#be rude

[defensive-tactics]

Listen. To. Your. Instincts!!

Be. Rude!!

Say. No!!

Stop. Being. Too. Nice!!!

[wildperfectionism]

This is gonna be really long so I doubt anyone will read but I’m using this as a free form of therapy 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think I’m empty. I’m done with putting in effort, I’m done with looking for love, I’m done with trying in general. It’s all shit and not worth it if I’m being honest. Because as soon as you think that after all the bullshit you’ve been through, the universe finally sent you something worth all the pain you’ve felt...HAH! Nope it was just fucking with you.

You really thought that after being a good person, being genuine, being honest and different; the universe would reward you with something good? No no, honey baby sweetie it’ll just spit in your face and laugh at you.

Now I understand why assholes are usually the ones who break hearts, who are usually the ones that have anyone they want, they’re in control because they’re selfish. They’re shit people who treat everyone as if they don’t deserve to be breathing the same air as them. However, they get everything they want with the snap of a finger, a smirk, a hair flip or just a glare.

Having feelings is shit. Being nice is shit. Being a decent human being will never get you anything except being stepped on, taken advantage off and then thrown aside like trash. Be an asshole. Be rude, be mean, be condescending, be arrogant; any trait that you think is borderline sociopathic, channel it and make it you. It’s the only way you can survive in this world.

[humanityinahandbag]

I know there’s a whole campaign against ghosting going on and really, it’s very warranted. But I think a lot of tumblr babies (and tumblr extremists.... which is like 50% of Tumblr) don’t get what ghosting is. Because I keep seeing it explained incorrectly.

Ghosting is where you cut off or are cut off of a relationship that has been there for a long time without explanation. It’s dabilotating and confusing and can cause unlimited amounts of stress and anxiety on the person being ghosted.

Ghosting is NOT where you cut off communication to someone who makes you feel incredibly uncomfortable. That’s safety. And you don’t owe them explanation.

That guy on Tinder who wants nudes?

That dude from high school who suddenly pops up and is VERY interested in getting together and talking constantly?

That one girl who won’t stop messaging no matter what you do?

That woman who wants to date you so badly she won’t stop texting?

That man you knew years ago who’s convinced you’ll say yes to a date if he keeps asking?

Ignore the shit out of them. Don’t message them. Don’t give them the time of day. Don’t get into a situation where you feel you owe them explanation. It might be in the umbrella of ghosting. But it is in no way wrong for you to go that path.

Thinking you owe explanations because a bunch of people on Tumblr told you that ignoring people is rude is part of the reason so many girls are overwhelmingly anxious about chatting online with new people. If they’re awful. If they make you uncomfortable. If they truly push boundaries. You don’t need to spend time teaching them the correct way to behave. That’s not your job at all. You don’t have to sit them down and explain why you’re dropping off the earth. Just fucking do it.

You’re not paid to be therapists and you’re hardly life coaches. It isn’t your job to be in terrible situations just to appease an internet populuses idea of “rude”

Be rude. I’m giving you permission.

Intenet Jewish Mama OUT.

[finding-our-silver-linings]

When that one alter who doesn't like your friends for no reason keeps co-fronting and being a dick.

[takineko]

There’s nothing wrong with (flagrantly wrong behavior)

[defensive-tactics]

Predators are skilled at choosing their victims. We need to be skilled at Threat Awareness so we don't get targeted.

[defensive-tactics]

Trust your instincts. Don't trust strangers. Stop being too nice.