Trauma and Healing in Children's Media
I love reading fantasy as much as so many others do, but I cannot be the only to notice the extreme lack of care and appreciation for the abuse, mistreatment and trauma of these characters. Especially in media meant for young adults, teens mostly. From Percy Jackson and Harry Potter to Naruto and Danny Phantom, these varying stories all showcase extreme and painful sources of abuse to their main characters often from their own families that are either completely ignored and even made fun of. Never do we see healing, or the natural results of such torment on these characters.
Here are just a few examples of the abuses I mentioned...
Percy's mom doomed her son to misery just by having him, got with an incredibly abusive man to protect her son and keep him near. He was in constant life ending danger for literally years, the center of a prophecy, constantly threatened by the gods who he was actually related to, mistreated by the demigods and forced into terrible situations over and over again. He saw kids his own age and younger die...
Harry lost his parents, was forced into an abusive home with his so called family for more than a decade. Forced into a cupboard, starved, hit and hurt, told he was worthless and his parents were too. He was forced to save the Wizards over and over despite near death experiences and being treated like garbage by all of the wizards for no reason. He was abandoned by his friends and literally died at some point. He was literally tortured and forced to see people die.
Danny was forced to act as a hero despite constant threats against his life and well being, terrible friends and parents that wanted to kill his alter ago... neglectful parents at that.
Naruto is literally all trauma, abused and neglected by all of his peers and the adults around him. He had no friends or allies, betrayed by someone he admired and nearly killed. He had a demon/timebomb in his soul and so on... his parents were killed to save him. The boy is all trauma.
In all four cases, these kids give everything to the world, altruistically over and over again... they are the center of servile behavior for those that do no deserve their love or appreciation. The people they save and help are often their biggest abusers.
There is this pervasive idea that trauma makes you stronger, it doesn't healing does. None of these characters got help, just more trauma and neglect! It is a terrible message we send our kids, that you just have to buck up and ignore the pain, sacrificing your needs for others.
The only example I can think of challenging this is in Percy Jackson where Percy and several others at least point out the abuse and call it out. Percy gets the gods to be good parents, or at least less terrible ones.
I for one look forward to the day where we get to see a story where the Main character fights for themselves and is not just the center of salvation for others... that would be a revelation, to see someone, especially a kid, being healthily selfish for once...