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Obviously these terms aren’t set in stone, these definitions aren’t gospel, use whatever definition/ term you are most comfortable with!

I’m sharing this because I went “oh hey, it me!” when I saw this.

I have made it a point to call myself averse to sex consistently and I will keep using sex-aversion to describe my views. It’s nice to see this info-graphic mention aegosexuality in context of that :)

Because yea, I’m a sex-averse aego-ace

EDIT FOR CLARIFICATION: Aegosexual as a sub- / micro-label for asexuality is not inherently connected to being sex-averse. The mention of aegosexuality in this context refers to an aego-ace being comfortable with the fantasy/ idea/ imagination of sex without necessarily wanting to participate in those sexual acts. Many aegosexuals use the label because we prefer sexual fantasies and things we can remove ourselves from (aego literally meaning “without self”). Not all aego-aces are sex-averse. Which is precisely why I said “mentioned in the context of that” since aegosexuality is not inherent to being sex-averse and sex-aversion is not inherent to aegosexuality.

Also, please keep in mind this is about personal feelings towards sex and towards participating in sex. Most asexuals are sex-positive which means we support that everyone has the right to have as much or as little sex, as vanilla or as kinky, as they want to have.

Sex is not shameful, sex is simply something people can do with their bodies. Sex is exactly as meaningful/ intimate as the people participating want it to be. A bodily activity or the most intimate act to share with your chosen partner – it’s as important as you make it out to be, nothing more, nothing less.

[nerdygaymormon]

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Read recently: I Am Ace by Cody Daigle-Orians

What I was looking for: I knew Cody Daigle-Orians as AceDadAdvice on Youtube and happened upon this book at my library so I checked it out.

Conclusion: The structure is well thought through, going from personal experience to wider circles of people around you to the world. The tone is very much like a dad talking to a young person, especially in the earlier chapters – but never condescending. The book is very gentle, highlighting that there is no “right” or “wrong” way of living ones life.

While the earlier chapters were very much focused on somebody just starting their journey of figuring out their sexual identity, later chapters hold information for everyone and I can imagine going back to, for example, the chapter on microaggressions.

The short personal stories Cody Daigle-Orians shares at the beginning of each chapter elevate this book from a mere collection of general advice to a more personal talk between the author and the reader.

All in all, I wholeheartedly recommend this book especially to (young) people starting in their identity journey.

[nerdygaymormon]

[mlobsters]

on tiktok: @acedadadvice Cody Daigle-Orians on yet another article about marriage and sex that doesn't involve asexual folks

I read through the article and I appreciate that there is conversation about people in marriages without sex and how their relationships to sex have changed that isn't casting in the light of being A Problem to be solved necessarily. when I did some research on what to do about not wanting to have sex in my marriage a handful of years ago (and times before and before), pretty much everything talked about obligation and compromise. so I think there's a lot of positives to this article but along with Cody, it feels pretty ridiculous to not include ace people in the conversation as well.

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Can a Sexless Marriage Be a Happy One?

Experts and couples are challenging the conventional wisdom that sex is essential to relationships.

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I am ACE

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Coming out as ace

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