#aromantic squish

[wonder-and-wildflowers]

I think not realizing that I was aromantic until I was like 19 is kinda mental in retrospect.

Not just because of the way I used to 'assign' crushes to myself. Or would genuinely become heartbroken when very specific best friends (who I now realize were squishes) would date someone and that person would become a priority over me.

Or when I would start mourning when one of said very specific people (the squishes) would confess romantic feelings for me.

But, if for no other reason, because I have literally always treated friendship rings/ necklaces/ bracelets with a level of reverence mirrored primarily in allo's comitment to their weddings/ engagement rings.

I wear those things until they break and then become genuinely completely devastated when they do.

[searenbound]

I think I’m developing a squish on someone. What a mortifying ordeal. I don’t even know if she’s queer let alone would want the same type of relationship as me.

At the same time, this is so exciting! It’s the first time since fully acknowledging my aromantism that I’ve felt like this. How uniquely horrifically beautiful is this? Getting to experience this for the first time like I’m a nervous kid again and in a way that makes sense to me now. It’s nice in a way.

[eclipseisokaywiththiswebsite]

I just want to tell everyone who's aromantic and gets squishes instead of crushes. A squish can have the same feelings as a crush, you can get nervous and get butterflies around your squish(butterflies in your stomach aren't a crush exclusive thing, I get them when I'm around extremely steep roads for instance).

There are two differentiators from a squish and a crush. The first one is what do you want with that person. Do you want to be friends with them, or do you want to be romantically involved with them? The former is a squish, the latter is a crush. The second one is that a squish usually goes away when you've become friends with that person or best friends, or whatever level of emotional intimacy you want with that person. A crush... doesn't? Or at least doesn't until you've finally reached the level of romantic involvement you want? As an aro person I'm not super familiar with crushes, please help me here.

So those are the differences, hope this helps someone.

[jazzy-dreamer]

I know canonically if Springtrap ever met me he’d 100% think I was a freak and try to kill me but that won’t stop me from thinking otherwise

Silly serial killer bunny boy 💞 🔪

[myrandomthoughtsblog]

I have a huge squish in this girl from my class.

We barely talk but she seems so amazing, she's kind, intelligent and so pretty but I don't really know how to talk to her ugh.

This feeling is so nice

:)

[jazzy-dreamer]

So about 95% of the times I've desired a romantic relationship with someone, it turns out I actually desired a platonic friendship with them instead.