#alterhuman gender

[respirgender]

factkinic: a kingender related to ones facttype/being factkin/etc.

updated version of my old factkinic flag. the first flag contains the otherkin star, the second flag contains the factkin symbol.

colours taken from the kingender flag and this factkin flag!

(-kinic coining)

[stringsofself]

At some point we should make a post discussing some of our intricate relationships with gender.

For now however I'm just musing on how it makes it nearly impossible to explain in detail to people who aren't privy to our plurality and alterhumanity, usually we just say we're a trans man, it's simple, it's an easy to swallow pill, and enough of us are fine with he/him pronouns that it's the easiest way to navigate society at large. Maybe we'll say we're genderfluid to someone who we trust a little more, but generally, 'transmasc' is fine.

I am however, extremely interested in the gender experiences, especially complex gender experiences that other plural or alterhuman (or both) people experience, if that's something anyone who sees this is comfortable discussing or is looking for an excuse to ramble about, do know that we're all ears, lots and lots of ears.

[soporine]

; ★ FROSTFURRIC ★ ;

" a gender connected to having frost in your fur ; it carries themes of winter , the forest , being a beast , and the warmth your pelt brings to combat the bitter cold . intended for nonhumans , but anyone can use this label ! "

requested by n/a ★ coined by me

[grim-maul-kin]

if there’s already a term out there with this name and/or description, please let me know, but since I can’t find one, I’m coining

Myceligender

a gender that is mycelium/that of mycelium. this can mean no particular gender or thousands of genders, or something else entirely - it depends on the user, as long as it fits the first sentence of the definition.

no flag yet, though I may get around to one eventually! I think it’d involve a lot of dull greens and browns, and a bright cyan stripe reminiscent of glowing mushrooms. maybe some off-white as well, idk yet

this was coined with my alterhumanity in mind, but anyone can use it :}

[respirgender]

factfolkbodiment - a gender which is impacted by, explained by, or otherwise connected in some way to being the embodiment of factfolk, the embodiment of being factfolk, etc.

[image ID: a flag made of five concentric swirling shapes on a dark background. the background on the left side is very dark purple, and the background on the right side is very dark indigo. each of the swirling shapes has four waves pointing clockwise. the center swirling shape is white. from the center out, excluding the center swirling shape, the colours on the left side are: blue-grey, purple, warm purple, dark purple. from the center out, excluding the center swirling shape, the colours on the right side are: blue-grey, blue, royal blue, dark indigo-blue. in the centre is a blue-grey simplified silhouette of a person standing legs apart and arms straight out. the silhouettes head has been replaced by the factfolk symbol, which is a drawing of a camera with a globe replacing the lens. end image ID.]

[stringsofself]

Small discussion of Gender and Queerness and Community in relation to Plurality and Fictionkin experiences, under a cut so I don't clog anyone's dashboard with my ramblings. extremely brief extremely passive mentions of abuse/grooming but zero detail.

We came out as trans when we were young, young enough that trans issues weren't in the spotlight, or even discussed on tumblr. I don't say that as some strange exclusionist convoluted bragging right, but because I want to snowball it into discussing the fact that we've had, not issues or struggles, but questions about our own gender for quite literally as long as we can remember.

We didn't really have words for it, what are you supposed to say in elementary school when someone asks why you want to play the Prince in the school play and not the Princess, 'I just don't feel like a Princess' would have been accurate I suppose, but we didn't have the language even for that really, 'I just want to' was probably the answer we gave.

I'm sort of lucky, one of my cultures (an indigenous north american nation) doesn't have gendered pronouns at all, that's probably part of why we enjoyed spending time with our father's side of the family so much, other reasons notwithstanding. So I didn't need to think about it passively there much.

But here's the thing, 'I just don't feel like a Princess' would have been accurate, but only accurate-ish, because here's the thing, sometimes we do, absolutely, feel like the Princess.

All of that to say we've been thinking about our gender since like, easily first grade or earlier, so we've had plenty of time to think about it.

Offline we call ourselves trans, or just 'I'm a trans man', it's simple, requires little extra explanation, and all of us are okay enough with he/him when people don't know of our plurality that it doesn't feel like anyone's being gut punched, if someone gets to know us really well, we'll say, 'I'm gender-fluid', and that's where it ends.

These days, we try not to entertain being in spaces online, servers anyway, that aren't respectful of plurality, we do so much masking in our day to day that we don't really care to in our leisure time, and we fought so, so hard to become ourselves, to find out who we are, after a period of time when who we are as a whole was being warped by abuse and grooming, it would be a waste to not be our most authentic self/selves now.

The fact of the matter is, even in queer spaces, our gender just isn't one we can really get indepth into, because it is impossible to explain without going 'well there's enough people in our skull to comfortably fill a small village, so I would describe our genders as; it depends who you're asking'.

And then it gets even more detailed, okay who are you asking, Chilchuck? Well, his gender isn't human in most ways, his society's concept of gender wasn't reliant on sex at all, his entire species is gynandrous, and gender is an extremely multifaceted fluid state of being that can change on a dime depending on a variety of factors; social standing, dominance hierarchy (and that itself isn't even how humans would fully understand it, there's no misinterpreted wolf theory here), how many assets you have, if you have children with someone else do you prefer to carry the litter or not, or do you prefer to split that task a certain percentage, or do you just want to help your family and friends raise theirs, or do you want nothing to do with them at all?

He literally doesn't even have framework to discuss it within, because 'Male, Female, Man, Woman, Nonbinary' aren't even relevant talking points for most of his species, there are exceptions of course, he absolutely knew other halflings who saw elven or tall-man genders and went 'oh yeah that's it for me', but for the most part, there's just no way for him to convey the concept to someone outside his own species, he doesn't really mind that, it's rarely relevant and he's comfortable with any pronouns.

But how do you explain that? How do you go, 'well, to understand my gender, you must first understand all these concepts that we probably can't even really explain perfectly' and Chilchuck isn't the only one, many of us, probably most of us, aren't human, and of them many of them don't really fit neatly into human understandings of gender, even like deeplore queer theory understandings of gender.

In plural spaces, it's usually pretty easy for people to understand, 'your gender is effected by who you're asking, because you are a myriad of different people', in queer spaces, it's nearly impossible to do so without just outing ourselves as plural, which we don't care to do in most spaces.

As a queer person, it can already feel very isolating just to be yourself, finding spaces that are for you can feel like a nightmare if your identity is one of the lesser known or less understood ones, I won't even get into detail about the rise of transphobia in otherwise queer friendly spaces and how all of that fits into the loneliness of the queer experience.

As someone who is Queer and Plural, those spaces shrink even further, to even begin to explain the framework of your identities, you must first explain your plurality, if you're queer and plural and fictionkin, what's left? Very few public spaces, you can use tumblr, clearly I do, but that can feel very vast and ironically almost make the loneliness issue worse.

Overall, I wish that these states of being (being Plural, past lives being passively respected even if not believed in, etc) were just the tiniest bit more accepted in mainstream spaces, because until and unless they are, we, and people like us, simply have to accept that even in extremely accepting spaces, we're probably going to have to just wholesale lie about our identities.

And furthermore, I wish there were more spaces to discuss things like this with people who are in the same situation. That whole 'My gender is complex because of my plurality, because of my kin status'

For a long time I actively ran a huge 21+ server for fictionkin and plural folks, and lately I've been feeling the itch to get it going again in earnest, because even though it was insanely hard work to run, I think people deserve the community, and because selfishly, I want to be able to go, 'here are the nuances of my experiences being alive', and to not have to first explain the entirety of my religion from square one in order for our gender to even begin to be perceived correctly.

[catboytoebeans]

Wren here! The others told me I can coin a gender for myself if I want to, so I'm gonna do that.

Dryadera: a feminine-aligned gender related to being a dryad or other nature spirit that is depicted as female. Anyone who identifies as such a being can use this.