#advice hour

[blorbocedes]

would you happen to know the thing you're supposed to do when it's late and you're somewhere in between crying and falling to your side and falling asleep but you have an assignment due at 8:30 am that you're only like a third of the way through

yeah you send an email to your professor explaining you will be submitting late. then you sleep. then you wake up and finish your paper.

if your prof is chill they'll grant you an extension, if they're not super chill you'll get a little bit deducted for the late submission. if they don't accept it at all, you'll curse their bloodline but it is only one assignment it's not enough to fail you so you'll lock that subject the rest of the semester to pass. it's not the end of the world even though it feels like it rn

(most profs in my experience are chill)

get some sleep. listen to me, sleep deprivation will have you feeling like a crazy person with no future complete bleakness. your brain is tired and needs snoozin. you've gotta take care of your mental

drink water. eat breakfast. clean your room. shower. ask help from your friends if needed - not plagiarism but like if you need ideas or just talking to another human even to vent helps. finish your assignment with a clear head. good luck you've got this im rooting for u

[reg1ment]

hmhm to make a good ship tag you have to be a lil creative unfortunately :( I've seen ppl just put it as "f/o: blank" and other ppl as quotes, but I personally like to make it little taglines abt the relationship :] like uh Al-An, "we all make mistakes" bc he made a mistake but so does everyone else and before we get "together" I teach him that ^^ that's just my personal system

oh that’s so fun !! i don’t really have that kind of thing for my f/os but i’ll think about it lol thank you comrade

[comfortcouture]

Inbox and chat open ☺️ let’s be friends! Come tell me something random, advice, vent your heart out, I’m here for it all lol

[gone-to-oregone]

I think I might have adhd, and I know I have social anxiety, but I'm not officially diagnosed with either... Everyone who knows me knows 100% that I have social anxiety, and a few years ago apparently my mom took me to get tested and I guess apparently whatever the results were it was something like too uncertain to really say? But through various parts of my life, especially recently, I've been thinking I might have adhd... (I have to split this into two asks because character limit, sorry!!)

First of all, anon, you’re totally fine splitting up your q, I get that there’s only an allotted amount of space in an ask, and it’s awful

Secondly: I as well have some mental issues that I would like to have checked out, but my mom doesn’t believe in those sorts of things. But what I would do is I would talk to your mom about how you feel, about the way your brain works and whatnot. And if she says she doesn’t understand, don’t get upset with her: try to explain it in terms that she would understand.

And I suspect that she would be willing to take you again, even if the results were “inconclusive”, because your brother was diagnosed. ADHD (I’m assuming that’s what you meant your brother was diagnosed with) is easier to spot in boys for some reason, that’s just what I’ve always heard. Maybe do a bit of research, explain to mom how you feel, and hope for the best. I do hope you get the right attention and treatment needed, sweetie 💛

[taehyungsgrowl]

Confessions / Advice Hour

LMK if you all would be interested in doing a confessions (I’m basically a priest or something smh) or advice hour like we did on here a couple months ago! It was a lot of fun.

Inbox is always open.

[hashtagloveloses]

advice hour!

my gf is here to give actual good advice bc all I do is tell you kids to drink water so have at it

[jazzymlm]

How do I know,,,, if the guy I like,, is gay,, it's a long story but he and I used to be pretty close and then we drifted apart but now I'm falling for him amd getting closer again and e v e r y o n e at our school thinks he's gay and it's basically treated as the truth and it's like yeah he's gay 100% and all his friends apparently know and stuff but I don't wanna assume and uuuuuugfghhsndksnd

personally, if you’re comfortable with it i’d just go and ask him directly if he was gay so that way there’s no way of guessing. but naturally if you’re not comfortable with that since you guys aren’t as close as you were then, try asking one of his friends now that you think would be comfortable with telling you. like you said, it’s better not to assume so try and get out there and ask for some answers and make your move my guy!

- E

[iamatinyowl]

Advice hour: How to set boundaries with a friend? And how to tell them when they cross it? I have a friend who crosses boundaries in really minor ways and it's hard to tell if he realizes beforehand or not. He says he doesn't, but I don't believe him.

Well, I’m not sure what either of your genders are, but I personally have noticed that in my friendships with cis men they LOVE to push boundaries.

Honestly, it doesn’t matter if he realizes he is crossing boundaries or not. If he realizes it then he is deliberately disrespecting you, and if he doesn’t realize it means that when you told him your boundaries he didn’t care enough to remember or acknowledge them.

Boundaries are absolutely pivotal in any relationship; platonic, professional, romantic or otherwise. Boundaries are the foundations of trust and safety. If someone who is supposed to care about you is repeatedly violating pre-established boundaries then they’re the ones at fault.

As for setting boundaries, the most important word you can use is: no. You’re allowed to say no, it’s actually so important for you to say no. If you tell someone you don’t like something and they refuse to stop doing it? You’re not being unreasonable, they’re being disrespectful and intrusive. You are allowed to defend your boundaries like a medieval castle.

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