Aug 12, 2023
People act all fear-mongery about aro/ace people changing their minds, but like. If aro/ace people change their minds they can just start dating/getting down. It’s generally a much more of a complex and difficult to navigate problem for someone with sexual/romantic relationship(s) to realize they’re aro/ace and not interested anymore. Yet we don’t fear-monger about “what if you’re in a relationship and you suddenly realize you’re aro/ace and not interested anymore???? Are you sure it’s not just a phase?”
Hmmm. Hmm. Interesting what risks in identity/relationships that society views as scarier. Interesting which personal choices people in general view as worth questioning/critiquing or not.
#amatanormativity#aro#ace#aro positive#ace positive#aspec positive#arophobia#acephobia#aphobia#I have realized I was aro spec and not interested in the relationship I was in and I have realized I am Demiro and not fully aro#and want to be with someone#and let me tell you the first thing had a much less happy and more uncomfortable ending#and I felt worse about it#so like why is so much more fear of the second thing bandied about than the first thing
