#anon advice

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

how do i deal with knowing that i’ll never be anyone’s first choice?

This is gonna sound ignorant and stupid, but you kind of have to be your own first choice and make peace with the fact that you can’t control how other people love or don’t love

[portgas-official]

Sabo being about your height means that you can knee him in the balls and make him shorter than you! :D

This is great advice anon

[glowettee]

Hey girly~~

I'm a writer and blogger recently navigating Tumblr. Sometimes I worry that no one will really care what I have to say, or care about my ideas. What's the best thing to focus on when I feel this way? I think I'm just looking for a little encouragement💗. I hope this makes sense!

hey sweetheart, so sorry i've been extremely inactive. finals have been draining, exhausting, and overwhelming!! i'm almost done, but i wanted to answer your question because it made me sooo freaking happy!!!

this question literally touched my heart because i've been exactly where you are!! that feeling when you pour your thoughts and creativity into your writing, hit post, and then wonder if anyone out there is actually connecting with your words? i completely understand that vulnerable feeling, bestie! 

first of all, i want to say how brave it is to create and share your writing in the first place! putting your thoughts out into the world takes so much courage, and the fact that you're doing it already shows how much passion you have. that's something to be proud of regardless of the notes or reblogs!

when those doubts creep in (and trust me, they visit all of us, even people with thousands of followers!), here are some gentle reminders and perspectives that have helped me create my blog:

1. remember why you started writing

   ✧ was it to process your own thoughts?

   ✧ to connect with others who feel the same way?

   ✧ to create something beautiful?

   ✧ to document your journey?

   returning to your original purpose can be so grounding when the external validation feels uncertain. i keep this in mind whenever i'm planning ideas, writing my posts or even when i feel unmotivated to write a bunch of words onto the tumblr word processor. this generally just helps you focus on the purpose for your blog/writing.

2. focus on quality over quantity

   ✧ one genuine connection with a reader who truly resonates with your words is worth more than hundreds of passive scrollers

   ✧ some of my favorite writers and bloggers have smaller but incredibly devoted followers

   ✧ meaningful engagement > follower count (always!!)

3. celebrate the uniqueness of your voice

   ✧ no one else has your exact perspective, experiences, or way of expressing things

   ✧ the internet doesn't need more people trying to sound like everyone else

   ✧ your specific voice is exactly what someone out there is looking for

   ✧ authenticity always shines through and attracts the right people

4. remember that growth takes time

   ✧ most "overnight successes" actually took years of consistent posting

   ✧ tumblr especially works on connections and community building

   ✧ your words might be quietly collecting in someone's bookmarks even if they haven't engaged yet

   ✧ some of my posts that got almost no notes when first published suddenly found their audience months later!

5. create for yourself first

   ✧ write what brings you joy, healing, or clarity

   ✧ if you're excited about your content, that energy will naturally attract others

   ✧ when you love what you create, external validation becomes a bonus rather than a necessity

   ✧ the posts i'm most proud of aren't always my most popular ones!

   ✧ make sure to utilize aesthetics in your post, ones you enjoy are always a bonus, and it's so fun to design your post according to whatever aesthetic/vibe

6. engage with other writers/bloggers and creators

   ✧ leave thoughtful comments on posts you love

   ✧ reblog with your own additions

   ✧ join writing challenges or community events (example: tag games)

   ✧ respond to asks and messages

   ✧ community building is a two-way street! this is my favorrrrittee part of being a girlblogger.

7. trust the timing of your journey

   ✧ some days will be quiet, others will surprise you with connection

   ✧ consistency matters more than immediate results

   ✧ your words might be exactly what someone needs to read tomorrow, or next month, or next year

i also want to remind you that even the most popular writers and bloggers have moments of doubt! it's part of the creative process to sometimes wonder if what you're making matters. but just know your perspective is inherently valuable. your experiences are worth documenting. your creative expression deserves space in this world.

when i first started my blog, i would sometimes post things that got almost no interaction. but then i'd get a single message from someone saying "this was exactly what i needed to read today" and it would remind me why i started in the first place.

keep nurturing your writer's heart, keep showing up for your creativity, and keep sharing your unique voice with the world. the right readers will find you, i promise. and in the meantime, take pride in the courage it takes to create and share in the first place!

sending you all the creative inspiration and confidence vibes!! hope this helps <3

xoxo, mindy 🤍

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[konigs-lover]

this is very helpful and sweet advice, thank you my dear <3 it is very appreciated <3 also would you nerd out about pokémon to me? i love nerds and pokémon <3 don’t apologize please <3

[askqueenmiley]

not sure if anyone still uses the tags but ummm hi ?

[rubenesque-as-fuck]

Put the date off with person #2 until after the second date with person #1. It's definitely not taking the cowards way out. Then you can talk a bit with person 2 before the second date. Then i think you'll feel better about choosing one or the other. Or at least choosing if there's enough of a potential with person 2 to try a date with him.

(And stop texting with D, said as friendly advice no judgement. Just personal experience) also hopefully this makes sense I'm high af

So I decided to message #2 back and tell them that I could *maybe* do Friday or we could push to next week. Partially also just because it's been a weird week at work (our entire computer system has basically been down for multiple days) so I've had to go back in a couple of times way later than normal and if the shenanigans continue through Friday then I won't have the spoons for a date anyway. If they say they'd prefer Friday, we'll go from there I guess. That's all assuming they even respond. If not, oh well! Still got a cute date for Sunday in any case.

And yeah you make sense, I'm just terrible at being sensible 😂 In a weird way, having D to talk to makes me feel more confident while navigating the rest of it? Not that we're even discussing my dating life all, but it's just like this reminder that this other person that I was really into thought that I was cool and pretty and worth wanting back, at least for a little while. And now even though we aren't romantically/sexually involved any more, I'm still worth talking to. Is that dumb? Probably. But I am also not claiming to not be dumb.

[cleostoohot]

hey cleo! this is not an question, but an anon’s advice.

APPLYING THE LAW IS SO EASY!

i was one of those people who used to come on tumblr consume over and over again, confuse myself, spiral and then send the same ask to multiple different blogs and then confuse myself even more when i got 10,000 different answers. all you have to do is assume you already have what you want + flip any thoughts that tell you otherwise + persist. notice how i didn’t say affirm because any way you like think as if you already have it is up to you. i used to obsess over the specific affirmations to use and i did your roe challenge 100,000 times and never manifested anything because i never persisted and only affirmed because i carried the thought that i didn’t have my desires EVERY TIME i affirmed. make the law fun and easy for you. think of the ways you’ve manifested / thought about something and had it happen in the past and that’s how you should be manifesting because that’s natural to you. manifesting is subjective. only those three rules of assuming, flipping negative thoughts and persisting are literally the only objectives and you can even twist those rules too. i affirm that negative thoughts can’t touch me and im above it and nothing has ever ruined my manifestations. the best thing anyone could do for themselves is get off of tumblr and loa media and just find YOUR way to manifest. like in the guide @itsravenbitch posted. i’d say that that guide is the ONLY thing you need to keep in mind while manifesting. incorporate self concept info manifesting your desires if that makes you feel better but you don’t NEED to. i agree with repetition and saturation ONLY if you’re prone to thinking negatively and you rarely catch yourself flipping your negative thoughts. but you don’t even have to repeat the EXACT SAME three affirmations over and over. i just do that whenever i feel like spiralling or just in a horrible mood. anyways what do you think luv?

sounds great! ty for sharing this advice !💗

[syd-s]

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Wow, thank you! 🙃

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