#lovelessspec

[battle-for-dyke-island]

you can be loveless. You can literally be loveless. It’s allowed. You aren’t, like, evil or anything. You are in fact awesome. Please accept yourself and be compassionate to yourself if you are loveless. It is not something wrong with you.

[manyminded]

however they made me, they must’ve done it wrong.

drew dandy using only the colors from the loveless + alovespec flags

[iceglobe-system]

A loveless world is impossibly vibrant. Every experience glimmering just as bright as the last. If "love is everything" , as many like to say, the inverse is just as true. A loveless life is not a single bit duller then a love filled one. Not a single cheaper then a love filled one. Not inherently worse in any way.

[our-loveless-experiences]

Being love repulsed has no moral value. Go be as loud as you want to about it!!

[foolishfynnesse]

Idea: You know how there are dating apps for asexual beings, such as A.C.E. and AceSpace? I feel like there should be a “dating”—or, rather, connecting—app for loveless and alovespec beings who desire some type of connection with others. You would be able to select what types of connections/bonds you want (e.g. romantic, sexual, platonic, familial, queerplatonic, alterous, ally, just chatting/hanging out, etc.) and display those on your profile. Also, maybe you can also choose whether you want to display your favorabilities for different types of relationships, including loving ones? There would also be the other typical stuff (what are your orientations, gender(s) (if you have one(s)/label yours), pronouns, etc.). I think there should also be options that display if you’re unsure about any of these categories, and options to display how you prefer to label your relationships. And whether you display or even enter any of these things is optional, since stuff you want to keep personal should be kept personal.

On a connecting app like this, there’d be no pressure or expectation to love the beings you connect with. You could have any kind of loveless partnership you’d like, or maybe you could love the being you connect with, but there’s no pressure for said being to love you back if they don’t. Because we’d all understand that this is explicitly a space for those who have complicated/non-normative or nonexistent relationships with love.

Of course I know this kind of thing won’t be appealing to all alovespecs and loveless beings, but I also know nothing can appeal to everyone in a community. Plus, it’s something that would appeal to me, and I can’t be the only one because if there’s one, there’s bound to be more.

[piercingcomet]

black loveless flags!!

[ID: black loveless flag! it has 11 stripes and warm colors. from top to bottom, the colors are: dark brown, brown, dark purple, grey, yellow, reddish-pink, purple, blue(ish), green, grey, and dark purple. /end ID]

[ID: black loveless spectrum/alove-spec flag. it has 7 stripes, colored: dark brown, brown, dark purple, medium purple, purple, light purple, and off-white. /end ID]

[i-suggest-lovelessness]

PRIDE MONTH

PRIDE MONTH!!!

SUGGESTION

[ID: a hand pointing towards the viewer, that's been placed on the loveless flag. /end ID]

bonus bunny

[ID: edited meme of a loafing bunny next to two bottles of ice. it's thinking "I am one loveless bunny," next to a bottle labelled "loveless ice" and "bunny alover," with the loveless flag as the plastic label. /end ID]

[lovelessrage]

Happy Pride! As always, here's your reminder: don't abandon your own. Don't abandon your own for catchy slogans, don't sacrifice others for a punchier post, don't demean others to elevate your own activism.

We're all here, and while our experiences aren't always the same, while not all of us have the same kind of difficulties or deal with the same problems, we're still all here. Anybody will tell you that you can't just declare yourself an ally - it's something you earn by having other people feel safe enough to call you one. So, even if you are aspec yourself in other ways, before you make dozens of post declaring yourself an ally to all aspec identities, ask yourself a few questions:

Am I familiar with their issues?

How can I educate myself if I'm not?

How can I reduce these issues and avoid contributing?

How can I support others through things I can't solve?

I'm a loveless aroallo, that's pretty obvious from my page, and I'm always grateful for support I see. But, asking these four questions are always going to be supremely more important than a post about how we are valid or claiming that you're an ally or just including loveless people in a dropdown list of identities. Plenty of people don't understand or know there's even loveless people OUTSIDE of aromantics! There are! Lovelessness is not one size fits all, and if you didn't know that before, I'm glad you do now. It's not exclusive to any one person, or any one experience, as with any other identity like it.

If you want to be an activist, if you want to be supportive, you must strive for it. You won't always click right away, and it might be hard to unlearn and let go of some things you thought in your heart of hearts was true. However, it is necessary. It is necessary if you want to foster community built on understanding, and not assumptions.

Pride is a celebration, and Pride is also a recognition of how far we've come. Let's keep moving forward.