#aro-absol

[queerplatonic-headcanons]

I headcanon Tori Sping and Michael Holden from Solitaire/Heartstopper as being in a queerplatonic relationship.

I just can't see them as romantic at all, and friendship doesn't feel fully accurate, either.

I just love the idea of queerplatonic sprolden <2

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Blog's owner is aro

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@aro-absol

As usual, I could be wrong, as this is only my opinion! Feel free to correct me if I said something incorrect, and let me know if you agree or not!

[gayarograce]

Congrats on the aroversary!

How did you figure out you're aro? And how long did the questioning process take?

Thank you!

Honestly not sure if I've ever told the story of how I figured it out on this blog or not, so here goes!

Throughout most of my childhood I had just assumed I was straight, and it wasn't until about halfway through high school (so I would've been about 16) that I started to question that. I began to notice that I'd never really felt like trying to get a girlfriend. It was expected of me, sure, but I'd not felt inclined to ever try for a relationship. So I'd say that's about the start of my questioning, but I didn't put a whole lot of importance on it at the time.

Fast forward about a year and a half. I'm almost 18 and also almost done with high school. By now, I had began questioning myself again, and this time the need to try and find a label for what the hell I was was significantly stronger. I eventually settled on gay, but I wasn't entirely satisfied with that answer. It was also around that time that Jaiden Animations' coming out video was released, which introduced me to the word aromantic, which I briefly considered, but still wasn't that sure about. I wanted more information.

That summer I kept questioning my identity (I think I just labeled myself as queer during that time, while trying to figure it out more precisely). I kept checking out this "aromantic" thing and wondering if maybe that was the answer I was looking for.

And that's where I was going into university. A few weeks into classes I found out about a meeting for those who were questioning their queer identities. I decided to try going to that, but as the day approached I got more nervous. At the time I'd never opened up to anyone about how I was feeling with regards to my identity.

So, the night before, due to my nerves, I basically speedran the rest of the figuring-it-out process. I stumbled across a list of like 50 "you might be aromantic if..." statements, found that I related to most of them, and decided then that aromantic seemed to fit me pretty well.

And that night was 2 years ago.

Anyway, to answer your second question, the answer could range from a few years to a few months to basically a few hours, depending on when you want to define as the start of my aromantic questioning, as per the story.