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[pluralhelp]

our fictive has watched new thing about his source character and now acts like that. is that normal?

yes actually! there's something called a transformative source, which is technically worded for gaining a new source, but it could fall somewhat under that term. and if something like gaining an entirely new source could happen, there's no reason why a headmate couldn't shift a little when their perception of source is shifted.

A transformative source is a source that a headmate gains that makes them transform behaviorally or physically.

[pluralhelp]

I need the most in-depth explanation of what a subsystem is you could manage because every time someone tries to explain it to me I always get so confused

and don’t spare a single detail

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this was always my favorite explanation of it tbh

the way we imagine it is just like, a container of headmates inside the brain

[pluralhelp]

question for you/the community: what’s the difference between being fictionkin and being a fictive? Or, rather, more specifically, how do they feel?

(questioning some median-ish + fict-something shenanigans going on, but not sure where to start)

I feel like this is a very subjective definition, but for us fictives always appear immediately as their source, or have some obvious tie to their source. like they've always been or known that they are the source. meanwhile, fictionkins for those of us who have them aren't as obvious and for us it takes a lot of questioning to actually kinfirm one. there's a lot more "but uuuhhhh" involved there.

again, that's just us and unfortunately I don't really know the community consensus on the definitions, we could be completely wrong on this loll

[pluralhelp]

im pretty sure i forgot to click the ask anonymously button last time, so im redoing this ask

i want to come out as plural to a friend (who is also plural) do yall have any tips on how to tell them? ik its probably not a big deal since theyre also plural but i just want to make sure im doing this right

it's scary to do and not the answer most people want, but often the best option is to just Say It outright. and to say it so definitively that it would be awkward to deny or fakeclaim, if that's a concern. be insistent if that's a need!

[pluralhelp]

We're trying to be less median, and like, using separation guides usually used in tulpamancy/willowmancy. Is that actually doable? And is that the only resource option we got?

thats definitely something that *could* work. I don't see any reason why it wouldn't, except for the fact that for whatever reason some minds have a lot more difficulty with tulpamancy and willomancy, and a small amount of minds just absolutely can't.

as for if there's any other options for resources, I don't really know why or how there would be any other options? unless someone banged up another option specifically for medians, which I'm not aware of if that does actually happen to be the case.

[pluralhelp]

Hey. Been brought here by someone from a plural server, and said that I might be able to ask questions here. So...I've been aware that I'm a system for some months now, and I'm not gonna sugarcoat it...I'm not a good host. No matter what I do, I feel like I'm always exerting control over my headmates, or trying to get that control and fronting stage I always (?) had since...forever, I think. I struggled with understanding and considering them as people, and not just figments from my broken mind.

I think this was made worse by one of them. He showed himself in December, but I swear he was 'living' longer than that. The bad part was with his nature: he was an introject of one of my characters, an OC fictive...except, said character was a former iteration of my author avatar.

So...yea, you can see how I struggle seeing him as a person. He can front at times, purposely or not (mostly...not, since sometimes he appears at stressful situations), but otherwise we're co-fronting or I'm fronting. And the latter is always the case. And...I know he has his own interests already and practically been divorced from the source he came from...but I just couldn't immediately accept that he's himself and not a facet or...anything else. Especially that I've created two tulpas (one intentional and one not), and had neglected them.

I feel terrible but also not terrible...what should I do? I'm afraid of confrontation, of knowing what *he* feels about me deep inside, of what *everyone* did....

posting this ask unanswered because it's been sitting in drafts for a long time, if you see this please help to answer if you can!!

[pluralhelp]

Hey, we're having an issue. When anything remotely stressful happens, one of our headmates starts to cry. And even though the fronter feels perfectly fine, the body starts to tear up. It gets kind if annoying in social situations, and he doesn't really know how to stop it.

Is there any way to remedy this?

From @the-eden-collective

posting this ask unanswered because it's been sitting in drafts for a long time, if you see this please help to answer if you can!!