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[pluralhelp]

off the top of your head, funniest way to come out to your also-plural partner?

"this relationship is about to get a LOT more polyamorous"

or, the classic would-you-still-love-me-if-i-was-a-worm bit

[pluralhelp]

is it bad that i cant actually hear my alters (if thats what they are) talk to me? the most vocal in terms of speech they are is when i imagine voices that they COULD talk with, but don’t actually use them.

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is it a normal to experience fronting as a noticeable change in mindset instead of body control? like when they front, i can clearly say “oh i’m not feeling like me right now”, but its more of influencing than overtaking.

no + yes.

internal communication is a skill that must be built up for some people, and some people immediately have it while some have none

and a lot of people on this blog seem to have non-possessive switches?? which is what you're describing on that second half. so yes, I would say its a fairly average experience.

[pluralhelp]

hey! ive been questioning plurality for a long time now and i just wanted to ask if this sounded plural??? its something that i feel fits my experiences but im unsure… ive copy and pasted what i sent to one of my friends down below its sorta rambly and such since it was late at night sorry,, hopefully its still okay though also wow this is long my apologies

“”like there was me and that me was made up of all these little guys but recently its sorta but like theres me and this guy and this guy and this guy but like more mushy????? but like still more separate than before

sorta like if youre working on a creative project with other members and those members go off and take a piece of that project with them for a different project but youre all still in touch and hang out but youre just not in that original team like before anymore

like if i can sorta separate it up theres me(base me sorta like a diy doll) and then there me (older sister) and me (gets things done) and me (large emotions) and possibly me (hater)[this asshole who keeps trying to trick me into thinking i hate the things i actually enjoy] they used to form an awesome band but theres been rumors of trouble behind set and their eventual breakup or whatever but it hasnt fully happened yet!!

it scared me originally but now when i think about it its sorta like laying back down in bed after a long day its more comforting not entirely still scary to have guys in your head that could read your thoughts imo but like not as terrifying as it originally was and is sorta like oh yeah!! like fitting a square peg in a square hole but im scared its actually a round peg in this square hole and its like UGH idk“”

ive been thinking of like a median system but idk the friend i talked to sorta shut that down and said youre either a system or youre not and idk i feel so plural but i dont know haha im just rambling more let me know what you think

first of all, that friend is completely wrong. there are plenty of experiences between singlet and plural, median, mediple, plurallet, multiself, etc. don't let what they said define YOUR experience.

and secondly, I hope this isn't weird to say but that is possibly the most textbook plural thing I've ever read. like, to use your metaphor, don't worry about actually being a round peg because saying as a square, you are totally square if you wanna be square (and it sounds like you do).

it does sound like you've recently become more separate, which could be due to stressors, or more focus on the plural aspects of your life. so what I would suggest for this situation is if you're becoming more separate, focusing on figuring out who exactly is springing from that separation and try to establish that teamwork again.

[pluralhelp]

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[pluralhelp]

Okay this might not at all be the place to ask about this, but we don’t really know where else to ask

So uhh, we’re a traumagenic system, but we kinda wanna like, create headmates n stuff like without the whole trauma bit

So uhhh, how would we like…do that? None of us know where to even start.

this is a HUGE question, but here's a basic tutorial we found: (this blog is a huge helpful resource in general as well!!)

Post by @created-system-hub

💬 25  🔁 81  ❤️ 279 · How the heck do I make a system? A brief introduction · This guide includes brief mentions of suicide and brief descrip

looking up 'tulpamancy tips' or 'willomancy tips' on Tumblr will get you all sorts of posts as well by actual 'mancers.

[pluralhelp]

hi!

i see a lot of people angry about fictives not being their source (which is true) but also lashing out at people who want to be treated like their source?

need validation please thank you goodbye

we don't usually answer asks immediately but this is important to us: this is a common syscourse double standard!! it is wrong for people in syscourse to say that the "right" way to experience being a fictive is either pro source separation or anti source separation. fictive identity is complicated and non-binary in nature!!

for example: our headmate Cecilia is a fictive. he is actively working toward source separation because that is what they want for themself. Cecilia wants to become her own person outside of their source. this is valid.

another headmate, Firepaw, is also a fictive. he does not want to pursue source separation because its source and its memories is very important to him, and he feels they are central to its identity. Firepaw does not want to become his own critter outside of his source. this is also valid.

and many of us fall in the middle as well. I, Zooble, am a fictive. I have not taken a different name because I do not see a reason to. I have memories and dysmorphia related to my source that are central to who I am, and I accept them as part of me. however, I do not really want to be treated like only my source.

another headmate, Gangle, is also a fictive. she has not taken a different name because her name is important to her identity and her role in our system (being an embodiment of our special interest, helping to give happiness when we need it). she loves to be treated like her source. however, she has other facets of her identity (eg her otherkinity) that are equally as important to herself as well.

neither of us want full source separation for ourselves, and our sources are both important and unimportant in different ways. these are both valid choices.

basically, every choice for source separation that is made in good faith is valid.

getting angry at other systems with fictives for their choices in regards to source separation is honestly god awful behavior and needs to stop if some of y'all are ever gonna actually heal. (/nbh) always focus on yourself and what's the best choice for you

[pluralhelp]

can someplural introject another system's headmate?

yes, we did this once actually 😭

it could be considered a form of being a factive

[pluralhelp]

Erm I’m just curious if there’s a term for an alter that’s a introject of one of the host’s ocs? Just wondering if there’s a term for alters like me or if I’d just be considered a fictive/introject :3 -👾, part of the 🌕🦈 sys

yes, an octive!!