#adoption coercion

[ahundredhundredheartbeats]

[karrieshell]

Great Site for facts and information .

[moandtsellers]

Not going to give up fighting...

I will be going to the Nebraska legislative session in January where a bill will be proposed pertaining to adoption laws as a direct result of our adoption case. The proposed bill however is not at all what I had requested, but was designed based upon input from adoption lawyers and adoption agencies. And guess who gets paid for adoptions?? Yep, adoption agencies and lawyers. So of course they have designed a bill that will protect THEIR best interest and NOT the children. You can bet your butt I will be fighting that. In the proposed bill an adoptive couple can use coercion as much as they want and it will not affect the finalization of any adoption. This is totally wrong and unethical. Please send an email to Nebraska senators and demand that this does not happen! I've proposed that at the very least there is counseling for a mother and that she is told that most adoptions do not and will not include her in any way. Promises are almost always broken and she should be prepared for that possibility. Also any adoption papers should be signed in a court room with a judge present. I am an educated woman, but the day we signed papers it was handled so casually and things were not explained. I truly thought I was signing temporary documents. If we had been in a court room setting it would have been made clear to us and everything said would have been documented. Please don't let this happen to other people like us. Please fight for children's rights and the rights of EVERYONE involved in an adoption!! Teresa

[moandtsellers]

Have I gone mad??

I remember when I was younger. I always felt I was a single mom, raising three kids, my husband being the third. I cared for the girls, got up during the night, wiped noses, gave baths, got them enrolled in school, did the dishes and laundry, fixed the meals, worked full time, and cleaned the house. Exhausted was my middle name during those days. So when I remarried at the age of 40 I looked back on those days and thought there is no way I would have the energy to do all of that again. A baby wasn't really the plan-but it would be fun to see a child that my new hubby and I could conceive. We both have very easy going, laid back personalities and a good sense of humor. Would our child be like that? What would he look like? So the idea of seeing what we could create together and sharing in the joy of our little "mini me" was very enticing. Another couple could also share our joy by raising him and we would all be a big happy family. Well it seemed a good idea at the time. But as it turns out, when you have the right partner to raise a child with, it is sooooo much fun!! We share the responsibilities. I really hate cooking, and Monty hates cleaning. So he cooks, I clean. We take turns with diaper changes and parental duties. It just works, and it works well. I'm enjoying it so much in fact that a really big part of me wishes we could have another child together. Wait- yes you read that right, I love parenting with my perfect partner and husband so much that I would do it again in a heart beat. Perhaps a big part of me is missing the chunk of time that we missed out on with our son. The big six month time period when those little stinkers change and grow so fast. I missed his first smile, laugh, sitting up and rolling over. I know I can never get that back, but I wish I could experience that joy with my hubby. Let's not forget the fact that we make awesome babies together. Liam is very funny, easy going, cute--no---adorable, smart and happy. He loves to snuggle like mommy and talk with his hands like daddy. Must be an Irish thing.... But because I had such a hard time carrying our little bundle of joy, we decided a vasectomy was the best answer. I would go back in time and carry that little boy through the back ache, swollen ankles, inflamed gallbladder and sleepless nights if I could just do it all different. So perhaps I have gone a bit mad, but I would do it all over again and I would love to have another child with the love of my life. I won't get the chance at either, so I will just have to enjoy the time that God has given us with our precious son...and I'm ok with that.

[moandtsellers]

The price of the fight

Well it has come to this. God saw us through in our fight for our son, and I have faith He will help us now as well. We have set up a go fund me page to help us put a dent in the enormous attorney fees we’ve accumulated in our court actions to keep our son. If God lays it on your heart to help us, then we thank you. If He lays it on your heart to pray for us, then we thank you for that as well. Anything will help. God bless. gofundme.com/Thefightforliam

[moandtsellers]

God makes miracles and people create drama

I can’t thank God enough for answering our prayers!! The joy of knowing our son will forever know his true blood family is beyond amazing. Some people still don’t get it though. I’ve gotten comments like, “I hope the Sellers get the karma they deserve”. “They will have to meet their maker one day. ” and “the p. A. P’s should have won. That baby was torn from the only family he knows. ” If only they knew. They didn’t see my son turn away from B as she reached for him during her visits. They don’t see the love in his eyes as he hugs me and says “my momma.” They will only believe the one sided stories they’ve heard, and God only knows what they’ve heard. But do they ask or care about what the truth is?? Do they care what Liam’s best interest is? How would he have felt years from now if we had lost? He would have felt very betrayed by the P. A. P’s if he had found out they kept him away from the family that loves him, wanted him and fought so hard for him.

I will hold my head high and know that I did what was best for my son. I know that God was in control of the situation and seven Supreme Court judges and a District court judge all agreed that the law was not followed and our son belongs with us. I thank God so much for helping them see the truth and bringing our precious son home. I still am in awe and just amazed and ecstatic that our precious boy is home with us.

[moandtsellers]

An end to the longest road in my life

The Supreme Court of Nebraska has ruled in our favor. We will forever be blessed to be called Liam's mommy and daddy. I am so thankful and overjoyed that I can't even find the words!

[moandtsellers]

Funding

In my efforts to fight for my son and to work to get laws changed for the good of birth parents and children, I am selling candles. All money raised will be used to fight for this great cause. If you would like to help by ordering a candle please visit my website at https://www.jewelryincandles.com/store/tsellers https://www.facebook.com/jicsellers Thank you!