#binary gender

[nonbinarynow]

"girl/boy is gender neutral in my vocabulary!" yeah well what if in the world it actually isn't and also I don't fucking care, stop calling me that!

[scarfflag]

Gender Novarity

The gender novarity is a group of genders that are a revised and expanded version of the sex-based male-female gender binary. They are genders based off individual sex characteristics rather than the collective grouping of these characteristics.

"Novarity" is based on "nova" meaning new star, and "arity" meaning numerical rank. A binary is a type of arity.

These are split into four categories: Gonads, Genitalia, Hormones, and Deutosex Characteristics.

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Gonadal Gender

The umbrella term for genders based off gonads is called Gonader.

Gonaders socially denote one's reproductive and parental identity. One can be any gonader regardless of one's gonadal sex. One may wish to play the the parental role associated with a gonader, or may see themselves as socially having the reproductive role even if it is not physically possible.

Physically, while it isn't possible to change one's gonads, one may wish to change the body's hormone dominance, which gonads are typically responsible for, or to remove one's gonads (angonadal).

Gonaders consist of the following:

Ovale (adj.)/ Ovin (n.): Ovary-based gonader. Ovaen identify with pregnancy in some way and to some degree. They feel a connection to their child or hypothetical child via pregnancy. An ovale parent is called an ovaer.

Sperale (adj.)/ Sperin (n.): Testes-based gonader. Speren identify with impregnation in some way and to some degree. They feel a connection to their child or hypothetical child via the impregnation of the other parent. A sperale parent is called an ferler.

Ovasperale (adj.)/ Ovasperin (n.): An individual that is both ovale and sperale. Ovasperen identify with both pregnancy and impregnation in some way and to some degree. Such an individual may feel a connection to their child or hypothetical child via both pregnancy and impregnation in some way; this may be a projection of the other parent's connection to the child. One may also identify as ovasperale due to having ovotesticular DSD.

Agonader (adj.)/ Agonadin (n.): Agonader individuals do not identify with reproduction or parenthood. It may also describe an individual that is indifferent to their reproductive role, but still desires reproduction. It may also describe someone who does not feel as though their connection to their child is related to their pregnancy or impregnation. Such an individual may or may not be interested in sterilization.

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Genital Gender:

The umbrella term for genders based off genitals is called Geniter.

Socially, geniters are responsible for one's sexual role. One can be any geniter even if one doesn't desire or receive genital surgery. Geniters can be seen as one's relationship with their genitals, and these may not always exactly align.

A transgeniter individual that is not transgenital may prefer using toys or prosthetics during sex to simulate the existence of other genitalia, or they may prefer for their genitals to be treated in a different way.

Geniters consist of the following:

Vulvale (adj.) / Vulvin (n.): Vulva-based geniter. A vulvin identifies with being penetrated or being able to be penetrated during sex, and may also prefer sitting to urinate. For those who have penises, this may involve wanting the penis to be ignored and to be penetrated instead during sex. This is not the same as being submissive or a bottom.

Phallale (adj.) / Phallin (n.): Penis-based geniter. A phallin identifies with penetrating or being able to penetrate in some way during sex, and may also prefer standing or aiming to urinate. For those who have vulvas, this may involve wanting to penetrate one's sexual partner with a toy. This is not the same as being dominant or a top.

Vuphalale (adj.) / Vuphalin (n.): Both vulvale and phallale. A vuphalin is identifies with both penetrating and receiving during sex, and may prefer both sitting and standing to urinate. This is not the same as being versatile or a switch.

Ageniter (adj.) / Agenitan (n.): Ageniter individuals do not identify with receiving nor penetrating during sex. An ageniter individual may prefer non-penetrative activities, or they may prefer not to involve their own genitalia during sex. Alternatively, an ageniter individual may be indifferent to their genitalia and how it is treated.

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Hormonal Gender

The umbrella term for genders based off hormones is called Hormoder.

The umbrella term for genders based off secondary sex characteristics is called Deuter.

Hormoders are a way to categorize deuters, as secondary sex characteristics are typically influenced by hormones. However, because secondary sex characteristics do not always conform to hormones, deuters are their own umbrella of genders that individuals may identify with instead.

Hormoders are genders that are responsible for one's cosmetic identity. Individuals with particular deuters typically wish to wear clothing that compliments their secondary sex characteristics. If one's deuters do not match their secondary sex characteristics, one may use clothing or makeup to mimic the appearance of those characteristics, or one may wear clothing that treats their body as though one has these characteristics regardless of their absence.

Hormoders consist of the following:

Estrale (adj.) / Estrin (n.): Estrogen-based hormoder. Estren typically enjoy cosmetics that exemplify breasts, fat in the hip area, minimal facial hair, and less body hair. They may wear breast-supporting garments such as bras, and may prefer to shave to maintain less body hair. They may also enjoy having a higher pitched voice, and may alter their voice for this purpose.

Testale (adj.) / Testin (n.): Androgen-based hormoder. Testen typically enjoy cosmetics that exemplify facial hair, body hair, and fat in the abdominal area. They may groom their facial hair to maintain its appearance, and may wear clothing that slims the hip area. They may also enjoy having a deep voice, and may alter their voice for this purpose.

Estorale (adj.) / Estorin (n.): Both estrale and testale. Individuals who have physically been both estrodominant and testodominant characteristically have both breasts and facial hair. Estoren may enjoy garments that exemplify the breasts, and also enjoy maintaining their facial hair. Estestoren may enjoy other types of cosmetics as well.

Ahormoder (adj.) / Ahormin (n.): Neither estrale nor testale. Ahormen are indifferent to their secondary sex characteristics and do not wear garments or use cosmetics that exemplify any of these characteristics.

Deuters

[evilhorse]

Yeah, but I think we both know binary gender is just a construct.

[xmagnet-o]

So many people don’t understand Queerness, even self identified Queer people. A lot of people have a very basic understanding of it and have no desire to explore further out of fear. The community is always evolving and people are finding new ways to express themselves because it isn’t simply black and white.

For me, my relationship with men is different than my relationship with women. My relationship with Nonbinary and Trans folks is different.

I’m attracted to women in a special way. Which is why I say I’m a woman only towards women. I will always have a connection to Womanhood and Womanism.

My attraction to men goes beyond sexuality, which means i am attracted to gay men. Even though don’t identify as a man, I am masculine and hold qualities of Manhood in a very feminine way. Im not a woman around men. Im just like another dude/bro.

The issue is that people want to put you in a binary box. That doesn’t work for me. There are gay men that will argue that I simple can’t be attracted to them or they can’t be attracted to me because I’m AFAB and don’t “look” like a man. I don’t have a penis or whatever. A penis doesn’t make a man. I can literally go out and buy a strap/dildo and fuck you just as good.

There are Cishet men who will always see me as a woman because they won’t allow themselves to explore the idea that a person can be beyond the binary.

[athousandgateaux]

These days, liberal feminism is fashionable, and so an increasing number of men and women do not hesitate to call themselves feminists, though not without stressing the stipulation, essential to them, that women must remain women and men must remain men. But what are they talking about when they talk about nature? Similarly, when a ‘man’ takes responsibility for a tiny share of the housework, people talk about it and herald it as progress in the equality of the sexes and women’s liberation. These acts of liberation make me laugh so hard that my chest quivers like a drumskin danced on by a centipede. Liberation, whether gender or sexual, cannot under any circumstances be a more equitable redistribution of violence, nor a more pop acceptance of oppression. Liberty is a tunnel that must be dug by hand. Freedom is a way out. Liberty – like the new name by which you now call me, or the vaguely hirsute face you see before you – is something that is carefully fabricated and exercised.

Paul B. Preciado, Can the Monster Speak?, pg. 28-29

[fluff-and-kura]

Hey this is not my usual post, but it’s personal and bugged me enough that I eventually got around to it

Cass Fluidflux/Cassfluidflux/Cassfluix

Description: x

Black - agender

Pinks - fluidity/fluctuation among feminine genders

Blues - fluidity/fluctuation among masculine gender

Gray - genders not masculine or feminine

Green - most to full gender connection

Yellow - most to full gender disconnection

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I decided to finally make a mix flag for cass and fluidflux since there was only a cassflux flag and for some reason cassfluid was defined with the same definition as fluid, and I for one would love some representation. I’m cassgender but it’s also a fluidflux type, and I believe that it deserves to be a singular identity as well

Idk if this actually exists already and I just missed it, and if so then congrats on an alternate flag. I for one vibe with this one :) it’s a mix of the colors from the cassflux and fluidflux flags (I wanted to incorporate some of genderfluid cause the flag is so pretty but I couldn’t oof xC) and I used the 9-stripe pride flag as a base on IbisPaint X since I couldn’t find any good tools for making custom pride flags. I have the marked stripes under the cut if you want to see which stripes I used

[foundgirlpigeon]

CW: THIS ENTIRE POST TALKS ABOUT DYSPHORIA AND HAS MENTIONS OF GENITALS (DIRECT AND/OR INDIRECT) AND POOR MENTAL HEALTH

(There's a TL;DR version for people who have trouble reading for long/ short attention spans in the bottom with a larger font)

And, this is my personal experience with dysphoria I neither speak for the people in the non-binary community nor for the people who experience dysphoria

If you don't know I identify as non-binary (agender) and it took me the longest time to realise it and here are the reasons why:

The first obviously goes to the lgbtq community being such a taboo subject in general but also a bit more in India (and I live in the national capital, it's much worse in the rural area) that I never even knew about the term gay until I was teenager much less knowing about the gender non-binary. I had been so severely under informed and now, that I look back at it, I had been experiencing dysphoria as early as when I was 10 years old. Ten. I didn't even know why I felt that way but I did feel it nonetheless. And I felt like crap. And I repressed it for years.

Secondly, and mainly, even in the community, experiencing dysphoria (if they do; a non-binary/ trans person is still their gender regardless of whether they experience dysphoria or not, I will not hear arguments against this) is largely described as the want/need of physical characteristics of the opposite sex. WHICH IS A HUGE MISCONCEPTION AND LIE.

This is a huge reason why I contemplated whether I was even experiencing dysphoria and, as a result, became severely depressed for weeks and suffered from the oh so famous imposter syndrome.

For me, dysphoria was/is about wanting androgyny. And not solely in terms of how I look or present myself like the word non-binary has been stereotyped. In terms of genitals. No one ever talks about that and it took me such a long time to figure this out. I've never wanted to have the genitals of the opposite sex. I never felt like no, I should've been born of the opposite sex, because I'd have been miserable like that as well.

And it pisses me off so, SO much

And thinking dysphoria is choosing between either "not experiencing it", i.e., you're better off with the genitals of your assigned gender at birth or wanting those of the opposite gender, it basically equated to choosing between the binary and erased my identity, my existence as a non-binary person. And I did that to myself. For years.

Dysphoria for me as a non-binary person doesn't mean either-or, it means neither. And I'm sure as hell mad that no one ever talked about it. Especially in the community. I never knew it was an option.

TL;DR: Dysphoria for me means that I have wanted neither of the genitals and the popularised version that dysphoria is only wanting to have the physical characteristics (in terms of genitals and/or physical appearance/ secondary sexual characteristics) of the opposite sex or it isn't dysphoria at all is fucking outdated and erases the identity of non-binary folks who experience / have experienced dysphoria like me.

I hope it helps those who experience/ have experienced dysphoria or are questioning their gender to know that you guys are not alone and the way you experience dysphoria is valid.

Why? Because I said so.

Others, get better and no need to stop and invalidate (yes it's still invalidating and intrusive even if "it's just a question" unless they're okay talking about it) our experience with dysphoria since it's not the "popular" version of experiences with dysphoria.

And no, this does not mean my experience with dysphoria is any more important than trans binary and trans non-binary people. Our collective struggle is very much real and equal thank you very much.

[tabitha1917]