hotch does not have a daddy kink god bless
dominant or character who is in charge ≠ daddy kink. it’s surface level character analysis honestly. if you factor in hotch’s feelings about his job vs his personal life and the separation he seeks to keep between them, then it only makes sense that he would actually not want a title used in place of his name.
all day, every day, he is ssa hotchner, agent hotchner, agent, hotch. thinking about that, and his want to keep the BAU and his personal life as two separate entities, why would he want to come home and be greeted with authority? would he not want to be seen as aaron, the boyfriend or husband, the lover?
he does have an inclination to be a caretaker and he does love a power exchange but it does not exceed the bounds of him, as aaron, being the one in the higher position of power. he wants to hear his name when he’s making you feel good. not anything else.
