time & death sleep side by side

kar | they/them | 🍉🥄♾️ | I was once many things, but now I am only several.

[have-you-been-here]

Keeper of the Plains, Wichita, Kansas, USA

Have you been here?

I have been here

I have not been here

Remaining time: 4 days 18 hours

[have-you-been-here]

Kuramae shrine, Tokyo, Japan

Have you been here?

I have been here

I have not been here

Remaining time: 5 days 5 hours

[have-you-been-here]

The Bayou, Louisiana, United States

Have you been here?

I have been here

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Remaining time: 5 days 10 hours

[shithowdy]

"next time, log in faster with fingerprint/face/iris recognition!" how about i keep typing my password like i have for the past 25 years and you fuck off

[quietwingsinthesky]

we’re so lucky that gilgamesh survived and is a banger. can you imagine if we found the oldest written human story ever recorded and it sucked balls.

[sardonyxlestrange]

Some last minute birthday pictures. I’m soo not used to being in front of a legitimate camera lol, I’ve gotten used to phone cameras.

I hope the nervous awkwardness isn’t apparent in my face😬

[strawberrycamel]

we really should be calling it fanworks, not content

[strawberrycamel]

I'm here for fun and community not to rp a mega corporation's underpaid social media intern

[abomination-of-yondo-deactivate]

Hey since TERFs buried the original, higher quality recording, here’s the only surviving recording of trans activist Sylvia Rivera’s infamous “Y'all Better Quiet Down” speech, along with full transcription, now free and open on Archive.org. The transphobic fucks can try their best to scrub us from history, but we’re not going anywhere.

[gaylor-moon]

Oh wow a piece of lgbt history..

[strawberrynesquikphilosophies]

L020A Sylvia Rivera, "Y'all Better Quiet Down" Original Authorized Video by LoveTapesCollective, 1973 Gay Pride Rally NYC

(Sylvia speech (1:02-5:14) Controversial speech at June 24,1973 Gay Pride Rally at Washington Square Park NYC . Sylvia Rivera was introduced

since OP link is dead

[goodfriendo]

new link here with transcript

Sylvia Rivera Y'all Better Quiet Down 1978 : Sylvia Rivera : Free Download, Borrow, and Streaming : Internet Archive

    [Transcript: An audio clip of Sylvia Rivera giving her speech to a crowd, who can be heard at the start before she begins her speech, sa

[anti-terf-posts]

official anti terf post

[isuggestrespecttranspeople]

Y’all Better Quiet Down, for anyone that wants it

[shirtsthatgohard]

[fionn-o-nassus]

Not gonna lie this makes me a bit irritated. Here's the real version of this photo:

Instead of a cutesie reference to film censorship it was an explicit statement of defiance of Maryland's criminalization gay sex, which was not repealed until 2002. This wasn't a guy saying "Oh they can't put what I do in the movies according to a completely voluntary industry code" he was saying "The State of Maryland wants to put me in jail for being gay and having gay sex."

It wasn't a guy being cheeky about sex in an ambiguous, cute way. It was a man stating, in no uncertain terms, that a whole state of the United States considered him a criminal for being homosexual.

[draconym]

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

[jackawful]

to this day "who is allowed to be angry" has been an incredible benchmark for teasing out who, in abusive situations with mutual accusations and DARVO happening, is being abusive and who is being abused. one of my favorite resources about this, the Creative Interventions Toolkit, phrases the question "who sets the weather?" in the relationship and I think about it so so often when I think about my own childhood. I was parentified in a way that set me up for future abusive relationships, because I had to soothe my parents' anger while not being allowed to feel angry myself. I am extremely grateful to everyone outside myself - friends, therapists, partners - who's gotten angry on my behalf about how I'm treated or let me know something I'd been excusing or blaming myself for was actually Not Okay. I guess the good news here is that it's possible to learn how to access anger again in a healthy way, it just takes support, like doing physical therapy for a muscle that didn't develop quite right.

[draconym]

I relate so strongly to this.

This is not to say that feeling anger is abusive; it's human to feel anger. But if you've ever felt like your anger was "unjustified" or were afraid to express it outwardly because you expected it to be dismissed ... ask yourself how you would react if the roles were reversed. I find that a lot of folks who were The Grown Up in a relationship with their parents hold themselves to much different standards than they hold other people.

I've seen plenty of situations that involve two or more people hurting each other and not admitting any fault because they want to protect their own egos. But. Notice when you think you're not entitled to be upset about something. When someone tells you you shouldn't be upset. There's a difference between taking your anger out on other people and just. Being allowed to feel angry.

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

I need my grocery store cashier to be 3% less socially awkward because if she keeps trying to make such direct conversation I will eventually need to come up with a better excuse for choosing her line than “I think you are a closeted baby dyke who would benefit psychologically from regularly seeing older queer people in your community” lol

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

agnostic-atheist spectrum but with flavors

an omnipotent creator being almost certainly doesn't exist but if it does, it's a supervillain

gods shouldn't exist but we keep creating them to use as weapons. and no one knows how to defuse one

gods don't exist which is a relief bc otherwise we'd be forced to hunt them down for execution

creator god exists and we owe it nothing (DEEPLY unqualified)

god/s abandoned us and it hurt at the time but in hindsight we escaped a highly toxic relationship

the universe is a pet goldfish kept in an irresponsibly small bowl by a toddler deity whose parents are considering moving up to a hamster

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

not just atheist but anti-theist. a divine being descends to earth and im in the background booing

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

god isn't real but if it was, we'd be obligated to imprison it for crimes against humanity

[systlin]

So my parents are on vacation for a couple of weeks, which means that I am going up (literally up, they live just up the hill like a block from us) once a day to look after their cats.

They have 2 cats. Both very raggedy and now elderly former feral boys, both gingers. There is not a single braincell between the pair of them.

Wash (full government name Washburn) thinks all humans are friend shaped. Sherpa (Full name Stop Climbing That Get Down From There What Are You A Sherpa) is terrified of every human on the planet except my parents.

So, whenever I go up and let myself in, I hear the scrabble of claws on the hardwood floor. Wash then runs full speed into my shins demanding attention, and Sherpa ramps off the whatever he was perched on, a wall, another wall, and scrambles up the stairs to hide under the bed upstairs. Note that he has seen me regularly for 9 years now.

My mom texted me the other day to ask 'Did u see both of them'

Me; 'Wash is clinging to my pants and refusing to let me leave and Sherpa was on top of the fridge again somehow. He's upstairs hiding now.'

Mom; 'that cat is 14 years old HOW IS HE STILL CLIMBING THE FRIDGE HE KNOWS HE IS NOT ALLOWED UP THERE. ANARCHY AS SOON AS WE LEAVE UGH'

[wizardarchetypes]

a customer was just behaving so outrageously at my job that i said, so sternly, “sir, PLEASE. have some decorum.”

???????? never in my life have i spoken to someone like that

[c0colulu]

jack frost and the Northern Lights

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

I think Bilbo is gay but he doesn’t get laid much if at all because every time he’s alone with a nice bloke who’s interested he takes the opportunity to read them some of his poetry. and if they’re appreciative he takes that as a cue to read them more. if they’re not appreciative he won’t fuck them.

[avalonjoan]

Love that you’re making it clear exactly what physical demands this job has, but could you possibly, potentially, phrase it differently?