I suppose it’s my turn to talk about this
Ever since I saw this tweet originally a few days ago it’s been stewing in the back of my mind because it pisses me the fuck off. I’ve seen many good critiques of her comments already, but I wanted to throw my two cents in once I figured out what I wanted to say and how to word it
Anita is someone I actually generally don’t agree with very often but I let it slide since it’s mostly about video games, that’s not worth debating, and there are times I have definitely agreed with her. This isn’t one of those times.
But something like this is worth me speaking up.
My name is Atma and I teach martial arts, swordsmanship, and self-defense for a living. It’s something I’m good at, that others trust me to do, trust me to upkeep, and trust me to pass on to others. Sure, I look and sound cool doing stuff like donning armor and sparring and doing elaborate kicks and easily taking down grown men thrice my weight and a foot and a half taller than me, but there’s a very dark reality undermining all of it.
Most of the people I see come to our self defense courses are women. Usually in college or fresh out of it, or are senior citizens. Two very huge at risk groups for crime. Do you guys know the disgusting facts about the world I have to know about and talk to others about in these courses? Rape statistics, muggings, kidnappings, tactics criminals use to trick you, having to teach people things like being aware of your surroundings, how to identify exits, how far legally you can damage another person in defense before you become the aggressor and can get sued over it, and so on.
All vile, horrible things I wish didn’t happen. All things I wish I didn’t have to be so aware of and talk to strangers about. In a perfect world, my job wouldn’t exist. I wish it didn’t. But the reality is it does, because shit happens to people, shit happens to women.
It is not violence or promoting masculine ideals or victim blaming to prepare someone for this. It is a feminism; it’s a legacy of protection passed down historically in a lineage up to and including me from other women and those that respected women and taught them. It’s women helping women. So we can help others have autonomy over themselves and keep it that way.
There is no doubt in my mind it will continue too. Someday I will have a student who will want to take over and I will pas it all down to her, and after I die, it will continue, because violence and shit like people kidnapping each other and forcing them to be sex slaves and vile things will always be a part of human nature, of our history.
Feminine things and femininity and girl power are nice and all, but everyone forgets this is a part of our legacy too. I am the janitor and I have to clean up after all this and make sure that happier, more pacifist and feminine side of feminism is safe. That those that cannot or will not do stuff like this have a chance too, because I’m willing to take up such ugly work.
If I don’t, we’re doomed.
It’s okay to stand up for yourself. To rise up. To fight back. To tell the world fuck you, you are here now, and you refuse to back down.
That’s not violence, nor will it ever be. To see it as violence is immensely dangerous and harmful to me, and it’s a brand of feminism I do not want to be a part of ever. To me, it’s a basic human right to protect yourself and to be able to protect others. To glorify something like women saving women in a movie like this is a fucking beautiful thing to me and I’m glad it exists.
My feminism includes this reality, and if you want to see it as violence, well, that’s your choice. Just know what you’re implying by saying this.
Sarkeesian, you fucked up this time, and it’s a shame because you’re so influential, I don’t want people following this just because you said it.
Without me and other women now able and willing to fight back and save others, you won’t get people like Furiosa in the future who are inspired to rise up. And that’s a future I don’t want to believe in is one devoid of women like her.