Before we work through it on a line-by-line basis, it is important to note the key context that OP gives us in the final paragraph: this post is about trans men discussing their experiences with transphobia.
As OP suggests, let's insert the adjective "trans" before "man" where particularly relevant, to make it clearer for everyone involved.
It's also important to note that the first paragraph is intended as satire. OP is not genuinely asking these questions. Now then:
"I think [trans] men aren't talked about enough." Trans men often struggle with invisibility, the way trans women often struggle with hypervisibility. Both of these things fucking suck. Trans men have the right to speak about their oppression.
"[Trans] men should be treated with more respect." Yeah, they should! All trans people should be treated with respect. No person should be invalidated or harassed on the basis of their gender.
"You shouldn't say you hate men." This is true! You really shouldn't say you hate anyone on the basis of their gender, as it generates an us-vs-them mentality and is generally detrimental to forming community. Hating anyone on the basis of their gender is generally shitty and bad for trans people.
"If you kissed a man you'd stop being such a feminist." I'm not sure any trans guy is saying this. If they are, they're being a fucking prat, that's very misogynistic. But again, there isn't some massive trend of trans guys saying this. Who is saying this?
"[Trans] men are victims of your discomfort." Yeah, there's a lot of anti-masculinity sentiment within the queer community and within feminist circles that directly harms trans men (and other people perceived as being too masculine, but I'm a trans guy so I'm speaking from my experience), excludes us from conversations that we should be involved in, and makes us feel unsafe in spaces that are supposed to be safe for us.
"[Trans] men deserve to be accommodated in women's spaces." If your "women's space" is something like a sexual health clinic, a discussion group focused on abortion rights, etc, then yes! Because trans men are actively affected and involved in these things, they deserve a place at the table.
"If you don't center men in your feminism, what's the point?" Again, not a sentiment I've seen expressed by trans guys! What I have seen expressed is the fact that feminism isn't about women > men, it's about fighting for gender equality, which is true, and not the same thing as "centering men". Feminism is about fighting against the patriarchy, not against men as a gender. You should definitely include men in feminism. Some men, especially trans guys, are directly impacted by the stuff you're fighting against.
"Why don't we have a word for [trans] men's issues?" This seems to be a misrepresented reference to trans men coining terms for the specific intersection of oppression they face, and then getting annoyed that people are too focused nitpicking the words we use that they refuse to listen to us talk about the oppression we face.
"Why can't [trans] men use slurs for women?" Again, bad faith satire. Where are you hearing this? Nobody should be calling anyone slurs, that's an asshole move from anyone. I have no clue what the specific reference here is. Do you think trans men shouldn't be able to say bitch, the way women can? The majority of us have been called it plenty. I think we can say it.
"[Trans] men are affected by legislature against women too!" Very good! Yeah, we are! It's called bigoted politicians do not recognise us as the men we are but rather as broken or defective girls. Fun fact: some men have a uterus! And can get pregnant! And deserve access to abortions!
"Have you considered some men are actually not white?" I mean... have you? Like I'm a white guy, so it's not my place to speak on that, but it seems like a pretty valid question! Intersectionality is pretty important! [Edit: comments are doing a way better job of breaking this one down than I did, go check em out!]
"People being mean to [trans] men online is the worst form of oppression." Who is saying this?
"Why can't I draw only men when people can draw only women?" Anyone is free to draw exclusively men, or exclusively women, or exclusively fucking polar bears. Like sure, it's limiting your options and it's good to practise different bodies but art is a hobby, do what makes you happy. Some trans guys find having girl OCs dysphoric. That's fine. They don't have to. It's not misogynistic to draw men.
"Why isn't there enough yaoi?" Asking the big questions here.
And now we get to the big finale:
"These are obviously ridiculous statements on their face when asked by cis men, but if it's a trans men suddenly it becomes a progressive statement?"
And to that, all I have to say is this: have you heard of a little something called motherfucking nuance?
Trans men are men. Trans men are also trans. It's really not that fucking hard to wrap your head around.
sometimes I feel like some queer people just reinvented more binary norms to ascribe to. yk?
like. I see conversations fairly often where someone’s like “I feel this way and I say I’m (x) gender” and then there’s a whole comment section about “that experience you described isn’t (x) gender, it’s (y) gender by definition” and like. I feel like we lost the plot
the point of creating new labels isn’t actually creating new boxes to fit people in, the *point* is to make someone more comfortable. If someone’s feels like they have multiple genders at once, but they want to call themselves nonbinary instead of bigender because that's what makes them happiest, that’s the whole point of creating new labels in the first place. At its core, the queer movement is supposed to encompass do what makes you feel good. So, do what makes you feel good.
I feel like a lot of people are acting on the ideology of queerness without actually realizing the idea in your brain that being queer is about finding self expression that fulfills you. When you don’t, it comes out hollow, and it affects your activism. Queer labels aren’t rigid barriers, and you don’t have a right to say anyone else can or cannot identify with literally anything they want. The whole point is that, to exist as a human is nonlinear and nebulous, and queerness as an ideology is based around allowing for expression of a diverse, nuanced experience.
This one is for the youths and straights who never really had to think about this stuff.
Same sex marriage was not federally legal in all 50 US states until 2015.
Many states still challenged it though, so we had to have the Respect for Marriage Act in 2022.
Then in 2025, the creature known as Kim Davis tried to go to the Supreme Court to have it overturned.
In 2017, US and Russian relations were the lowest they’d been since the Cold War. US imposed sanctions on Russia and in response Russia drastically reduced US diplomatic staff and seized US diplomatic properties.
While Canada also had its issues with Russia, it also legalized same sex marriage in 2005.
Shane and Ilya met in 2008 and became a couple in 2017.
In what fucking world does it make sense for Shane to become American instead of Ilya going to Canada????
Straight men “testing” themselves by watching heated rivalry to see if they have any reaction is so funny to me bc I’m an asexual lesbian and I’ve never been so flustered watching a show in my life. I do not want men. I do want to see men who want men.
babes, a central premise of the show is that these men are afraid to care about each other in large part because there are very real consequences for doing so in the homophobic environment that's central to their lives and livelihood. we call that structural homophobia and it's not less real than ilya's brother calling him a faggot.
