#and trusting

[most-fuck-able-ff14]

Not me googling if Kai-shirr is legal because every fucking time i think i understand how age works in this game i'm told otherwise... -Mod Fisher

[quicktimeeventfull]

i think something a lot of people need to learn is that discussing one's trauma is a completely normal part of friendship, and like all other parts of friendship it can be overwhelming or stressful or exhausting. it can also be (and often is) a moment of connection and warmth. it can be something completely neutral, because for many of us trauma is a mundane part of our existence. often it is several of these at once. it is not a burden. and yes, there are people who discuss trauma in ways that aren't considerate of others but this happens with literally all aspects of friendship -- like there are people who always expect you to pick up the bill when you go out, but this doesn't mean it's wrong or even unpleasant to cover a meal if you have the capacity to do so. the act itself is neutral, and often even positive. it's complicated! relationships always are. but there is a degree of moralizing, generalization and commodification that happens regarding trauma which simply does not occur with any other social interaction.

if you want to demand people sequester discussions of their trauma to scheduled conversations then that's your prerogative. you can do whatever you like. you can choose to guard yourself against the hypothetical possibility that anyone who has experienced trauma will take advantage of you. but you need to understand that this is genuinely not the way most people behave. you cannot blame people for discussing their trauma within the normal flow of conversation because that's what the vast majority of people do. and you also need to understand that by choosing to do this you are shutting yourself out of a very basic aspect of human connection; you simply cannot have the closeness of friendship if you refuse to allow people to be close to you.

[finalwomanarchive]

what is the psych experiment that intrigues you most? I am waiting with bated breath to know. 

[rveeerie]

That feeling when you have to watch everyone else get things you've always wanted

[inkalight]

The hated Leader here again to save the day

[normonce]

I love that she did dwts as her solo because she's getting the shine for her talent that she holds back while in the group. It's also making her more confident she's literally glowing right now. She's been smiling more and hopefully Val is telling her it's ok to look after herself a bit. Hopefully dwts land her more gigs in the future. So happy for her.

We can practically see her evolving as person before our eyes, its so great. She always known she had talents. Its as if now she knows that its okay to showcase those God given talents with pride. She mentioned in one of her daytime talk interviews that shes become so much more confident in her abilities and that she can see herself continuing to do something like dwts. They jokingly said Val was rubbing off on her, but its very true. The skills have always been there but the confidence and trust in self hasn’t always been so strong. Being alone forces her to trust in herself because no one else is there to fall back on. She needed this moment especially after the year she had

[heedingcalls]

 ... i kind of want to make a more elaborate verse for mewsette for anthro!verse stuff. because i actually want to do STUFF with her but she’s such a niche muse so i know she’s not of a lot high interest .... i might end up watching gay purree again and going on a rant because i LOVE my judy garland cat. she’s BEAUTIFUL.