You don't have to do anything, don't listen to them.
[Banner description: vibrant picture of the loveless flag with a glistening and shimmery affect. It's overlayed with white sparkles, black fence-like wires, and a white text box with a black border and red text. It has the quote: "But you have to love!!!"
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Alovephobia is: the discrimination against loveless / alove people
lovenormativity is: the societal norm and expectation that everyone experiences love and the desire to pursue loving relationships
Loveless definition: Anyone who doesn't experience, relate, or identify with the term love.
Alovespec definition: Someone whose identity falls under lovelessness or is closely related to lovelessness when placed on the breadth loving and loveless.
It can also refer to people who don't wish to further label their identity.
gets so fucking pissed off. Blue Toby you were so close (acknowledging that love is different, that it can change) but I think maybe loveless people exist
I really wanna watch a movie with my fav actor in it, but the whole message of the movie is some bullshit about “(romantic) love is what makes someone human!!!!!” because it’s about a zombie becoming human again after he falls in love with a girl. Like come the fuck on
this is arophobia and anti-loveless (again with the whole love is what makes us human bullshit)
The Crane Wives are my favorite band but oh god I hate the lyrics "And love's the only thing worth being alive for" in How to rest. I find many things worth living and none of them is love. Still love TCW tho 👍
This is because of lovenormavity and alovephobia!
(We like TCW too. UGH!! We've never listened to that song, kind of glad now.)
the fact that people confuse 'love' with 'respect' a lot of times
"you gotta love [insert minority]" you mean respect? love is a thought and not everyone is able to feel it. respect on the other hand is an action and anyone can do it. idk why is it so hard for some people to understand that
[ID: A userbox that reads, “This user hates when people try to use the existence of platonic love as an excuse to exclude aromantics”. Underneath, a conversation between two people is pictured.
The purple person, heart-eyed, says, “Love is what makes us human!”
The green person, wearing a neutral expression, asks, “What about aromantics?”
Purple answers, “They can still love their friends or whatever.”
Hello! Not an alovephobia submission. I'm creating a story where one of the core themes is the conflation of love and morality and how love is viewed as necessary. Just came here to say that your blog has provided me with a heap of inspiration :)))
the idea that love will be the thing that stops me from being suicidal. no i think more not constantly living in fear of a painful death due to politics may help more but whatever non-suis dont care to listen to us. its always something love related whether romance or pets or family or friends or whatever.
Hi ! I recently came out to my mom as aroace. We had a very long conversation about aromantism. Because "love is like covid, you can say you don't want it, you have it anyways". And then, the "you don't have found the right person yet ". Or even "You're too young to know what you want "(I'm almost an adult). I explained better, I told her what I feel. And she kept doing the comparison between love and covid. Thank you !
this is arophobia and alovephobia (the whole 'love is like covid' comparison')
Aro culture is being told "love makes the world go 'round!" and agreeing, adding on that that can mean familial and platonic love too, but then being shot down and told "no, romantic love makes the world go 'round," and that person's reason for saying that is reproduction and maintaining the world's population—something that romantic love isn't even necessary for
Hi sorry you reposted my post as alovephobic (I think I spelled that right…) and I was just curious as to how the identity works? Like I thought everyone had interests and hobbies and stuff, is that offensive to think? I’ve never heard of this before? I was trying to make a “anti-aphobic” post saying that even if people don’t “love” the way you’d expect, they still have other things, even if it’s hobbies and interests, that’s still valid, but is that not true? Asking out of curiosity and wanting to grow ^v^
okay hi! i wasn't trying to single you out or anything, but the general message of your post is something i hear a lot, that makes aspec posts (as an alove / loveless person) really isolating.
imagine how an aplatonic person (little to no platonic attraction, or desire for friends) would feel, hearing aromantics and asexuals talk about how while they don't want romance and sex, at least they want friends. that general message is something we hear a LOT. "i don't want this, but i'm still human. i want this alternative form of attachment or attraction"
it feels like someone trying to validate themselves by casting out a smaller, less accepted part of the community
i don't want [x], but i can still feel love. i am still capable of this. i'm not empty
i understand what you were trying to express. i know how impossibly frustrating it is expressing your identity, and having people assign a bunch of other assumptions about it. or in your case, negating something you do [PT: do] experience and erasing it entirely. but it's so isolating hearing people assume that there is a universal thing everyone favors and is capable of. that we, as humans (or whatever...) may not favor sex, but at least we want romance. at least we want friends. at least we value our family, at least we love, at least, at least, at least
anyway, if you do love differently, good for you. but i don't at all, and i hate being generalized
(i hope this makes sense. i kind of rambled)
also (also also!!!) i feel like i skipped half of your question. lovelessness is an aspec identity, and naturally exists on a spectrum. everyone will experience it differently
in my case, love just doesn't mean anything to me. i don't experience or want to be associated with it. i don't love my hobbies, interests, etc. i just engage with them because it's nice having something to do :)
if you'd like to hear from more loveless people, the alove community on tumblr is growing :D you can hear from us at @our-loveless-experiences, or the loveless community.
(you can also just browse the tags)
18 members, 166 posts about #loveless #aspec #love loses • Love loses
Love is about more than a romantic partner. Love is about more than your family. Love is even about more than your friends. We don’t just love people, we love animals too. We don’t just love living beings, we love our favourite items too. We love our passions and our favourite activities. We love memories, we love thoughts and beliefs. We love. We all love or care in some way, it’s just not always as obvious or simple or typical as expected.
Question: What is the greatest magic of all?
Answer: Friendship, right?
[B]: The greatest magic of all is not friendship, it's chronomancy, the ability to control and warp time. If friendship were the greatest magic, look, it's a pet peeve of mine (...)
DUNGEON MASTER BRENNAN LEE MULLIGAN ANSWERS DnD QUESTIONS (TECH SUPPORT | WIRED)
[Image Description: Six gifs of a clip showing Brennan Lee Mulligan saying: "There's a lot of stories out there where the greatest magic of all is love. Or friendship. And it's like: "Oh! Because you loved so well, it created a magic spell that protected you!" That is so cruel to everyone else in that fictional world who died. Do you get it? If your love can magically protect you, what follows from that is: "anyone who died didn't love hard enough". It's fucked up. Just think about it for two seconds, all right? You can't be doing that. The greatest magic of all is powerful magic. And you should use that magic to protect the people you love. They're not the same thing." End Image Description]
[Plain text caption: Question: What is the greatest magic of all?
Answer: Friendship, right?
[B]: The greatest magic of all is not friendship, it's chronomancy, the ability to control and warp time. If friendship were the greatest magic, look, it's a pet peeve of mine (...)
Dungeon Master Brennan Lee Mulligan answers DnD questions (Tech Support | Wired)]
