Apr 10, 2025
idk if it's the social anxiety or a touch of the 'tism or what but I do not understand how people know when someone is flirting with them. Like I will pretty much only get it if someone straight up tells me "I think you're hot" or something similarly direct because otherwise how do you know they're not just being friendly??
Even compliments like "oh you look really hot!" or "you look cute/handsome in that" or whatever do not come across as flirting to me because it could just be someone giving a platonic compliment? Like the implication is different from someone saying "I think you're hot/cute"
even worse if you're just chatting with someone at the bar or whatever. Idk how you're supposed to tell if they're flirting or just being friendly.
#there have been multiple occasions where my fiance is like 'babe they definitely wanted to fuck you' and I've been convinced they were just#being friendly#i also tend to assume if i catch someone looking at me it's because they're judging me or something and not because they think I'm hot#but that's another issue#basically people should be more direct with their attraction#but currently if you do that it's seen as a little socially awkward#you're supposed to be indirect about things#which is really annoying
