I HATE TSITP they ruined an amazing relationship so Jenny can rehash the memories of her own Conrad the you never looked at me like that made no sense cause she has heart eyes for him all the time more love is shown between Jelly then anyone else
YES exactly!! People act like Jeremiah was imagining things, but the truth is he’s been broken down his entire life by always being second-best. Always the “other” son. Always the one who gets overlooked while Conrad gets glorified. His pain and feelings were never taken seriously, not by his family, not by Belly (at least they try to tell us that now, even when everything they did in the show till now says otherwise, but sure that’s all in that past so for the writers that means it never happened), not by anyone.
And then on top of all of that, you get the letter. Susannah’s letter. Like seriously — imagine it: it’s supposed to be your wedding day, one of the happiest days of your life, marrying the woman you love. And instead of being allowed to just be in that moment, you get handed undeniable proof that even your own mom had a “favorite.” That she didn’t see you as the one worthy of being Belly’s forever, but Conrad. And it’s even worse because the letters got switched — so Jeremiah, by accident, is the one who has to read with his own eyes that his mom basically pictured Belly marrying Conrad.
That is so unbelievably cruel. It’s not just “oops, wrong letter” — it’s Jeremiah literally having to face, in black and white, on the biggest day of his life, that once again, he’s second to Conrad. Even in death, his mom reinforces the same wound he’s carried since childhood: Conrad always comes first.
And then people still want to drag Jeremiah? Still want to call him insecure, or say he wasn’t “enough”? No. He was more than enough. He loved Belly fully, openly, without playing games. But when you’ve been told your whole life that you’re second best — by your parents, your brother, and even the girl you love — how can that not scar you?
And that’s exactly why the “you never looked at me like that” line is the most insulting part of all. Because it’s just not true. We all saw it — Belly gave Jeremiah heart eyes constantly. She looked at him with love, with tenderness, with joy. It was right there on screen. The fact that the writers try to gaslight the audience into believing otherwise is just bad writing, plain and simple. They want to erase what they themselves showed us, just to force their “endgame.” But it makes no sense. The facts are right there in front of us.
Jeremiah wasn’t the problem. The problem is the way everyone around him — including the narrative itself — kept breaking him down, until even he couldn’t believe in the love that was right in front of him. And honestly? That makes his story one of the most heartbreaking parts of the entire series.
And the wildest thing? The writers can’t even keep their own story straight. They spent seasons building up Jelly, showing us Jeremiah’s love and Belly’s love right back, only to suddenly pretend it was never there. That’s not clever writing, that’s lazy. It’s rewriting Jenny Han’s narrative again just to rehash her Conrad obsession and force a “tragic bad boy endgame.”
But no amount of retconning can erase what we actually saw on screen: Belly loved Jeremiah, Jeremiah loved her, and for once he wasn’t second-best. Jenny just chose to throw that away.
