Hey mate ! Please don't judge me by this . Ex-muslim should not be called islamphobe for criticising toxic side of Islam . My dad and mom are moderate practising muslims , still I cannot believe in its ideologies . I cannot find it to be a way of life . Prophet is a sex man and racist tbh . Islam is a death cult . I am a brown skinned girl and the day when I got to know our prophet had black slaves , I lost my respect for "ALLAH" and somewhat left interest in Islamic culture is totally gone . I want to fly to US for further studies but my parents threatened me about the typical society . They aren't allowing me :( It makes me frustrated sometimes . I get binded by those restrictions (coz its a haram)
Hi - no judgement but a lot of respect.
From what I , Islam is not just an authoritarian ideology, but a totalitarian ideology. Authoritarian means you must obey it. Totalitarian means you must believe it yourself and accept it as true.
So to think your way out of it is no small achievement.
I reject the word "Islamophobia" outright. As people like Seth Andrews have pointed out, it's possible to be a bigot to people; hate exists against people who are Muslims for being Muslim. But it's impossible to be a bigot to an idea, a belief, a religion, such as Islam. Ideas aren't entitled to the protections that we afford individuals. People who use the word "Islamophobia" are announcing that they don't know the difference and/or are trying to manipulate someone, hoping they can't tell the difference.
What's really disturbing is this recent trend by some people to ignore, as you say, the "toxic side of Islam." And they do so in the name of "inclusion" or some other buzzword. These are the same people who use the word "Islamophobia". They protect Islam, the idea, prance around in hijab, and make stupid statements about "Allah loves gays" and "Islam is a feminist religion". But they ignore ex-Muslims, women - men too - gay people and everyone who suffers under its influence. They choose ideas over people.
They should be listening to people like you who know. who've been, or are there, and know what it's really like, rather than repeating empty flowery platitudes about the "religion of peace." If they cared about people, they would. I support people, particularly ex-Muslims who are often silenced.
https://sunnah.com/nasai:4621
Chapter: Selling Animals for Animals of Different amounts or Quality, Hand to Hand
It was narrated that Jabir Sair:
"A slave came and gave his pledge to the Messenger of Allah to emigrate, and the Prophet did not realize that he was a slave. Then his master came looking for him. The Prophet said; 'Sell him to me.' So he bought him for two black slaves, then he did not accept until he had asked; 'Is he a slave?'''
https://quranx.com/Hadith/Muslim/USC-MSA/Book-41/Hadith-6985/
Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:
The last hour would not come unless the Muslims will fight against the Jews and the Muslims would kill them until the Jews would hide themselves behind a stone or a tree and a stone or a tree would say: Muslim, or the servant of Allah, there is a Jew behind me; come and kill him; but the tree Gharqad would not say, for it is the tree of the Jews.
https://quranx.com/Hadith/Bukhari/USC-MSA/Volume-1/Book-11/Hadith-664/
The Prophet (ﷺ) said to Abu-Dhar, "Listen and obey (your chief) even if he is an Ethiopian with a head like a raisin."
As far as I can see, Allah and Muhammad pretty much disprove each other.
The only things we supposedly know about Allah are the things Muhammad says - including Muhammad being the only one to tell us that Allah chose him to be his prophet. Muhammad's god is a really violent, crappy god. His book has all sorts of stupid things in it about Muhammad's home life. He says literally nothing about universal love for everybody, instead spending a lot of time and a lot of verses solving Muhammad's marital concerns. Allah is a pathetic god.
At the same time, any god should have seen what a terrible person Muhammad was. The idea that he was uswa hasana is absurd. He was a violent, petty man, only interested in himself. I can think of several modern day serial killers who are better people than Muhammad. So the idea that he was the best person Allah could find is utterly ridiculous.
If you haven't already, may I suggest you look up a few people:
Yasmine Mohammed: https://twitter.com/YasMohammedxx
Free Hearts, Free Minds: https://www.freeheartsfreeminds.com/
Free Hearts, Free Minds on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FreeHeartFreeMind/
Sarah Haider: https://twitter.com/SarahTheHaider
Ex-Muslims of North America: https://exmuslims.org
Ex-Muslims of North America Twitter: https://twitter.com/ExmuslimsOrg
There are lots more people out there to talk to and listen to, but I think Yasmine and Sarah are great starting points and you'll discover those other people through their channels.
I hope you are able to fulfil your wish some day to go to the US. Please don't give up on it; continue to pursue and work towards it.