#aroace life

[failedjovi]

This will be my future life aroace: Me and my pets

[kirkenovak]

Being aroace and in the fandom can give you so much psychic damage every time you glance at your dash.

Literally sat down on my bed and cried a bit in the morning while getting ready to work, because there’s so much casual aphobia everywhere in the fandom.

And it’s not about what I read today, it’s about what I read today and what I read yesterday and what I read the day before, and my best friend begging me to go out with a guy on a date because I may like it, or my other friend getting giddy about me possibly needing a brain surgery and getting a cyst removed because maybe it will fix me, or my mother saying being aroace is like being castrated.

I’m tired. And cranky. I’m at a combination tired and cranky brunch.

[brasskingfisher]

Queer awakening

A thing I saw recently reminded why it's important for aroace identities to be represented and should, no, HAVE to be included in the LGBTQ+ community. A recurring feature of aroace discourse is basically how aroaces realised they were aroace after discovering aromatism and or asexuality and thinking "You mean there's other people like me‽" Or "There's a word for that‽"

Aspec identities go deeper than just not being interested in sex, or not enjoying sex. It's like there's something missing from yourself, or you don't feel like you fit in with the rest of society, but when you find out that you're not alone, things make a lot more sense, and why you can't relate to your peers.

Just because we can pass as straight, or don't experience any same sex attraction doesn't mean we don't face discrimination, or that we should be excluded from LGBTQ spaces. The lack of representation and visibility in the media is part of what makes us queer. We don't fit into the heteronormative binary society presents, we feel isolated and get told exactly the same things other queer people do; that it's just a phase, that there's something wrong with us, that it's unnatural. Being queer is more than having a history of oppression or personally suffering abuse because of your sexuality or gender identity.

[lieutenantdru]

The queerplatonic urge to hug your partner on the train ride home. Send tweet.

[thephoenixandthecrocodile]

The closest I’ll ever get to an orgasm is by eating really fucking amazing hummus and/or baba ghanoush

[acelor-acetaylorswift]

I never realized...that...in Shake it Off...Taylor laughs after she says, "I go on too many dates"...almost as if... it's......a joke

[mitkitty]

Honestly, I was always confused about my sexuality for a long time (I thought I was lesbian since I had no interest in men and enjoyed looking at and understanding women more,) but when I finally learned that asexuality was a thing, it made perfect sense to me...although I did get a lot of grief at school and home, calling me an ‘alien’ and ‘freak’ and told that’s not how it works (my my stepdad, who tries to claim he knows more than me about science when he knows jack shit about terms and definitions and pretty much everything.) My mom was pretty accepting though, I think she already knew and wasn’t really expecting grandkids from me. 

Although I didn’t learn until a year or two ago what Aromanticism was, I pretty much knew I was that since elementary when I tried to have a crush and found it more annoying than anything else. I was pretty happy being aro my entire life, still am. Romance seems far too complicated and stressful to be worth my time, you know? I enjoy writing it, but I would never want to live it.