#aromantic man

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Why does sexuality have to be so goddamn complicated

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Making it separate so people actually see it

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reminder no one should ever pressure you into a partnership of any kind especially not cause of their mental health and you shouldn’t be responsible for them and their happiness and mental health it shouldn’t all be dumped on you like that and you especially shouldn’t be guilted into it or coerced and ignored when you try to gently politely back out a kind “I’m not into that” should be enough you shouldn’t have to repeat yourself or raise your voice or give a big loud no to get the point across you shouldn’t have to get aggressive or repetitive for them to back off(this is a big one especially for men don’t let a girl push you around and ignore your no. If she does this and you have to get aggressive or loud for her to listen and then she’s calling you aggressive and a scary typical man, that’s manipulation. This can happen with any gender but it’s common for it to go under the radar with men because I don’t see a lot of people talking about men getting pushed around)

you should be able to reject them and leave safely for everyone involved. And if you can’t leave without them hurting themselves or you then that’s just not a safe relationship even if they didn’t mean to make it one. You should be able to speak your mind and have boundaries without retaliation, pushback, arguments, or the other person hurting themselves or you.

Even if they don’t directly ignore you saying no or they yell or tell you you’re trapped, if you know they’ll hurt themselves if you leave or don’t agree to something then that’s not safe and if they tell you you’re the only thing keeping them alive and their only person and they refuse to make friends outside of you because they say they just can’t trust anyone not like you that’s not healthy

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idk man the whole like “friends who casually have affection/sex or hang out until the other one admits they fell in love and guilts the other about it” is my fucking nightmare. Idc if that’s a romance movie plot that’s nightmare shit to me I can’t stomach that stuff.

let me get into this for a minute. Usually with a lot of romance stuff there’s some aloof cool guy who clearly doesn’t want to fucking be there some girl falls in love with him and sometimes you get that plot above. I hate that shit. I hate that shit so so much. I’m a aromantic guy. If I tell someone I don’t date you say ok don’t worry I won’t push boundaries and we have sex or even worse just hang out and have a nice time I believe you. Because why wouldn’t I? I believe people when they tell me things. Flash forward to you saying you like me and developed a crush and now I’m the evil one because I don’t like you back and I’m so cold and calculated for not changing my entire personality and preferences and life just because some lady likes me.

on top of that! I never showed interest, I made it clear I didn’t want to date. Sure I make dick jokes every now and then but that’s not the same as flirting with someone!! And besides I made it clear!!! I don’t date!!! I don’t get crushes!!! You said ok and now you’re confessing? Your goal is now to date me? Even after I said I don’t feel that? You know I don’t like people. So what is this? the only logical thing you could want would be to force me or make me force myself. Those are the only ways this can go where you get what you want. What is the fucking point.

I’m so goddamn sick of these girls and their crushes I don’t care! I don’t need to know if you like me! You know it makes me uncomfortable why would you tell me that?? But it happens every time and every time I’m treated like some heartless badass cool guy “with a heart of gold” for what? For not showing interest? For not liking you while still being gentle about it? What the fuck? That’s not cool? That’s really unhealthy, you want to be with someone you know can’t ever love you. And you’re willing to force me and guilt me just to get that fantasy.

I’ve been coerced into so much shit at this point I’m tired man. I’m tired of being told I’m the only thing keeping someone alive and how attached they’ve gotten to me and how much they need me. This isn’t healthy. This isn’t how relationships should work. I clearly don’t want this and you clearly need to figure yourself out. so many people girls boys other, told me they’d off themselves if I left, and they needed me. and so I just sort of went along with it, because I got scared something bad would happen and I tried so hard to like them back, but you can’t force stuff like that.

I left eventually, they’re all still alive for now. I really hope it stays that way.

I just hate tropes that are like “the cool guy who doesn’t like anyone with a heart of gold that changed for me!” Because that’s just what people expect out of me now. Not only that but it makes it impossible to stomach media now because those were the same excuses and tropes I was fed while I was guilted and coerced. I’m not a trope man this isn’t an erotica. I’m not your Edward Cullen or Aaron Lycan or whoever the fuck. Some guy not wanting you to die or be bullied doesn’t make him boyfriend material, just because I have like basic human decency doesn’t mean I want you or that you can “convince” me and “fix” me that’s fucked up. You need to go and get higher standards and then find someone who’s actually into you AND healthy about it. Go! Shoo!

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ohhh i need a shower but im too tired to shower i need someone handsome to come help me clean up i will sulk about this all the way to and through the shower and ill try to not fall asleep in there this time or fall over rip

i have one of those handle things in there but i dont know where my stool went ughh i cant find it but listen listen dude listen what if another man washed my hair i usually just like lean against the wall and try to stay standing long enough to wash off worst part is im really hairy so i get extra gross and stuff gets caked into my body hair like when im sick and stuff or it gets tangled and i have to trim it all over again and its just so much goddamn effort and energy i really need that doctor to call me back with a date for my appointment :(

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*runs up to the nearest queer man.*

Listen!! Listen to me listen not every queer is going to be a queen! Not every queer is a queen! The point of queerness is to not put people into boxes! No one should be telling you masculinity can’t be queer! No one should tell you you can’t be masculine and queer or a man and queer! Or have a dick and be queer! Or whatever else!! No one should be telling you how to be! The point of queerness is to not be told what to be! To be whatever you are!!

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I typed aromantic man on my computer frowned when it went red went to check what was up knowing how my phone corrects it to romantic man my fucking phone putting words in my mouth I fucking hate my phones autocorrect but no no this pure creature just wanted to capitalize it to Aromantic man computer sir I love you you’re right I deserve to type it with a capital letter I love you computer I don’t care how old you are I’m never throwing you away you’re everything Mr computer

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Happy pride to Aro men(THATS ME this is just self indulgent also cause people r shitty about to me about being a Aro man so) I made different versions I couldn’t decide which one I liked better

the whole meme for context