You cannot criticise Dylan’s actions during the domestic abuse storyline while hailing Connie a hero. She was great with Ciara during last nights episode granted but if she had done her job in the previous episode as seen above rather than blaming Ciara for the inspection then it’s a possibility that the events in last nights episode might not have happened.
Not that i’m just blaming Connie , As I said she was great in last nights episode but my point is she’s not blameless in this - nor is Dylan.
He was pushy and ignorant and made things worse but there is a reason why Doctors don’t treat family/people they care about. All reasoning goes out of the window - you’re too emotionally involved. If I was in Dylans situation I would do everything in my power to protect Ciara and it would drive me crazy knowing she might go back to him.
Just because someone out of desperation tries to control a situation where someone they love is being hurt does not make them an emotional abuser. They may be wrong and stupid but it’s not abuse. If Dylan stood by and acted calmly and rationally while the woman he loved was being abused, he would be accused of being a psychopath. He’s human and reacted badly to feeling helpless and scared for Ciara.
I’m going to try to be unbiased here and say certain scenes where people are saying Dylan is abusive can be open to interpretation, such as the one where Dylan pressed the emergency stop button in the lift. Some people clearly saw him pushing her into the lift, trapping her inside and forcing her to stay in there and listen to him. I saw a scene where Dylan wanted to talk to her in private, led her into the lift (which she walked into willingly) pressed the emergency stop button to extend the conversation (which she didn’t object to) and didn’t stop her when she had enough and pressed the button to start the lift again.
Same with the bathroom scene. Yes it was pushy but I saw him follow her in there, talk to her, offer to leave if she told him to and try and persuade him to open up to her. He did threaten to climb in there with her but that was clearly out of concern for her well being. I am 110% certain that if Ciara had said “I’m ok, leave me alone get out” He would’ve done.
I think the main thing for me that sticks out particularly in those two scenes is that Dylan was pushy yes but he respected Ciaras limits and didn’t force her to do anything she wasn’t comfortable with. He brought subjects up she didn’t want to talk about and tried to push her to admit the truth and accept help but he never physically forced her to stay somewhere or do anything.
The only time he didn’t listen to her when she told him to stop talking and leave her alone was during the counselling scene which was just after he had seen the scans of her broken bones.
They were literally on their way to a womans refuge when they crashed so I don’t know why people are saying Dylan didn’t want her to get aftercare or whatever. After the truth came out and Joel went, Dylan did everything by the book because she was safe. He was only taking her because that’s what Ciara wanted which leads me on perfectly to my next point.
People talk about Dylan treating Ciara like a pet or a child but seriously the way you dismiss every choice she makes is ridiculous. She is damaged and has been through a lot but she is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions.
From what we’ve gathered next weeks episode is going to prove that (and actually it’s likely it will also prove that Dylan respects her decisions).
She loves and trusts Dylan and that is why she opened up to him and told him the truth. Maybe their relationship isn’t the best or healthiest (what tv relationship is?) but the bottom line is they love each other and care about each other very much. THAT’S why we ship them! As someone who has been in Ciara’s position and also Dylans (sort of) with a close family member. I can tell you it’s hugely offensive to be told that i’m “romanticising abuse” and called stupid for appreciating the love story running underneath the alcohol and abuse storylines.