#alovephobia

[this-is-arophobia]

I really wanna watch a movie with my fav actor in it, but the whole message of the movie is some bullshit about “(romantic) love is what makes someone human!!!!!” because it’s about a zombie becoming human again after he falls in love with a girl. Like come the fuck on

this is arophobia and anti-loveless (again with the whole love is what makes us human bullshit)

@this-is-alovephobia

[this-is-alovephobia]

I hate, hate, HATE how love keeps being conflated with morality. How terrible people "just don't have enough love in their heart", as if deplorable shit hasn't ever been done in the name of love before. But haven't you heard? That's not TRUE love, because love is the only human emotion that's entirely pure. Sure, you can derive joy from both beautiful things and cruel acts, and anger can harm the people around you or be the motor for progress and positive change, but LOVE is the specialest little emotion that only ever does ONE thing and never causes ANY harm, EVER. And how dare you NOT feel it, you monster? Don't you love your family? Your friends? Have you never seen a cloudless sky on a warm summer day? A butterfly land on a flower? Don't you know that's love too? Shit, now you're just sad and pathetic. I pity your fucked up brain.

I lost the thread somewhere. Anyway, I hate how love is put on a pedestal. Always will.

This is alovephobia and lovenormavity

[battle-for-dyke-island]

gets so fucking pissed off. Blue Toby you were so close (acknowledging that love is different, that it can change) but I think maybe loveless people exist

@this-is-alovephobia

[foolishfynnesse]

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So, on Tuesday night I ended up asking some people (most of which I knew and have been friends with for a bit, though one of them I had just met that day; they’re all from a LGBTQIA+ therapy group I attend every week) if they thought that love was a universal human experience, and they said yes, absolutely. One of them said that love is more of a choice than a feeling. I told them about how some people consider themselves loveless, and I think there was some confusion there with them. Like, this whole thing about the definition of what love is and all that. I said that some people don’t like to label their acts as ones of love or label their feelings as love. I think they understood that and were chill with it(?). I also mentioned Friendship Test (the game) and how the main character is loveless, aromantic, aplatonic, etc. And I explained how I think I may be on the aplatonic spectrum (one of them said that they hadn’t thought about there being such a thing as platonic attraction before but that it made sense) and that, while I appreciate their company and do care about them, I just like being around and talking to like-minded people and don’t really care who I’m with besides that detail. I was a little surprised at how chill they seemed about it? Made me feel kind of light on the inside. I didn’t go into how some people are noncaring tho, bc I don’t know how they would have taken that.

Though, a couple nights after that, I was out with some of the same people and one of them said that they told their partner about what I had confessed and the partner said that they wanted to give me a hug? Which is nice, I guess, bc I personally like hugs, but do they feel bad for me for some reason? Lol idek.

What I told them on Tuesday night, though, I told them after another friend left, bc that particular friend I had asked about what they thought about lovelessness the other week and they said that they didn’t understand not feeling love at all and that it’s antisocial behavior (as if being antisocial is inherently bad). They even asked me (with slight bewilderment) if I would have trouble telling them I loved them even now, after we’ve known each other and been friends for a while, and I said, “Possibly?” I think they said that my autism could be connected to my difficulty in saying “I love you” to people. So, kinda yikes😬 They also said I’m one of their best friends, which I’m not sure how to feel about. I think they’re a good friend, and I think they were open to changing their mind about the whole lovelessness thing. I just don’t know about calling them a “best friend”, bc tbh while we do hang out a lot, I don’t feel too particularly close to them?

Idk; maybe telling people I know about how I might identify as on the loveless and aplatonic spectrums is cringe bc people are much less likely to understand concepts of that nature. It was a little scary, but I do trust these people (perhaps I trust a bit too easily, but still). Again, I was surprised at how chill they were with the prospect of me being those things, but perhaps they didn’t completely get what I was trying to say? Idk.

Also, I discovered this week that I’m likely actually very depressed. It makes me wonder if that’s why I have trouble saying “I love you” to most people. Like I said in another post about this topic, there was a point when I was really depressed when I couldn’t even tell my parents I loved them. Though as of late I’ve been trying out saying just “You, too” instead of “Love you, too” to my parents when they say they love me. Still don’t know how right that feels. I just feel almost “meh” about the whole thing. But also the thought of not saying I love my parents hurts a tad. But is that because I care about them deeply and don’t want to make them sad by not saying I love them, or is it because I actually do love them? The world may never know…

[this-is-arophobia]

"(romantic) love makes us human" or any love tbh.

this is arophobia and alovephobia

@this-is-alovephobia

[this-is-arophobia]

Hi ! I recently came out to my mom as aroace. We had a very long conversation about aromantism. Because "love is like covid, you can say you don't want it, you have it anyways". And then, the "you don't have found the right person yet ". Or even "You're too young to know what you want "(I'm almost an adult). I explained better, I told her what I feel. And she kept doing the comparison between love and covid. Thank you !

this is arophobia and alovephobia (the whole 'love is like covid' comparison')

@this-is-alovephobia

[this-is-alovephobia]

the fact that people confuse 'love' with 'respect' a lot of times

"you gotta love [insert minority]" you mean respect? love is a thought and not everyone is able to feel it. respect on the other hand is an action and anyone can do it. idk why is it so hard for some people to understand that

this is alovephobia!

[this-is-alovephobia]

the idea that love is what makes us human and is the only thing in the world that matters and if u dont feel love ur evil and automatically abusive

this is alovephobia.