#amatonormative

[thearoacemoon]

Romance is not mandatory to have a good plot!

Let's repeat it until society understand.

[autuboho]

Amatonormativity is an internalized cultural perception that a partnership is a default relationship and central romance.

[yellowdaffodils-76]

“That’s not how people act with just friends”

Why do you, as a queer person, want to live according to society’s strict, rigid rules about how to behave/be normal and enforce these rules on everyone else?

[nrhodact]

I don't know who needs to hear this but your oc's happy endings don't always have to be "They got married and had children :) "

They could be anything cause what people consider a "happy ending" is not always the same

Other happy endings could be

Being filthy rich

Living on a farm wiht cute goats

Being crowned a hero

Adopting a kid but not wanting to get married or be with anyone at all

[raavenb2619]

You ever think about how the concept of being "serious" in a relationship is weird and amatonormative? Being "serious" about a relationship means you're seriously considering settling down with the person-- that is, getting married and having kids with them. That's what that means, right? Doesn't that seem amatonormative? If not wanting to marry and/or have kids with someone you're dating is "not serious," it kinda implies that the relationship is meaningless and insincere. Just some thoughts.

Yeah, the standards by which we determine if a relationship is “serious” (living together, getting married, having kids) are completely arbitrary and are geared towards one particular style of relationship. It’s assumed that all long-term relationships should eventually reach some end goal, and if that’s not your goal, you’re weird for being different and for not wanting to have a “meaningful” relationship. 

There are lots of different kinds of relationships. Some of them involve living in close proximity, and some don’t. Some involve marriage, and some don’t. Some involve raising children, and some don’t. Some are long term, and some aren’t. And that’s fine. 

But assuming that a relationship is more meaningful to the people involved because it ticks some boxes that society deems important? That’s amatonormative. 

[fynplushbabeyy]

Being aromantic has been one hell of a journey, discovering the identity, questioning it, wondering if it was all just all a self-fulfilling prophecy and I was just letting myself believe that that's who I was in order to avoid my own personal issues while internally I found nothing. It was who I was and it felt so perfect. And Lord knows I hated myself so damn much for it. It was like how could I be this thing? This person. Even though it all made so much sense. I grew up friendless, I wasn't exactly a "quiet kid" per se, I mean I spoke up, spoke my mind but essentially I had no crowd, I rarely had company and I never exactly fit in anywhere. This experience allowed me to explore myself even further, before when I joined social media just as it was coming up, guys would flirt with me and I mean I would flirt back all as a game, all for some attention, I mean I was lonely, I was internally desperate to be seen and it was all a game but there was NOTHING. No sense of attachment even, I just liked that someone wanted to actually give me some attention but the whole fixation of locking myself in a relationship has never occurred in any of my relationships, even the ones where we mentally connect and it all feels like the person was God-sent. I could drawl on this forever, lol, but this was really just an appreciation post to the entire aro community out there, for the patience, the education and the love and bringing me into absolutely loving being aro!

[wish-ful-thinking513]

Found on Facebook, and I think it needs to be shared.

[id: A screenshot of a tweet from the user @ YasminYonis that says “It’s wild to me that I can marry a random man today and give him health insurance but I can’t provide sister health insurance or my grandmother. The American idea of who is family & who do we care for doesn’t make sense to me. Also, everyone should have universal healthcare.”]