#being flexible

[allo-frouto]

Let me pin back your legs and listen to you beg me not to cum 😈 till I see your eyes roll back when you feel me do it anyway

That’s when my flexibility comes in handy!

[angry-healers]

You know what's fun? When you get repeatedly end up with coheal ASTs that see you're a SCH and switch to Noct anyway. I've been seeing this in hunts which is annoying but ultimately not too problematic, but it drives me insane during trials. Fuck me and my shields for daring to exist I guess. Do they do this with Diurnal and WHMs too?

Thing is, Diurnal Sect regens stack with WHM regens. So it’s never an issue in AST/WHM situations. But shield buff just makes a lot of AST think they’re just plain better than the thing that makes SCH heals unique which makes the rest of us good AST who know how to actually cooperate with the entire party including our cohealer regardless of what sect we “prefer” look bad.

-- Mod Mhi

[q-posts]

snow anyone?

Please note .. this is NEW snow, that snow from the other day, was all gone .. yesterday my driveway was clean of snow. What you see here is new from last night and ongoing at the moment. I did try to shovel a path to the street so I could see if the street itself was plowed. It isn’t. In shoveling my way to the street, just a path to walk .. I created a mound in the middle of the lane, that was…

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[maeganbobaegan]

Little Earthquakes

I’ve been noticing that Squeaks has been handling everything in stride & enjoying the fun that is offered with having two homes with parents that love her & her brother more than anything in the universe. But, sometimes, when everything isn’t just exactly the way she wants it to be, something happens. She gives up & melts into tears. It’s not when plans change or when we’re doing something & it doesn’t go as planned. It’s when she is doing something & it doesn’t go exactly the way she thought it would go in her head. Then she just stops & gives up & gets terribly sad that whatever it is that she was working on is “ruined” & she wants to start all the way over because one small part is not perfect in her eyes. 

It breaks my heart because she’s always been so happy & bubbly & excited to do anything & everything. I know that a lot of children going through divorce believe (incorrectly) that it’s their fault somehow. That if maybe they had been better -- more perfect -- then, everything would have stayed the same. I’m not certain that this is what is happening, but it feels like she’s putting a lot of pressure on herself to not make any mistakes. She’s always been confident & lets everyone know that she is an artist. So, seeing her get so upset that her art isn’t perfect & that she wants to tear it all up & start over from scratch is a new thing. 

Perfectionism is self torture at its worst. It’s relentless. It never takes a break from judging everything that you’re doing or who you are. I’ve battled with it for my lifetime & had to confront my inner perfectionist when I couldn’t deny that my marriage could not be salvaged. I carried that burden of perfectionism since before I can remember. I thought that if I was absolutely perfect & everything that I did was perfect, then it would be impossible not to love me & that everything in my life would be okay. So, I’m probably oversensitive to what Squeaks is facing right now. I don’t want to project my old feelings & mindset onto her. I just want to be aware of these blips on the radar that seem out of proportion with the landscape. Her outbursts seem to come up out of nowhere & everyone (myself, her teachers & even her fellow students) is surprised that Squeaks has gone from being positive & bubbly to suddenly sobbing & wanting to throw away her work & quit trying. 

I’ve been handling these outbursts by taking a break with her & walking around, getting fresh air & offering a hug or to sit & hold her. I let her talk & say everything that she wants to say. I calmly explain what is coming up next in the class & that we don’t want to miss it, so we should relax together so that we can go back & be a part of the rest of the class. This usually works. It gives her some distance from the project that is making her upset & then we can go back to class, focused on what’s next. Her teachers have offered that she can always take extra supplies home & make another one on her own time & pace, so that she doesn’t feel rushed. 

Meanwhile, I try to talk about how things don’t have to be a particular way & that almost everything is flexible & can be changed if needed. The important things are not the things that we’re making or working on, but our feelings & thoughts during the process. Also, it’s really important to learn when to take a break from something so that we can come back with fresh eyes & energy. We can do hard things. And we can take our time & have fun with the hard things.

[marlenlife]

602. Flexibility within Reality Or how I decided to live a day where things didn’t turn out as ‘I expected’ and prevented myself from going into an exasperation about it and instead turn it into an opportunity to develop…

[artdogobserver]

Well, that happened.

I had other plans for today. A blog post to write, for one. Then I received an unanticipated grace, a small miracle at an exactly-right moment.

It changed all my plans, and this is the extent of the blog post (slightly late). But I’ll take it. Thanks!

IMAGE: Many thanks to Bitnote’s “Serendipity Happens” page, for this image.

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[lisakunk]

Aging Breeds Patience to Deal With the Unexpected: The Unexpected Can Be Wonderful

Aging Breeds Patience to Deal With the Unexpected: The Unexpected Can Be Wonderful

  By Lisa Batten Kunkleman

  If there’s one thing my husband and I are learning from aging, it’s patience. We’ve learned to take things as they come and work around inconveniences. To adjust plans. Fretting and freaking out over life’s interruptions serves no purpose except to turn a person into unpleasant company. Our latest such event is a prime example of how things often work out better than…

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[jgibson430]

Making Memories, Slowing Down, Being Flexible

Lessons I'm learning after 3000 miles!

I’m coming up to the halfway point of my cross country trip with my family. We’re about 3100 miles into the trip and it’s been an adventure. I’ve never had to change the oil on a trip before. It wasn’t because of bad timing on my part, it was because we’ve just drive THAT many miles.

We got all the way to Carlsbad, New Mexico and finally had to use our camping gear that had been stored in a roof…

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