#acewlw

[acewlw]

So I identified as aroace before I met my gf and we've been together for two years and I think I still am aroace, but I love my gf dearly. I think they are my queerplatonic partner, but one thing I know is that my gf dislikes the word queer a lot. And I don't just want to tell them "hey you're my queerplatonic partner" bc I think it would hurt her a lot. Do you have any advice on how I should say it that doesn't involve the word queer? Thank you for taking the time to read my ask.

hmm. it’s been a long long while since i posted on this blog and i have no idea how old this ask is but occasionally i like to go back on it and reply to the asks. so i don’t know if you’ll see this anon, or find it helpful, but maybe someone will

i guess it’s really up to you to try things and see what works and what you’re both happy with. maybe just platonic partner? even just partner or gf, if that’s something you feel comfortable with - do you need to say “you’re my queerplatonic partner” or would “you’re my gf” work just as well? soulmate might be nice too, and i would for sure say soulmates don’t have to be romantic and/or sexual!

i hope this helps!

[thewildflowers00]

I find it so wild that I've had more turmoil coming to terms with my asexuality than I did with my homosexuality. to be fair, my moms are lesbians so my coming out story was more funny than anything and, thank god, I never had trouble in school. I'm a lesbian and I'm happy to be one.

but when it comes to my asexuality, I've spent all these years going back and forth constantly asking myself if my feelings are real, if they are what I think they are, if there's some other explanation, if I want some other explanation, especially since there really is no set definition for what an asexual feels.

sure, I've felt a desire to have sex, but it was always in general. I've never had a specific urge to go with someone in particular. and when I do have these feelings, it's extremely short-lived. I entertained a fantasy of my girlfriend in the past but since we were long-distance, it was all hypothetical. sometimes I can think about being in that situation with someone, and sometimes it seems desirable, but other times I just get an overwhelming sense of stress and anxiety.

I usually have some reasoning, though. I worry about not enjoying reciprocating the actions. I worry about smelling bad, or looking bad, or seeming gross. I worry about being too awkward and detached, or being too focused on getting it done "correctly."

I mean, hell yeah I want to experience this incredible feeling like people say, but how much of it is real, and how much of it is embellished? I'm fully aware fanfictions are not reflections of reality.

I also have zero experience, I've only been physically intimate (non-sexually) with a girlfriend a few times. could these feelings suddenly change when it happens? maybe. it's all so many "maybe"s.

I'm grateful every day for the easy time I had in my community as a lesbian. I hear stories of other women's time in the closet or bad experiences with ignorant or malicious people... I've heard stories of not understanding their feelings and stuffing them down and putting themselves through uncomfortable situations and coming out with guilt on both sides. I think about those sisters almost every day. someday you'll be in a better place. someday, I'll figure myself out too.

[crackmonkeytrash]

Casual reminder that I am deeply in love with my partner and soulmate Krys @fae-babe

[crackmonkeytrash]

Do you ever just get Infinitely gayer and happier and just... so much More beause Krys ( @fae-babe ) exists??? because that’s me every heckin’ second of my life <3 <3 <3 Like... i remember you Exist and my heart goes Boom

[thewildflowers00]

"how can you be an asexual lesbian? sexual attraction is necessary. otherwise you're just, like, friends with women"

I hear you, I really do. I totally understand why people would be talking about that in the epidemic of microlabelling and straights calling themselves queer to feel special, but...

I'm an asexual lesbian because I'm intimately attracted to only women, and I'm not really into sex. I recognize that, having no experience yet, this might change. but as for right now, that's what describes my life. it's like, young lesbians dating in middle school aren't exactly out for sex, but they're still intimately attracted!

[crackmonkeytrash]

Am just going to... leave this here

[purplespacecats]

i marched in #montrealpride with the aces today 💜 we got so much enthusiastic support along the way, and /a dozen aces who'd been in the crowd watching joined us over the course of the parade/!!!! #asexualpride #acespectrum #asexuallesbian #acewlw @fiertemontreal (at Montreal, Quebec) https://www.instagram.com/p/BmrVGnCBMxO/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=uh8l76cuy0lf

[wonderful-warrior-blog]

I’m just a soft sapphic