#anticarnal

[officeobject]

A thing I wrote today:

Remember, it's okay to not be interested in every hobby, even popular ones! Some hobbies just aren't meant for your path and place in the world, but some people will still claim that your life is empty just because you don't do their hobbies, like fishing, and yoga, and making video games, and having sex.

[sex-repulsed-culture-is]

sex repulsed culture is "when will people leave us alone and let us voice our repulsion without people whining and calling us sex negative for saying things like sex is gross, even in aspec spaces. if favorable aces can joke about the opposite that we do, why cant we joke about our thing without someone getting upset?"

- Mod Mal

[aspecpridecalendar]

Happy Pride to all sex-repulsed aspecs!

Sex-repulsed - Someone who is repulsed by the concept or act of sexual interaction. They may find sexual activity and content or discussion of such uninteresting, undesirable, uncomfortable, or generally unwanted. Commonly used among but not exclusive to acespecs. Sex-repulsed acespecs may identify as apothisexual. Sex-repulsed allosexuals may identify as inactsexual. Any sex-repulsed idividual may identify as ARCsexual or anticarnal.

Sex-repulsed should not be confused with sex-negative, a political position held by those who are hostile toward sexuality and sexual expression as a whole. Sex-repulsed individuals are distinct from this idea, as individuals who are repulsed by peronsonal sexual interaction should still be supportive of others’ sexual freedoms.

[aegoromantic-culture-is]

aegoromantic anticarnal aroace culture is feeling like you never fully fit in either aroace discussions or allo discussions. Bc you can talk about ships with allos, but then they start talking about wanting their own relationship, having crushes on the characters, or being intimately attracted to them, and you feel uncomfortable and left out. And you can talk with aroace folks about not feeling attraction/being s*x-repulsed, but then they start talking about how they hate when ppl get in relationships in media and how they want it to all just be platonic, and how shipping can get toxic/uncomfortable, and now you feel wrong and left out there too. And like, that’s all totally and completely valid, but it feels really isolating. And even aegoromantic spaces are often conflated with aegos*xual spaces, so it’s just like, “where am I supposed to go now?”  It’s just not a good feeling when there’s no community you can fully feel welcome in.

Yeah, I get this, I tend to put myself out as just aroace because nobody knows about aegoromantic/aegosexual and I don't want to explain it every time. I've already had people say to me that "aroace doesn't exist" so it gets pretty isolating when I cant talk about my favorite ships.

[tertiary-culture-archive]

Aroace anticarnal with tertiary attraction culture is describing “ace” as meaning that you don’t experience any physical attraction when people ask you what it means because you’re uncomfortable with the actual word, and internally cringing because you know there are other types of physical attraction (that you do experience) but it’s the only way to get your point across without saying the real word :/

[aroace-autie-culture-is]

What does anti carnal mean? (Genuinely asking)

Hey, so it’s basically a specific label under the ARCs*xual umbrella. I’m sorry if this seems dismissive but I’m just gonna give this link to a definition on LGBTA Wiki because I’m not comfortable with talking about it. I hope that’s okay. Just click the link and it’ll bring you to the meaning.

[officeobject]

I don't want a romantic relationship, I don't want sex, and no what I want isn't alterous or a QPR, I want whatever type of friendship that the random 30 year old office worker and I, have, but with a peer.

[officeobject]

I'm aromantic (plus asexual and repulsed by sexual things), and have Pathological Demand Avoidance, which for me means that the idea of having a crush being tied to loss of control is horrifying, I describe my ideal romantic relationship as with me being the one in charge instead of us being equal and people are quick to make assumptions, and it also means that I hate SOOOOOO MUCH, that "PDA" is not only short for, but typically KNOWN for, "public displays of affection" - AND IT'S NOT EVEN KNOWN TO BE PLATONIC! So YES I'd like to rename Pathological Demand Avoidance, ESPECIALLY so it's more known, since, well, it not being known has SEVERELY negatively impacted my life, I'd argue even more than it not being known that I have autism, but to be honest it's not like people can handle my Pathological Demand Avoidance now anyway either. Also I don't know if I have other diagnose things. But yeah, I wanna rename Pathological Demand Avoidance just for that reason, because otherwise I LIKE the name, but "persistent drive for autonomy", is a worse name in my opinion, which has the SAME initials, so I don't know what to do.