#...you know...stuff that doesn't involve people

[lightgamble]

DAREDEVIL: BORN AGAIN | 1.09

You couldn't call me?

[strawberrysweater]

(unimportant ramble about not liking a fictional character)

[idontwanttospoiltheparty]

the joke to me is that John and Paul could easily have boinked and just...... most people didn't know. it's not actually that hard to hide something like that if you don't involve dozens of people on your payroll. that's my point.

[verdantglow]

Hot take, but for all that unhealthy parasocial relationships get talked about, especially in the mcyt sphere, we don't talk enough about how healthy parasocial relationships are things that exist as well???

Healthy parasociality are what allow what happenes when you see someone's work they create & recognizing yourself in it, feeling less alone because it exists, imagining new possibilities you thought off limits for yourself, feeling comforted by what someone said or did or made & released into the world without ever actually talking to them. That's one of the biggest examples I see people having. Like, feeling represented by a creator just making cool shit & presenting part of themself is a parasocial interaction, & I see people talk about these things all the time without acknowledging that.

It can become unhealthy if you start placing expectations or demands on them or hinging your emotional well being on them, 'cause damn, y'all don't truly know that creator & they overwhelmingly most likely don't know you like. exist or whatever, you don't get to treat them like they are actually your friend or have to listen to you.

But just hearing someone existing, hearing someone's life experiences they share, & having a positive emotional reaction to it is like. normal. & healthy. & not bad in & of itself just because you don't actually know each other.

Anyway, this post was actually supposed be about how for me personally, the crux of healthy parasocial relationships is deriving just the most joy out of strangers having enjoyable & fulfilling experiences. I love seeing creators get to hang out irl or having a cool new opportunity to do something exciting or creating something they are proud of, & then just getting hit with so much compersion that makes my dang soul glow from being so happy for them. I love when I see people I will never actually know having good experiences & my brain does the contentedness chemicals because someone else's delight enriches my life without me ever even talking to them.

Like... that's really the good shit right there. Happiness spreading like pollen from a freshly opened flower, posts on the internet knocking into the blooms & spreading secondhand joy around the world.

[icewindandboringhorror]

Worried by signs of aging but not in a "freakish capitalist beauty standard 85 step skincare routine obsession with youth" way, more of a "any marker of the passage of time reminds me that sadly I am not an immortal vampire so I need to rush around constantly and learn to prioritize because I will unfortunately not have 1000+ years to explore every single hobby and academic subject on planet earth (even though in a fair world i WOULD be able to do so)" way

[bookhobbit]

I keep trying to write another post occasioned by my digging through books on white Evangelical/Fundamentalist Christian culture but it just sounds silly because I have to use the goofy-ass language they used to talk about it because that's how it was taught to me. Like if I type it out it sounds completely trivial and nonsense. I feel like, most people in the USA feel that they have a grip on this type of Christian Jargon because literally these people have been in some of the highest offices in the land for decades, and like, that's not untrue, but there's a) the way they talk now isn't the way they talked in the years I was growing up; there's been shift, b) I think it's true that many many many people outside this group do have some sense of it but there's still a lot of nuance I think is missing is you weren't raised in it, and c) the Evangelical/Fundamentalist movement is extremely fragmented and theologically diverse so what I grew up with many not apply to many other people. And I think that's one of the things that is alienating about it, and why I'm struggling to sort of shake some of the baggage, because I can't really talk about it! I could only talk about it and be understood with someone who was there. But I don't talk much to people who were there and certainly not about this.

[death-rebirth-senshi]

The thing you have to understand about me is that the mshenko romance is sweeter to me when Shepard is angry and exasperated with Kaidan on both Horizon and Mars.

In order for Kaidan almost dying to truly hit, Shepard's several last moments around Kaidan have to have been incredibly contentious. Or else Shepard staring at Kaidan's bruised face, frozen in place, not doing anything until Liara finally looks directly into his eyes and tells him what needs to happen next, means absolutely nothing. If Shepard is not thinking about how his last serious conversation with Kaidan involved him basically telling the man to go fuck himself, there's nothing there for me. If that resentment doesn't instantly dissipate into guilt and regret what is even the point.

[cozza-frenzy]

I dunno who needs to hear this today, but platonic love is as valid as any other kind of love. The love you feel for your friends is just as important as anything romantic. Intimate friendships are just another part of life that makes it worth living.