“In a world full of temporary things, you are a perpetual feeling.“ ~ Sanober Khan
Temporal Signus ~ To permanently bind yourself as temporary person in others lives, no matter how significant or important their relationship with you might be.
Something I’ve learned over the years, is that there are so many people in my life that no longer exist in my daily reality. From family, to friendships, even coworkers I’d see every day become a faint memory and a whisper in the wind. Everyone comes into your life for different seasons, and some will leave for different reasons. Some you’ll fall out with for good reasons, but they don’t stay. I’ve been coming to terms with that in my own life. I just recently turned twenty-five, and going full frontal lobe development mode.
I’m being more honest in accepting myself and wanting to be more vulnerable. After cutting off a relative and recently getting back in touch with them after two months — it feels odd. I don’t plan on conversing with them daily, but I also have to accept the lessons they taught me… sure there’s lots of baggage and trauma there, but it's a lesson nonetheless I had to learn to grow into the person I’m slowly blooming into. A friend I made on Tumblr in 2023 randomly ghosted me several months ago, it was surprising, but it needed to happen, given how toxic we were to each other. We were two people who were too similar and came from different walks of life. We viewed things from different perspectives and with constant arguments and ‘somewhat’ friendly debates, them ghosting me and blocking me needed to happen, and I’m ok with that… or should I say I just became “ok” with it after the initial reveal.
And as I’ve sat back this entire year, I’ve come to this realization, that maybe I’m just a temporary person in everyone’s life. Whether good or bad, I’m just not meant to stay in everyone’s life. 2026 is my year of new beginnings. Nothing is ever going to stay the same for me anymore, and while it is scary, it’s a little bit exciting.
What I’ve learned, is that people who have cut me off did it for valid reasons. I have very self-deprecating views of my self-image, and that can be a lot for people who are secure in themselves, I on the other hand, I’m just not there as of yet. I know that I can have harsh opinions on others, as well as myself, and be very blunt and matter of fact, especially when my intuition proves me right. I can be self-destructive and sabotage certain moments that may be good for me, because of fear and previous experiences. I’m not ashamed in saying that I’m definitely NOT the greatest friend, and I know I have a lot to work on, especially when it comes to reciprocity. I can be petty and not talk to you if I feel as if you never reach out to me, and that’s because I used to be so content with being a people pleaser. Nowadays, I truly couldn’t care less if I let someone down or not.
People have come into my life in different ways, and it’s always during a season of growth and character development for me. Most of them will stay, but for how long? That’s not up to me to determine. Everyone is temporary in my world unless proven otherwise, and that’s okay. Permanence isn’t forever, because we as humans don’t live forever, nothing stays forever. The truth of life is learning to let go and let things just be as they may. You can’t force connections that aren’t meant to stay forever. You can’t force people in your life to stay forever. Someone came into your life at a point when you needed them most, and then they left. That’s the beauty of temporary connections. We all grow and change from day to day, month to month, and year to year.
Don’t let the heartache and sadness that comes with someone leaving your life keep you down. If it’s a friend who moves away to another city/state, or a coworker you liked that finds a new job, be happy for them and let the memories you’ve had together remain, even if you guys don’t talk often, or slowly fade apart.
Life happens to all of us, and it has a funny way of guiding people into our lives and splitting us apart when we’ve learned certain lessons we needed to learn from them. To some, this may seem like a coping mechanism, but it’s not, that’s just the reality of being a temporary person and having temporary connections. Not everything is meant to last forever…
