because they lack empathy. Anyone that doesn’t care about the harm they cause to others should be avoided because this person is capable of ANYTHING.

Please stay safe, i love you.

Xoxo, Vivavcious