#-lovely-ask

[plural-userbox]

Request time! May I get a userbox that says "This host is better than you. Fuck off if that's a problem." (Idk if swears are allowed oops. And for the image can you do the NPD or NPD holder flag?)

Done!! Feel free to send in an ask if you want changes, but for now it's complete!!

[shrimperrecordfan1]

How is your island

MY TOMODACHI ISLAND??? A couple of my Miis had kids (Named Ashton and Zipp), ARTFUL AND JAX ARE NOW NO LONGER FRIENDS. I have a drawing of a couple miis but it's been going great!

every time I look at this lineup I laugh

[ribbittss]

love your blog love your blog love your blog (and i love girls)

i love girls & i love youu

[da-gamingojichan]

Germany cockwarmer? Yes or no?

i verbally yelled out "WHAT THE-" and my eyes widened when i saw this. sorry i got scared lol 😍 anyways i kinda drew the bonus romapru 1000x better than le itager but its bc i drew that first and didnt wanna draw moar after the first sketch gommene ^_^

LINK

[tsmerch]

here’s a master graphic of all of the tour merch for future reference if you need it!!

Thank you!!

[sleepy-shutin]

I'm surprised people aren't talking more about "exotrauma" because it feels like yet another really shit manipulation tactic a lot of endos do. I'm not saying that pseudomemories don't exist and I do think there's some genuine people out there experiencing them, but I constantly find people as young as 12 tell me that their alters/fictives know what it's like to be straight up tortured like I was, when they also confess to not knowing what it's like to have your parents turn their backs on you

oh no, i have definitely seen that in places like systwt and systok. the DID community on tumblr is overall not super crazy, though i've definitely seen that stuff before. it's places like twitter and tiktok that have the most insane, fucked up and misinformed ideas about how DID works. and yeah--it's most definitely used as a manipulation tactic.

a friend of mine just got out of a one-year relationship with a DID faker that largely used fictive pseudomemories to keep them together.

another friend of mine had dated more than one faker who used similar, though even worse and more manipulative, tactics.

in another server i'm in, i once saw a kid venting about how someone said pseudomemories/exo trauma was fake, and got very upset about it, talking about how of course they've actually been to war, that's why they were missing a limb in the inner world!

how someone can confidently self diagnose and yet be so misinformed is beyond me, until i remember all of the misinformation in carrds and "informational" twitter threads and tiktok videos. and dissociadid.

suffice to say that this isn't just a manipulation tactic that endos use, i've seen it in use by people who claim to have DID and then describe their experiences as wildly... not DID even remotely. or by people with DID who are clinging to someone very harshly and are using anything they can to keep that person with them for their own sake.

and "exotrauma" as a concept... does exist in DID. in alters with pseudomemories, they may experience memories that didn't happen, that they perceive as traumatic, because that alter is experiencing these memories instead of memories of an actual trauma, where traumatic pseudomemories are used to be metaphorical for a trauma that happened to you, and your brain just uses dissociation to cover it up and say "actually, no, this happened and it happened to this fictive here." (not that only fictives have pseudomemories, any alter can have them.)

you can't actually have exotrauma without it covering up and being metaphorical for a different trauma. this is because DID exists within your brain and solely in your brain. your alters have only ever been in your brain, just before splitting, they may have been a larger part of your subconscious, but now they're fragmented off and separated by dissociative barriers. you cannot think yourself into trauma. your brain cannot traumatize itself. your brain is instead looking at everything that happened to it, and changing it into something else for the sake of dissociating that experience away from you and the rest of the system.

if you analyze the pseudomemories some alters within your system may have, it's interesting to look at the underlying themes and how they connect to your own trauma--if you're in a safe space to and this doesn't uncover any trauma you aren't aware of. mine definitely have a theme.

this has been a pretty long rambly answer but long story short, avoid systwt and systok like the plague, and anyone that takes pseudomemories and "exotrauma" way too seriously.

[wilmonroyals]

fave scene between Simon and Wilhelm? :)

hii, i'm sorry this took a while! tysm for the ask!

this was a hard one. my first instinct was to say it was one scene in 1×05, maybe in the beginning when malin calls willhelm for breakfast and he and simon spend a few moments just staring at each other, maybe the fish scene or the scene when they think they're being sneaky by the lake.

i thought a little more. i think there's something about all of their scenes together, but one moment i love is this one:

THIS WHOLE SCENE JUST GETS ME AND ALL I WANT TO DO IS SCREAM

it's just, the intimacy and the feeling like it's going to be them against the world, even if it doesn't end up being like that. it's the first time they talk since the leak and instead of screaming or fighting they talk and wille tells simon what his mom told him to do and there's the "we did nothing wrong" "no, we didn't" they didn't!! they're just kids and they're figuring out their sexuality and love and affection.

it's just everything and it's sad and it makes me want to cry and hold them

send me an ask if you want!!